Posts tagged “threesome

Poly-Amorism in IMVU

love in imvuPoly-Amorism means loving many. In our real lives everything works better and last longer and goes smoother when you have just one great love. But wait, that’s not true either. We all have lots of relationships and people that love us and we love in real life too. Some of them are mothers and sisters and relatives, coworkers or friends from church or your neighborhood… the list goes on. The key thing that you have to realize is that since you’re not actually having physical contact the consequences and seriousness of it aren’t the same in here and that’s part of the environment here more so than real life.

This is one of the major differences though with IMVU. First of all you don’t have the physical downside of multiple relationships. In real life it creates a health hazard and puts everyone at risk not to mention pregnancy, but here that isn’t a factor. Secondly, it’s geared towards anonymity and privacy so it’s very easy to see someone privately and confidentially, and to meet sexy strangers very easily too.

Those are both some of the reasons why multiple relationships here is not bad, but that doesn’t explain exactly why it’s so good and so prevalent here either. I think the very nature of this place is that it’s ultimately not real and isn’t designed to be a lifetime situation. It’s kind of like living in match.com or going to an adult Disney World and limiting yourself to just one ride.

Unlike real life where the goal is usually to build a long term if not lifetime relationship and commitment, in here people come here for the journey or for the moment, to feel that once in a life time magical passion of new love over and over again. This is their fantasy and many people’s idea of a fantasy is not necessarily a single monogamous thing. Don’t get me wrong, some people definitely do that but given different schedules and life situations, unlike real life, monogamy seems to go against the grain of IMVU.

It’s not you, and it’s important to realize that your actions here do not translate into real life attitudes. Enjoy the magic of IMVU and enjoy the powerful passion that seems to fill this fantasy world.


The secret

Lyn girls Katy Susan and Kait togetherI was going to call this the secret to a three way relationship but its also the secret to any group situation. I think it could also be said to be one of the best approaches to all relationships in IMVU. It’s also deceptively simple.

foursome imvu girlsThe secret is to put the other people’s relationships first. I don’t mean in just some ways or when it’s convenient. You have to do it at all times and constantly up lift them and do anything and everything you can to support and help them in every action or conversation. And even then there will be significant tears and pain necessary to balance things. And like most right things its easier to do than to say.

loving on the couchIf you do this though, you’ll make an even stronger structure. You’ll have a core of people you can count on that will make you important relationships stronger. You won’t have just one person putting you first you’ll have two (or more?)

When you think about it, a relationship or marriage is essentially just a commitment to make the other person your priority. The rules may vary but that’s the common core of any marriage or relationship, along with openness and intimacy.
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The alternative ends up hurting everyone involved and pits you against the others. Even if your relationship is stronger than the other you’ll hurt the person you love pulling them apart and causing a lot of pain.


Twice as good with IMVU Twins

My IMVU Twin Lyn

my imvu roleplaying twinOne of the most amazing things about this crazy place is the degree of connection you can develop with people. And with some people this seems an almost impossibly powerful. We have been experimenting on a couple very special sets of twins and seem to have expanded dramatically the already exhausting biological connection. 

Our testing has been extremely promising and we’re ready for the first field tests.  Each twin will take the experimental drug before sexual activity. We are studying how much their twin can experience and feel when the other twin has sex.  It works best with  the twin in the room or at least nearby.  Some subjects are reported to experience 100% of the effect of their twin and so people claim that the drug heightens all feelings during sex so this looks very promising however significant additional testing is planned.  Test subjects must be prepared to have a hot imvu threesome too because it really is twice as good with twins.


How to get a 3 some

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Every guys fantasy to some degree or another is a threesome. And there are more girls here than guys so you would think this shouldn’t be too hard.  I may be wrong but I don’t think most get this very often though. So I figured I’d see if I could help.  This is for guys looking to get a threesome with two girls.

First don’t ask two girls on the middle of sex unless you know at least one or are spoken to first. They know you would want to and will say something if they’re interested in the possibility.  And don’t go to lesbian rooms to look for a threesome, that never works.

If you have a girlfriend, ask if she’s ever had a 3some and then ask her which of her friends she would most like to do it with, or who she thinks would be most likely to do it. Even if she didn’t expressly agree to it, if her friend agrees you’re most of the way there. 

Now you can just ask the friend but you’ll often have to sweet talk them a little. Send her a gift and a nice note that you’d like to talk to her. Or try making up a story about her car breaking down and the two of them ringing your doorbell late at night. Or their boat sinking and you pick them up on your yacht. Or you rescue them from a dungeon or whatever type of situation you like best and have a room for.  If you can incorporate an article of clothing and you gift that, it makes them feel even more obligated to participate. It takes more planning and effort than a regular couple but if you write a nice note and include a gift or two you’ll probably at least make a new friend. 

The other way to do this is work the other direction. Ask a girl if she would join your GF and you. You can come right out and ask that much easier than you can just ask her to have sex with you directly. But don’t do this unless you’ve talked to your GF or are really sure she’ll say yes.   Another way is to ask for a threesome for your birthday. You might start by asking your GF what her fantasy is first. Then see if you can explore that with her, which you should definitely be doing anyway.

Suggest that it might be fun to spice things up a little. Even the most conservative girls can appreciate that because it sounds like you want to improve your relationship with them which is a good thing as opposed to them not being enough for you.  I admit this takes a little more effort than just the normal encounter. But the worst that will happen is that you wind up with just one and there’s a good chance you’ll have an awesome time.

Another very easy step you can take in that direction is to simply suggest having sex in a public room. Start this by finding a sexy room that’s empty. Just have fun and you never know who will walk in. But make sure when someone comes in that you say hello to them even if you’re in the middle of sex, because otherwise they will often run right out. This will also give you a chance to ask your friend if she’s interested in having someone else, when she’s most receptive to it too.


“Lesbian Room” doesn’t mean “threesome.”

It’s funny to watch guys coming into lesbian rooms. Maybe they don’t read the descriptions. It isn’t really a pickup place for girls who want to do a threesome. I’ve known a lot of lesbians and bi girls too, and that never really happens. If a room says only family or no guys allowed, follow the rules.