Posts tagged “time zones

Dealing with time differences

Wendy is my best friend in IMVU

Wendy is my best friend in IMVUOne of the neat things about IMVU is the worldwide nature of it. Geography doesn’t matter very much in cyber space but the time differences can be a factor when you have dear friends from all over the world. As an example, I come from the Netherlands. Within Europe, we don’t have to deal a lot with time differences, sometimes an hour ahead or an hour back. But many of my friends on here are in America and the time differences can amount to 6, 7, 8, or even 9 hours which makes a difference.

Often I can only see my friends when I really need to go to bed or when I just wake up. Between Kait and I for example, there’s a difference of 6 hours. Fortunately she doesn’t sleep and I can often see her when I wake up. The funniest thing is when they ask how my evening or night is or they say good night when I just opened my eyes after a deep sleep (and hopefully a very nice and beautiful dreams). The good side of that is that no matter when I go on, there are almost always a number of good friends available to talk to.

With friends at a distance you may have to work harder to adjust and find common time and you should definitely write more notes. This may be just a few words to include “I Love You”, a complete story in which you write something about yourself or what you have experienced that day. Write a fun or a sexy story or just simple a poem or some poetry. Try to leave something of yourself in the message so that when you do see each other once again you’ll have some things to talk about together. Messages are timeless and will always read when the other person logs on or check their e-mails messages and are often saved. Even a short note will also show in their inbox if you’re online and will often encourage them to invite or respond.

Love knows no boundaries and one of the neat things about IMVU is the way you get to know people in other parts of the world and other cultures that you never would have been able to before. The friendships you make all add up and create an amazing network connecting and shrinking the world like never before. None of my real life friends have the friends all around the world that I do and it’s very special.

Wendy wrote this and I was looking for a picture to put with it and thought of this song. I was going to put embed a youtube video of this and then realized I had so many pictures and video clips I should probably put together a video for her. This is just a small glimpse into the fun and love we’ve shared. Thank you so much Wendy!!

Also on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpGpGfhlFuE
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Know your time commitment

The differences in time availability can be a big issue for virtual relationships. The hardest thing can be the silence or just waiting and not knowing when your partner will come on. So like everything you have to communicate about it. It’s also important to find people with similar time availability, because it’s very hard when one person has several hours every day and their partner only has a couple days per week. So make sure you’re compatible not only in the amount of time you have but the time of day that you like to come on too.