My son had a book to read yesterday (How Full is Your Bucket, by Tom Rath and Mary Reckmeyer, video below), that was so neat I kind of wanted to just retype the whole thing for the site. It’s not about IMVU of course but it definitely applies a lot. I guess a lot of life principles apply here. It’s just easier to see things in here sometimes.
The point of the book was that we all have a bucket that we use for our good feelings. And we are either filling each others buckets or we are emptying their bucket. We can’t fill our own buckets but we can fill other people’s buckets. If we always fill the buckets of the people around us, we will get our own bucket filled in the process. And taking something out of someone else’s bucket does NOT add it to ours.
It was cute but it made me think of here for some reason. When we start here we think its just a fun sexy game or something. But along the way as we start to connect with our avi and connect with friends we learn to let our walls down and our heart out and it almost takes on a life of its own. And the principle we kind of know for life seem to work even more clearly in this clutter free virtual world.
So even though you can do or be anything you want in imvu, you’ll probably find that being a better version of yourself is much more rewarding . I don’t mean better in terms of morals but I mean better in how you treat others. Karma definitely applies here and in the end whatever you give out is what you’ll get back.
Love everyone with all your heart. Don’t play games, just fill buckets and you’ll soon find that your own bucket is more than overflowing. One of the neat things I think I’ve learned here is to just pour out love and share easily. Sure, pixels are initially attractive, but what really makes you attractive in IMVU his your heart. As long as you keep filling buckets and sharing with the people around you will be loved and have the time of your life in imvu!
Lyn is our family name and means a lot to me. It stands for Love Your Neighbor. Taylor came up with that and I love it. It definitely fits. It’s not just physically it’s really more emotionally and about reaching out in and uplifting way.
The best way to say it is putting the others first, not just in theory but every day. If you really do that, you wind up with several people putting you first. You may not even realize how many people care until you run into trouble and suddenly you have so many people trying to help you and lift you back up!
It also requires openness and honesty. This requires some balance. You can be too blunt and too open sometimes. Though it is usually better to err on the side of openness and honesty. You can whisper and PC but keep it to a minimum. Excluding someone is very bad. Again balance is necessary.
I guess the last thing I’d add is that like marriage being part of group like this means making the group my priority. We all juggle and deal with things and its important to know that solid people that you can count on love you and have your back. These are the things that Lyn means to me! And each of the people individually mean way more than I can begin to say.
I don’t talk about religion in here because imvu isn’t about religion. It’s extremely diverse but if you don’t mind I’d like to paraphrase a famous verse of the bible that applies here. It’s 1st Corinthians chapter 13 verses 1 to 3, basically says no matter how beautifully I speak, no matter how amazing my actions are, no matter how generous I am, I am nothing without LOVE.
A lot of the principles that are true in life are even more true in here and easier to see without all the little distractions. This one especially. One of the most impressive people I’ve ever met in here and closest friends was making this point last night. And at the time I kind of felt it ultimately took more than ‘just’ love. That’s why when I thought of the bible verse it seemed to fit better.
When you have issues it takes some effort, it takes some communication, it takes some time, some patience, and some faith. But the main ingredient that has to be in everything is LOVE. Without Love your effort is wasted, communication is just noise and time blown.
So yes love is the answer to everything. But more so, its the magic ingredient! It’s the catalyst that makes everything work. For example I give a lot if gifts but its not just gifts that count its the thought, the love that it shows. When imvu gives something it doesn’t come with love. It’s just a gift. I can’t even tell you how many rooms and sets of furniture I’ve never even seen. That’s also why giving someone something not on their gift list sometimes shows more caring and love!
Yes, I’ve said this in a lot of different ways in posts in here. Whether its The greatest thing in IMVU is LOVE, love the person behind the keyboard, Hold them with love, Real IMVVU Love, 57 ways to show Love, and so many more posts about love. That’s because Love is the secret ingredient not just in Imvu, but in life. Not just according to me but according to the bible.
One last note: Taylor without my LOVE, I am nothing…
~clinking her class softly, quietly, waiting for the room to quiet~
If I could have your attention for just a tiny second, I would like to propose a toast…
First to my lovely and incomparable wife Susan, for such a beautiful ceremony, bringing in such universal truths about life and love, staying out of the way to let the brides’ loves shine, bridging all of humanity in, while still making every thought and feeling so deeply personal.
Second to everyone here, friends and family. You all mean more to me than I can say. It feels amazing to be part of such a community bonded by our shared love for each other and for the happy couple.
But really, I am here to cherish the love of the two brides. To be honest, I was more thrilled and honored to be a bridesmaid for Kait and Tay than I was for my college friend’s rl wedding last week. They are my true friends, my best friends real or virtual, and true sisters.
Kaitlyn who I have known longer than anyone else except my lovely wife. With whom I shared an instant bond, a commonality of spirit and outlook, a connection that twins share. And a kindness and generosity and empathy I have never seen equalled here on anywhere.
And Taylor, one of the newest members of my family. Taylor who in just a few short weeks, executed her diabolical plans to worm her way into my heart. Taylor who taught me renewed appreciation for my family, taught me about my own weaknesses and pettiness, and met all my crazy with love.
She has taught me so much. She has taught my whole family so much. About love and openness and caring. She brings light to every room she enters.
Their vows show really what real love (not the day to day imvu love) is all about. That love is fun, but real love is deep. Like Ben Affleck said, Love is Work, love is putting others first. Love is being open and sharing. Not just when its easy but when its hard, when it may hurt, and knowing your bond is strong enough to know all of you. That is something my loves have taught me, and something you both exemplify.
So I raise a glass… and maybe you’ll raise yours too. To the most amazing couple, that I have been so blessed to know and welcome into my heart, and home. To Taylor and Kait!
You’re never more than a click or two away from another room or other friends in here. So the only way to hold onto anyone here is to love them more than anyone else. You can get promises and even chains and cages (which can be kind of fun, by the way) but the freedom and ease of meeting people in here makes it impossible to hold onto anyone that doesn’t want to be held. So the trick is to make them WANT to be held.
So the question becomes what would make them want to stay. In real life stay together because they don’t have many choices, because of kids, because of the expense of leaving or breaking up, because of the stigma of divorce, or because of their physical needs. Obviously none of these things are true in here. So how do you hold onto people who are constantly seeing supermodels wanting to spend time with them?
I think there’s only one thing strong enough to hold, really hold someone here and that’s LOVE! Emotions in here can be very intense (VERY intense) and none is stronger than Love. The only way you can keep anyone in here is to love them with all your heart and in every way. I’ve written posts about how to make someone feel loved and I’m sure you can figure out a few things of your own too.
I got the most wonderful message today. Ok, it was four messages actually but it described very honestly and beautifully the pure IMVU Love that I had to share it. It wasn’t just about me, but I took the other names out. I hope more than anything that you get to experience this IMVU LOVE on this level too.
In some ways, Imvu lets me be more real than real life! In my real I have walls up on your emotions. I could never tell most (any?) of my real friends, how I really do love them. In imvu is no problem!! lol I love that about it. I love that I can even write this message. That I can love you so much in my heart of hearts and I can tell you that I do and it feels soooo good!!! I can let you know all my inner feelings and stuff so easily where would be next to impossible in real.
This is such a magical place with so many good people (YOU) and I can really be so loving. In my real life I always look forward to going here and seeing you and my friends here. Where I can be a fairy or anything, and share honestly with you, and not have to worry if someone will think you are weird or crazy or whatever. lol I have never been able to be so……..emotionally involved or maybe so open or maybe so loved or maybe so human??????
Whatever it is, I never want it to stop. I never want to stop loving you! Ever!! Another thing about here is that I love you yes, I need you, and I love making love with you more than anything!! There is NO jealousy, or any of that stuff that goes with a relationship in real. I just want you to be happy in whatever you do and that makes me happy too. It is such an awesome feeling, – to love with all my heart but without all the bad stuff. Like PURE love!! lol – I love you and all my imvu friends!
I know and can feel your love for me and it just makes me so happy that you do and if you have these feelings for others that is wonderful too. It’s wonderful for them that they have someone as nice as you to love them too!!! I am happy for them and you!! I do not think this could happen in real like this. :) I hope I am not talking too much again! but I think you know what I am feeling, I think if anyone does it’s you! and I love you for that too!! LOLOLOL!!! or maybe….. I have finally crossed the REALLY crazy threshold in here! Oh well back to vacuuming but smiling with YOU!
Don’t just pretend to love people in here, really love them. Love them full, love them with all your heart. Don’t hold anything back, love in a forgiving, patient, and nurturing way. Love in a respectful humble gentle way. Love them through the tears. Even though you will fall sometimes, love with no limits or strings. Love the person behind the keys. Love the spirit you can see and feel in here.
Real life gets complicated and it’s hard to talk about some things and share true love very often. But one of the most amazing things in IMVU is how you can open up and share so much. Be bold, be passionate, Love like an ocean and pour out your love. Be a light in your circle and shares such an overwhelming LOVE that nothing else matters. This isn’t just a place for fun and it’s more than a game. It’s a way to connect and share. Share something great.
Some people think IMVU is about sex, but they’re only seeing part of it. Sex is part of Love. It often makes you feel loving, and certainly makes you feel more in love than even the best non interactive porn does. Love is more than just Sex though, it requires intimacy, openness, and an emotional connection. I’m not sure if it’s good or bad but I know that this is the tip of the iceberg. Manti Teos showed that the main stream society doesn’t get this but that’s partially because the people that do it generally have to be quiet about it. They scoff at a virtual relationship being real love, but it is. Everyone doesn’t get there, but LOVE truly is the secret of IMVU.
I wear my heart on my sleeve in more ways than one and share a lot on here but I haven’t talked a lot directly about my personal situation lately. But I so need to say I LOVE YOU with all my heart to the two most amazing people. I’ve never been so happy not just in here but in my life.
I’ve been truly blessed beyond anything I deserve. I’m so head over heels in LOVE that the whole world seems brighter sunnier and every day feels like Christmas!! I’ve had the most amazing life here and met a lot of totally wonderful people here but I have the biggest honor imaginable to be the loving partner of Suzilyn and Quidlyn (aka Susan and Katy).
I’ve had a lot amazing relationships in the two years I’ve been in here. But all of them added together don’t even touch the intensity of love that I have now. It’s more than just a heartfelt connection, and almost feels like a soul connection, like it uses the same spiritual circuitry in my head or my heart that my connection with God does. I’m sure that sounds crazy even to most people who get this place. But this kind I’m makes me feel like we are designed to be connected more than we ever realized.
No matter how you look at it, I have never been so head over heels in love or happier! I love the magical feeling, the giddy, tingling inside, the control and the effect they have over me. And I wish this crazy love for everyone. It takes some time, some effort and growth inside, tearing down walls and opening your heart and your soul. It’s scary in some ways and tricky and painful sometimes. But there’s no way to describe the value of this other than PRICELESS!! I don’t say this lightly or flippantly but with all my heart and soul. It’s the most magical feeling in the world and what IMVU is all about.
I recently made this video for Susan that I wanted to share. I have to do one for Katy next
I learned something recently that I really need to remember and use myself. So this one is as much to reinforce and remind myself of this as anything. When a friend was upset at someone that she thought had wronged her she joked about wanting to give the other person a piece of coal. But instead she sent a white rose.
I don’t know what she wrote, but it was something about purity of heart and it didn’t totally end the issue but it didn’t make it worse. And it did raise her up a lot in my eyes. It might feel good to zing someone back but the more you want to retaliate the more important it is to respond in love.
So the next time I get angry I’m going to follow her example and send a white rose. Hopefully even if you read this and know what it means, you’ll still appreciate it and know that I love you in spite of whatever issue we might have.
It’s a gray and rainy Friday afternoon and I’m standing in line at the bank writing mushy love poems. I’m a 46 year old boring housewife and happily married mother of three, and so totally head over heels in love I feel like a giddy school girl who can’t think straight. If that doesn’t show the power of IMVU and amazing fun you can have here that you can’t do anywhere else, nothing does.
It kind of reminded me of the Priceless Mastercard Commercials.
|An IMVU avatar with AP and VIP||$120|
|Thousands of virtual shoes, boobs, and tops etc.||$400|
|Cases of Energy Drink to stay awake all night||$74|
|Some Rum, just because it’s fun||$200|
|Hours of dancing, laughter, crying, and moaning||Priceless!|
|Absolutely Amazing Friends all over the world||Priceless!!|
|The once in a lifetime type of hopelessly in love feeling||Priceless!!!|
I’ve never used this site this way but one of my most special friends is going through a terrible situation and needs your prayers. I don’t like to share anyone else’s information, especially about their real life situation. But please pray for HollyKarenPeachHeart. If you know her just let her know you care. If you don’t just say a prayer for her or leave a comment of support. She lost someone very close to her in real life in a very difficult way. I’m writing this even in the middle of my vacation at Disney world, because she is important to me and I wish so much that I could do more. I will be praying very hard for her and know that your prayers will count and help too.
It’s also on YouTube if this link doesn’t work or you prefer to watch things there:
What happens when the Princess of Happiness meets the Princess of Sweet? You get Hershey Kusjes, lol… I’m on my way to a real life wedding in a few minutes and then I’ll be away for 10 days driving my kids to meet Isaac in Disneyworld. So I won’t be around much for a little bit but I had to share this with the world. IMVU is amazing at sharing emotions, and I’ve had the unbelievable honor of sharing the love and emotions of two of my very best friends, from the first falling in love all the way through real life things and last night a proposal.
I hope this isn’t spoiling the fun of announcing it. But I have to run and don’t know what my internet situation or time will be like for a while and I have to share this. I may be able to make a video later when I have some more time. Words alone can’t say how amazing their love is, how much I love them both or how happy I am. Ik hou zoveel van jou Wendy and Stephanie. They are truly the very best of IMVU.