The world of IMVU is very powerful and in my case I’m happily married with a family, and if it crossed over it would definitely hurt my real life world. Not to mention that it suddenly becomes cheating. Even just having a conversation and talking about it can make me feel like I want to and suddenly it turns from fun and games into poison. This is an amazing place. But crossing the streams would be bad…
Try to imagine all life as we know it, stopping instantaneously and every molecule in your body exploding at the speed of light! Total Protonic reversal. Okay, that’s bad. Important safety tip… Don’t cross the streams.
Holly, I love you soo much and probably would break any rule for you no matter what. That’s why it scared me so much, and why it’s so hard to go there. I may not have a great life but I probably shouldn’t mess it up. I know you can relate and really had no intention to hurt anything, but it also made me think that if push came to shove, I could make the wrong choice, because I really do love you.
Sharing is very sexy and brings a lot of intimacy. But don’t race to disclose everything too fast. The journey is the reward here. So don’t get too far ahead of your partner. Go back and forth with revelations and it’ll make you feel closer and more intimate.
Don’t ask too many questions about real life. Protect your personal information and yourself and respect other people’s privacy. Their work for example, is kind of like politics and religion. It’s OK to ask general questions about their situation or status (married or single in virtual or real life) but don’t get into too many other areas unless they invite you.
Sharing is very sexy and brings a lot of intimacy. But don’t race to disclose everything too fast. The journey is the reward here. So don’t get too far ahead of your partner. Go back and forth with revelations and it’ll make you feel closer and more intimate. Sharing too much can have the opposite effect and make the other person uncomfortable, as well as be unsafe to you.
Don’t share your whole life story with someone or ask to chat on a webcam or phone the first time you talk to someone. It makes you seem superficial and pushy. Build up a relationship with someone first and you’ll both be ready to take it to the next level or have more reason too. Just because you think she looks good on the computer isn’t enough reason to ask for a real life show. It’s very easy for someone to click away and block you when they just meet you.
Intensity can also be great and exciting but it’s also a little scary. You can’t rush to intensity quickly or it can very easily scare your partner. So sometimes just like in real life, you have to reveal things over time. Enjoy the journey and don’t rush through that new relationship stage. This is especially true for people who aren’t single in RL.
Why keep your personal information private?
While most people keep their Real Life information very private, sometimes it’s tempting to share some of that here. We become very comfortable and share a lot of emotion so it’s natural to feel extremely close to people here. But there’s a reason why Las Vegas uses the slogan, “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.” It’s because you can’t be free to really have fun in a fantasy way, if it’s going to follow you home and affect your real life. The same thing is true here in IMVU, just like in Las Vegas.
Also remember that, most murders are the result of someone very close to the victim. No matter how close you may feel to someone, and how close you may be right now, virtual relationships can be more fragile than real life relationships so there’s a good chance you will break up. And since most break ups are painful simply because you were so close and loved so deeply, if you have given too much information out a scorned partner with your real life information can cause real damage to the people and things you care about.
So share your emotions, and some general information and background to feel close. But don’t give out real last names, or anything really identifiable. This isn’t Facebook and you don’t want things you do here to be visible in the real world. You will also never regret giving out too little information, but you may very well regret giving out too much.