Posts tagged “role playing

Dispatches from the imvu scientist on Body Language

I’ve been thinking about imvu versus other ways to talk to people online for a  while. One of many things that can make imvu special… Body Language. A lot of how we perceive and interact with the world around us depends on our bodies. In fancy social psychology terms, we have “embodied intelligence.”

bl7A lot of recent experiments have shown the importance of body language. That we use cues from someone’s posture to detect their emotion more than their face. That we can make robots feel alive by giving them body language. That talking to someone on the phone when you just have a photograph of them versus no photograph or someone elses photograph leads to a very different conversation and experience. That just adopting strong body language before an interview makes you more confident and more likely to get the job. That the size and shape and even temperature of the room you meet someone in affects how you perceive that person.I think part of what makes imvu so powerful is that even though it only does this in little ways, they make a big difference.

1) Most obviously is just the items you buy, the clothes you wear, the skin, the face. All of this conveys a lot about you. Something people don’t think about as much is the Avatar you choose, which determines how you stand, how you sit. I think all of that conveys so much, often sub-consciously, about who you are.bl2

2) The dots you click on also matter a lot. There is choice. Little things, but how close you sit, standing versus sitting, cuddling, walking, the type of cuddle, all make a difference in the conversation.

3) Emotes. I think I use emotes a lot. Like a lot alot. Maybe too much. Like  ~smiles~ ~giggles~ ~laughs~ ~shrugs~ ~sighs~. Dunno. Pay attention to your body. It does all sorts of little things when you’re not thinking about it. Type it sometimes. I think sometimes gestures say a lot. Imvu encourages this a bit by animating things when you start a line with them: (e.g. here’s a list I found over the years: tired kiss bad good flip zzz score jump leap crazy who what when how sleep yes no nod ooo clap oooh mad ii yay ok loco hm hiya ooooo ag hiya k mad bd smile :) :P grr z  hmm choke ;) wink sexy)

bl64) Mirroring. A lot of social science has shown that when two people are in sync, their body language tends to start to mirror each other. The same has been shown for words. Two people in sync with each other start using the same words, phrases, styles. There are sites that compare how similar two people’s talking patterns are, to find out how in sync they are with each other.

Those are little things. But sometimes the most important body language is the kind you do with someone else, (not just the sexy times) but just being able to sit together, to dance, to hug, to hold, to cuddle, to place your hand casually on their arm, to run your fingers through their hair, those are the most powerful moments in this little world.

RolePlaying Types, Terms & Tips but Ichiga ^//.//^

IMVU roleplaying tipsOne of the nicest parts of doing the website is meeting people. I met the cutest Japanese girl who was much more of a role player than I am. I started talking to her and she explained what I called RolePlaying Tips & Rules. I boiled down our conversation a little to try and explain some roleplaying basics in here. There are more thorough lists and articles about role playing, but I wanted to summarize a few of the basics from that conversation.

Here is the Rules and Tips of Rp! starting with Format and Genres;
T-1 (Commonly used by serious Rpers; Consits of a Descriptive paragraph)
T-2 (Secondly used for those who find T-1 too serious or Boring. Consits of few sentances).
T-3 (A Very childish way to Rp, Rare in most cases; Consits of Few Words)
And T-L/Novela (Legendary-like Format, Usually a Full blown explosion of Paragraphs).

ichiga cute pandaGenres:
Anime based (Bleach, naruto, Dbz, Etc.)
Fantasy (Vampires, demons, Etc.)
Modern/Life (Family, Clans, Etc.)
Most are mixed with Different genres

Common Terms used:
DM (Death match)
IC (In character)
OOC (Out of character; Commonly known as using the brackets to talk out of Rp)
NKZ (No kill zone)
NFZ (No fight zone)

Tips/Rules of RP:
Do not Auto-Hit (Meaning All Posts MUST have a way to Dodge or Block it)
Rp is turn-based! (Meaning you wait for the person to post after you!)
No God-modding (That means basically there is no Teleportation or BS Like that!)
Have Sense while attacking (You cannot have some big ol’ Attack the size of the sun and send it off; That’ll kill you in the process baka!)
For a Death to be legit You must have at least one witness of the Death of said character.
You cannot control someone else’s character without consent
When Rping, The skirt rule Applies; Short enough to keep companions interested, Long enough for detail. ichiga japanese costumes
When committing an Action Use – -, ~ ~ * * And so forth.
When in OOC (( {{ [[ ]] }} )) use either brackets.
When speaking in character use ” ”
Another rule of Rp, No perfect characters! They must have flaws like everyone else. All must have a type of weakness. Even a god could have a flaw..

Conclusion: Roleplaying isn’t about winning, it’s about having fun and making a great story and memories. It’s more fun and enjoyable for all if you follow these rules and use some common courtesy so everyone can enjoy it too. Thank you so much to my new friend, Ichiga!

Does pretending make it real?

kaits fairy songThis is kind of an interesting question. It actually does in some ways. Of course pretending to be a vampire doesn’t make you really a vampire. Physical things don’t change because you pretend them. The line is a lot blurrier when it comes to personal attributes.

If you pretend to be brave or timid you are actually brave or timid in here. If you pretend to be a jerk and obnoxious in here then you are actually being a jerk and obnoxious. Pretending obviously doesn’t change the physical things, but it does change the non-physical things because those are more based on your actions and behavior then anything else.

star wars in imvuI went into a room recently and some of the people were “pretending” to be obnoxious to someone. Now if you know the person pretending and they have a solid history of not being that way, one session of pretending doesn’t change your perception of them. One of the nice things about meeting new people, is that you don’t have any past baggage and you really can be whatever you want to be.

So be careful about “pretending” or role-playing negative characteristics. Sometimes role-playing something extreme or negative can be exciting but be careful and make sure you aren’t actually changing people’s perceptions of you, especially new people who don’t know you.

One last interesting thing about role playing emotions. There’s actually very little difference between playing an emotion and really feeling it. In fact you’ll probably even find that if you pretend to feel an emotion well enough and long enough, you actually DO feel it!

Made up make up sex

imvu MoonlightWanna try something fun? Pretend you just had a knock down fight with a friend and apologize profusely. Tell them you are so soo sorry and can’t wait to make it up to them. Who says you have to have an actual fight to have makeup sex?!

It takes someone good at playing. I admit that the first time I tried it the other person thought they had upset me or done something wrong. So it is helpful to suggest that you’re playing a little first. But it is fun if you get into it really feeling the intense emotions. It creates intense emotions which ultimately leads to great passion.

Another trick I learned recently is that the first message can set a great tone. Instead of Hey, or Hi How’re you doing? Try “shhhh… I don’t wanna talk about it any more” or “I can’t believe I did that, I’m sooo sorry, what can I do to make it up to you??” or “I’m sooo sooo sorry… ~she says flashing her biggest smile~”

Oh and it can be fun to start via message too. Write a message saying how could you have said I look fat in that dress or apologizing for something and promising to make it up to them as soon as you see him or her. Messages are fun to build anticipation.

Instant Message power

imvu maid outfitThe last IMVU software update included one small thing that could turn into your favorite new feature. I always thought there should be a way to say something when you invite someone, kind of like an opening line. Now messages are your opening line!

No matter where someone is, in a public room, a private chat, shopping or making a room or in create mode, as long as they’re not in Do Not Disturb, they can now see your message instantly. So a message becomes both your opening line and a more polite way to invite someone.

I think the easiest way to make something sound exciting in a note is role playing or describing an erotic or romantic scene. Take a minute and just write a sentence or three painting a vivid picture that fits a sexy outfit and room you have.

imvu cuddle with taylorYou’ve been away for three weeks and I really miss you, so I’m making you a romantic candle lit dinner to welcome you home. I decided to have fun, cooking in just an apron to get into the mood and dancing around the kitchen. But you surprised me getting home almost an hour early and caught me with my pastries down, so to speak.

You bought me more than a few drinks and we seemed to hit it off so on a whim, you slipped me your room key when you were leaving, and smiled as I tucked it into my bra. You probably figured that was the last of me you’d see but thirty minutes later as you’re flipping through the cable channels hoping for something sexy you hear the door unlock and I stagger in, even mire drink than you, in the sexiest lingerie you swear you’ve ever seen…

Startled to see anyone in the woods at this time of night, you stop short as you enter the clearing and see a slender yet surprisingly curvy fairy dancing happily in the meadow.imvu cheerleader You hear a harp playing so beautifully somewhere beyond her as she twists and twirls like a gymnast to the music, oblivious to your approach….

You feel the steam hit you as you open the door even before you hear the shower running. You walk up quietly and peek around the corner seeing me in the shower, all soapy and singing and showering…

You can do anything but its fun to do something more than just Hi, how’re you doing? Wasup? Be creative and make it fun!!!

Ally at Geisha School – Part 1

Ally's Geisha chores role play in imvu

((Ally’s account of her  first day of chores at Geisha School))

Ally wandered past the bakery snickering at her sister who had to bake a ridiculous amount of pies breads and sweets for the shop in town that day. “Sucker” she giggled as she wandered out side and down the walk. It was a bright Sunday day with a cool breeze. The recent rains had washed the home and left everything vibrant and green. It was a much better prospect than working inside covered in flour and slaving away over a huge stove. Ally strode down the lane staring at the clouds and the mountains in the distance. Life was not too bad she thought happily…and then she saw the garden. 

Weeds…weeds everywhere, like a small green army they had taken over the garden and multiplied like an invading force of green pointy soldiers. Ally stared in dismay…who had weeded last? Surely they had done a better job than this…surely it had not been ignored. She swore softly and the clamped her mouth shut. Swearing was definitely not allowed. The blonde girl looked around for a tool…and realized there was none. Great she muttered in annoyance, now she had to get on her hands and knees and pull out the weeds by hand. Like her dress wasn’t dirty enough. She glances up ruefully at the house. Okasan and Madame had such pretty dresses and clothes. They didn’t have to pull weeds and work in the garden. Some of the other girls that had gone to the lore had gotten their own kimonos made of nice silk and bright colors…Ally’s dress was brown…not brownish or brown with a subtle green back ground…just endless drab brown. Meh, she muttered putting the thoughts out of her mind.


Katy at Geisha School Part III

Katy dreams of a brighter future((More of my adventures into imvu RP. It’s neat to see that RP here doesn’t have to involve sex or killing. Geisha Part 1, Geisha Part 2))

Katy absentmindedly feeds Prancer a crab apple as she walks the empty mule cart up the road back to the castle. Prancer snorted appreciatively as he ate. What a grand name for a mule, Katy thought, smiling. The Rose has a truck for making bakery deliveries but honestly, driving that loud smelly frightful thing scared her, and what with the fuel rationing and shortages, Katy was happy to use the wagon instead. Plus Prancer was a good listener for Katy’s idle prattlings and ruminations.

Katy glanced inside the cart at the presents she had picked up in the village. Katy didn’t have any money, but she picked bunches of wild primroses on the way–Katy liked the modest yellow flowers, resilient pretty things, blooming uncowed by the cold of winter. The shopkeepers in town were happy to take the flowers in trade at least when accompanied by Katy’s coy smile, and so Katy was able to pick up a pretty red ribbon for Ally’s hair–remembering how exhausted her sister looked passed out in the kitchen. She also got a little mirror with a picture of a cherry blossom on the back for Meadow and sugar candies for all the girls of the Rose.

Knowing she may not be back in town for a while, Katy had used this opportunity to say good bye. Good bye to the wife of the dry goods keeper who always slipped her a sweet. Good bye to the rough dock workers who used to make her recoil, but now she manages to offer them polite smiles. Good bye to the children squabbling outside the village school during recess, that reminded her of her sisters at the Rose. Good bye to the cute boys who liked to hang out by the bakery who helped her unload.

Katy casually kicked a stone, watching it skitter up the windy path, taking her time on the walk home. Her gaze roamed from the lush rolling hills to the crashing waves of the sea far below. The castle had been quiet recently–absent the usual bustle of visitors and house guests–but the quiet has been good for Katy’s reflections. So much had changed so quickly. Her upside down life had just started to right itself, and for the first time Katy felt warm, embraced, safe. The thought of leaving it all behind for America scared her, and her bundled up body shivers as a cold wind sudddenly blows up through the dale. Katy pauses..ponders for a long second as the wind whips around her frail shivvery body, before finally, she begins to walk again, this time a bit faster and with more resolve. If Madame and Okasan think it is the right thing, Katy decided, she should trust to their guidance and to their care. Still, Katy is most comforted by the knowledge that Ally will be by her side.

What do you think Prancer? asks Katy as she looks into the mule’s eyes inquisitively, scratching behind his ears. Prancer simply whinnies and snorts and goes back to chewing the rest of his apple. The pair continue to plod their way home, back to the radiant warmth of the castle. Katy begins singing a little song “sur le pont d’avignon on y danse on y danse…” as she starts to skip.

Intense emotions and struggles in Geisha School Part II

Katy sitting on the bridgeThe afternoon sun sank quietly toward the rippling water as Katy sat with Okasan on the edge of the bridge. It was an unusually warm winter’s day as they gazed out quietly contemplating the dancing tree branches and the rippling waves murmuring like flapping bird feathers.

“I read your story child,” Okasan begins, eliciting a rosy red blush that Okasan would bother reading Katy’s sad scribblings, “it is unfinished.”

Nodding embarrassed, blushing badly, Katy tries to speak but words do not come. “It’s ok child, go on, you have chores to do, you can finish it later.” Bringing her hands together before her lips, and giving an awkward little bow so deep she almost tips over, Katy just barely catches her fall. “Yes Okasan, the primroses bloom with such fierce intensity this evening…” as she collects herself quickly and hurries back into the castle, carrying the sacks of flour and sugar she had acquired using the ration cards, back from town.

Walking up the long stone path, she exchanges a jape with her sis Ally busy in the garden. As Ally turns back to the trellises, Katy makes sure no one else is around and sticks her tongue out at her sister, glad she gets to be indoors, away from the icky dirt and the mud. Though she composes herself quickly, feeling the omnipresent gaze of Okasan on the back of her neck.

As Katy finally arrives into the warm embrace of the kitchen, breathlessly carrying the heavy bags, she finds that Meadow had already begun preparing the ovens and was busy slicing and sugaring the apples and berries. Katy’s pale skin glistens from the exertions and the heat of the hearth. She quickly busies herself kneading the dough, the repetitive motions lulling her into a hypnotic daze, as her mind roams and daydreams, wandering into her childhood.

Katy is amazingShe thinks about how much things have changed from her years as a gamine embassy brat, stealing into the kitchen to sneak fresh baked eclairs, or listening to saucy stories from the embassy scullery maids. Although the kitchen work is a departure from her childhood of mischief and leisure, she finds comfort in the honesty and simplicity of her labours. Her thoughts wander some more but as has happened all too often all too easily, her daydreams are drawn into darker climes, from rosy childhood days into bleak prison camp nights: preparing schnitzel for officer soirees, receiving beatings for imagined slights, and then afterwards, always afterwards, summoned for … entertainment…

The tears that dripped down her face splashing onto the floured wooden table top awaken Katy from her reverie. Meadow looks over with concern, as she finishes the last of the 43 round little loaves of dough for the oven. Meadow moves to console her, but before she can be touched, Katy runs quickly from the warm kitchen, almost knocking over a stack of dirty bowls. Running to the coldest darkest corner of the castle, dropping to the floor, curling up into a tight little ball, she soon finds herself rocking, quietly, rocking back and forth. Reminding herself to write all this down later for Madame and Okasan, but for now Katy merely sobs… weeping and remembering as she cries.

Loving Roleplay

This is a mind blowingly diverse place and there are a lot of interesting things in here that a lot of people do better than me. Cupcake Kitty is a good example. There are a lot of Kitty girls but there’s nobody better than her. She has so much personality and really seems half cat and so happy with it, so I wanted to ask her to share a little about her Kitty Roleplay. It takes some imagination to read and even more to understand but it’s a fun part of this crazy place.

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Dea reasons fer playing such a character or animal can vary as much as thea actual physical manifestations and intensity of dea play. Some peoples enjoy being able to “cut loose” into a different, or more dynamic personality (Were-creatures or Catgirls see other variations). Din some cases, pet play tis seen as a loving, quiet cuddling time where there tis nuuu need fer verbalizations and thea simple act of stroking, rubbing and holding thea other partner is satisfying or reassuring in and of itself fer those involved. Fur others, there may bea a spiritual side tuu it. Some feel closer tuu their animal totem, while others mae identify wit someting akin tuu a deeper side or part of their own psyche (Therianthropy). Fer still others, there ish thea experience of power exchange setup in a context or structure which they can accept. Clearly, adin, it depends on thea people involved and what they bring tuu it or take from itz.

cupcake kitty reading the picturesAdditionally, some cases could bea considered a type of animal transformation fantasy. They can have strong elements of exhibitionism, bea totally enjoyed in thea privacy of the home, or lie somewhere between either boundary. While not widespread, erotic human-animal roleplay is still enjoyed by a sizable number of people. However, it is still primarily identified with BDSM practice, or as being associated with furry or other alternative lifestyle activities. Live Laugh Love

Autozoophilia is sexual arousal that depends on acting out or imagining one’s self as an animal. Giggles, Dat Why Kitty ish Real Dm Kitty. Dea End. By Deadmcupcakekitty.

Is it possible to take RP too seriously?

imvu role playing

imvu role playingI really enjoy the creativity and descriptiveness of a real good T1 style role play. It can be very exciting in story or fight. But like anything I guess, there are some people that will take it too far. A long flourishing response is great when you’re doing something entertaining in a room, but I have to say in passion, real passion, you need a back and forth flow. To wait three minutes and then post a paragraph that the other person has to read carefully takes away from the real flow of emotion. Just like we speak and behave differently in a group or normal conversation than we do in bed with a partner, I think it’s important to adjust a little.

I add ~ in front of actions and ( ) around side notes in regular conversation because I think it makes it easier to read and feel, but when things switch into passion mode, I tend to lose the ~s and just let it flow in passion. I think the growing passion comes across better in more frequent shorter responses. I don’t mean to hog or control the session, I have just learned to let it flow and try to express that. I love creativity and descriptive adjectives, but I guess that part of my mind just shuts down when I am just screaming Fuck Me. ~blushing with my hand over my face~

I was with someone the other night and they made a comment about me not giving them a chance, which I like actually because so many people (yes mostly guys) tend to seem to lose their ability to type all together at that point. Anyway I tried to shut up but if I’m honestly enjoying it, oh I should just shut up here. The point is expressing yourself makes it more sexy, but don’t try to “role play” too much when you’re in the heat of the moment.

And whatever you do, never put your role play above the people that love you. PrincessRinaDhampir (who was one of my best friends even listed on the website for a long time since she was MaceDNDarkness), just did that walking away from her wife of over a year, Cyndia (ok I’ll call it what it was, dumping her wife) because of her role play. Then she had the gall to blame her wife trying to twist it and acting like it was her wife’s fault. I understand it’s natural to blame the other person to some degree but putting your role playing above the people that love and stand by you, is just wrong and make not only you but your whole Dhampir family and your vampire role play (which I usually like) look bad in my humble opinion.

Too much of a good thing, even for Imvu

JeanPaulVell there is such a thing as too extreme

JeanPaulVell there is such a thing as too extremeSome people don’t like role play (RP). I generally do and actually really like interesting and extreme imvu costumes and things. It’s taken a while to get my head around some of it but now I like to ask people what their favorite or most exciting costume is. But when I met JeanPaulVell (pictured left and right), I realized there is such a thing as too much of a good thing, even in Imvu.

I say too much of a good thing because even though I like interesting costumes and role play, if it’s so extreme that it gets in the way or makes you look stupid or crazy it makes it hard for people to believe or even listen. It felt like Role Playing gone bad.jeanpaulvell role playing out of control

Some people watch tv to much, some play nintendo too much and some go overboard and get too crazy with their costumes. It can be easy to over do things in here too. I understand that. But the best approach here as in life, is more of a balanced approach. I ended up blocking him because he was out of control and couldn’t talk much just put on more and more extreme and I realized that this is what the people that say they don’t like role playing hate. It’s so extreme it just turns people off.

The single best thing you can do to meet sexy imvu girls

how to meet sexy imvu girls

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Someone said something to me yesterday, that I didn’t think much about at the time but realized is important. I said I like RP. He said he liked Roleplay but not Roleplaying. I understood what he meant by the context, meaning that he liked to play, but not the more serious type that makes it more than playing. I think some people need to realize the difference. Serious role playing, being a demon in a family of demons or vampires or a dom or sub is very different than just playing. It involves building a whole persona and taking on that person and BUILDING a character. RolePLAY is much simpler and less involved. It’s just acting out a sexy situation.

You can’t really have sex without roleplay. You’re not doing anything physically, you’re just talking it through in your head. You don’t have to get into it or be totally committed to it. You just play along. You don’t need exotic fancy costumes or to talk like a baby or a demon to do it. You just have to paint the picture with words, describing as vividly what you’re doing at the moment, as possible.

I would take it one step further and say that if I could only learn and use just one tactic in imvu, and wanted to maximize my opportunities and the quality of my IMVU encounters, it would be to role play aka play along more. Not creating a whole character, but playing. There is a tremendous range of directions you can go as you play, but in my opinion, this is clearly the best way to get the most out of your time here. If you’re standing there trying to get something started with that hot girl, stop staring and start playing.

Instead of saying wow, you look hot, say “I try to look away but find myself glancing back repeatedly mesmerized by your charms.” Next time you go into a room, don’t just type Hello. Say, “A (tall figure/curvy girl/attractive young woman/handsome traveler) slowly enters the room, waving a friendly acknowledgement to the others.”

Don’t think of it as Role Playing, think of it as Playing along. If you want to play with someone you’ve got to play along. Out of all the things you could do to increase your imvu fun factor just learning to play along, is probably the single most important helpful thing you could do. Here’s a good example of Role PLAY, playing along which a friend and I had earlier today. It wasn’t anything brilliant, but it takes some playing to