This is certainly an interesting topic which you won’t read about on the forums at IMVU. I’ve written some posts about imvu sex with imvu sex tips but I’ve thought about writing something more specifically for this for a while but I admit I’ve been a little bit nervous about it because I’m not trying to make this just about sex. I have enough of that image already and I really don’t claim to be an expert at this, although everybody generally seems pretty happy in the end.
First I should say there’s no right or wrong answer or right or wrong way to do anything in this area. The important part is to be expressive. To share the intense emotions in IMVU and escalate and feel your partner pushing you and push them back! How you do it or say it isn’t as important as opening up and expressing the emotion and feeling however you want to do it.
I’ve kind of switched to capitalization more to try to express the feeling of screaming at times. I also really enjoy talking because I hear it in my head and feel it more than I do just reading it. I also think it’s important to respond and interact with your partner as much as possible. Sometimes that’s using the same words that they used or the same idea, but try to respond and be as interactive as possible.
When is an Interesting question. I have tried it all different ways and it depends on the flow of the conversation, but for me, usually I find that the best time to actually come is right after you’ve expressed it. Maybe this is getting a little too personal and giving away too much information. Anyway, I find there is usually a little bit of a quiet moment after that. Sometimes I can time it right and match the timing on the chat but usually there is a few seconds of quiet time afterwards that is a little bit easier.
It’s important to express your climax because your partner needs to know where you’re at. You don’t get the visual cues and things you see in real life so it’s hard for your partner to know whether you are close in about two or have already finished. That’s why it’s really important to be open and share what you feel. It’s always a little bit awkward to have to ask the other person, are you good?
It’s also helpful to stretch out the climax, to say it longer than just the few seconds that it might actually last because you don’t know whether they are about to or when they will, and that intense emotion is also fun to hold onto. It also encourages them if they are close and makes it very intense!
Another interesting question that could probably be it’s own post is do you fake it and when? The best way to answer this question is that sometimes I feel it emotionally more so then physically. There are times when I don’t have privacy and times when I don’t quite feel up to it or don’t quite get there and I feel like it’s better to go ahead and express it even when I didn’t physically I came here because I wanted to feel sexy again and I do feel sexy in that so it’s not faking it, it’s just feeling it rather then doing it.
IMVU certainly isn’t just about sex. It’s about relationships and sex is a part of that and should be a very strong bonding thing. So however you want to express it or show it or share it, open up and let it flow in imvu chat and enjoy it with your partner. The more you enjoy it and express it well the more they will enjoy it and enjoy sharing it with you. We all want to please our partner and to feel that they enjoyed it so however you want to do it, it’s important to let them know how much you enjoyed it and try to help them to enjoy it too.
I understand there are points where it’s hard to type sometimes. I kind of enjoy that. But can’t you at least have an intelligent conversation for a few minutes before you stop talking? And can’t you at least try to make it enjoyable for me? I actually had someone tell me they were going to stop for a while so they can jerk off. If you’re with an escort you’re paying them so to some degree you can say you don’t have to try to make it fun for them. But I’m not doing this for money, I do this because I enjoy it and want to get off with you. It takes some effort and input on your part too. You don’t have to be a romance novel writer, but you kind of have to at least try to make it enjoyable too.
There are several things you can do to make it easier to keep things going without too much typing. Use Dragon Naturally Speaking so you can just talk and let the computer type it out. Make a list of lines so you can copy and paste the when you need to. Program some macros with phrases or lines you commonly use. Or just type short one or two word lines with one finger. These are some of my secrets but I’ll tell you an even bigger one.
I talk a lot during passion, because it makes it more exciting to me. I’ve been with people who can’t speak english and we just used a couple words and moved from pose to pose a little. And one guy that gagged me and he wouldn’t let me say anything and it’s not as much fun. There’s something about saying you feel something that makes you feel it more. So if you’re trying to get by without talking much you’re missing the boat. Not to mention probably boring your partners into moving you to the bottom of their list.