Posts tagged “intimacy

The combination of emotional and physical is powerful

loving imvu familyA lot of people stop at the physical side, because that’s what they’re used to with porn or something by themselves. IMVU is more than porn. Yes it’s a little less then real sex but if you really get into it it’s only a very little less. It can also create something that you don’t necessarily have in real sex after a while, that’s the emotional head over heels heart wrenching passion of falling deeply in love. You probably had it at least once in real life but in reality it doesn’t last forever for most of us.

Sure I love my husband but I’m not head over heels in love with him like I was when we first met. That’s nothing against him or us it’s just life. Real life isn’t quite a fairytale fantasy all the time. But this kind of can be.

sexy family timesSome relationships only have the emotional side, and that can be great. Some only have the physical side. Some people live in and never get out of that stage. The real magic though in IMVU comes when you are able to combine both sides!

The heartfelt intimacy and connection makes the passion more powerful. And powerful passion leads to more intimacy and even more of a connection. Either one is great but the combination is ubber powerful!


What’s the Purpose of IMVU?

intimate love in imvuWhy are we here? What’s the real purpose of IMVU? I came here initially to feel sexy again. After kids and 9 years of marriage, I wanted a safe way to feel sexy. It wound up being more.

After the sexiness I realized the intimacy was even more special. You can get the sexiness from A video or romance novel. But you can’t get the feeling of intimacy you get here from a video or feel so connected.

I used to tell a friend that all I wanted was to know her heart and share mine with her. Maybe that could be the ultimate purpose for this crazy place. It’s sexy, it’s fun, but the real value, the real purpose of this to me may be to connect in a very special and deep way. That doesn’t require sexiness although sex is a great way to solidify a good relationship. But sex alone doesn’t make a relationship.

Another interesting question is, what is the purpose of this blog? It’s a combination of three things (in no particular order). It’s to help and talk about issues and give them some interesting ideas and helpful advice here or there. It’s to connect and bond with readers and encourage friendships. Thirdly, it’s to explain a little bit of this crazy experience to the outside world. Oh, and maybe it’s a little bit entertaining along the way.

You may have other ideas about the purpose though. It’s different things to different people. So add your idea in the comments!


Touch her Heart

touching hearts in imvu relationshipsYou might not be able to touch her hand but you can touch her heart in here. It takes more effort and love (aka. more heart) to really touch someone but it can be amazingly powerful. You don’t touch her heart with sex alone you touch it with Intimacy, Passion, and extra effort.

Send her a poem or note afterwards. Share emotions and something about your day. Sing along with a song. Pray together. Anything that allows you to share more emotions and things beyond just the passion will help you build more of a connection.

Look for ways to show you care and you’ll not only make the passion more powerful, but you’ll build a longer lasting relationship and each time you’re together will build on your previous time. It gets easier to love AND more powerful at the same time.


Closeness and Balance

closeness and balance in imvu passion and intimacyCloseness isn’t just physical. It’s emotional. And at least for women it is ultimately important to feel close emotionally. It’s the difference between sex and love. The people who think Imvu is about sex are missing that.

I just spent two hour talking about things with Susan and didn’t do anything overly physical but it was so amazingly intimate. It’s not that we’re not physical. Exactly the opposite is true. But the heartfelt sharing is makes the physical part so much more intense.

Every relationship is different. Some have more intimacy and some have more passion. We all have to find the right balance. But the best strongest relationships definitely have both sides. And the strength of one side makes the other side stronger. They’re not only interconnected but it’s an example of the sum being greater than the parts.

There are so many ways to get close. It would probably be a great post to list some ways to feel closer and more intimate with your partner. I’ll add a couple and if enough other people add things maybe we can make a list too.

How to build Closeness:

  1. Open your heart and talk about feelings.
  2. Share secrets.
  3. Be vulnerable.
  4. Work toward or plan for something together.
  5. Be kind and close to your partners friends.
  6. Write notes.
  7. Pray for each other.
  8. Wear something with their name on it, a necklace or shirt or tatto
  9. Sing a song to them.
  10. Shop for and find something that shows you were listening to them.
  11. Make a Home (a room) with them, that reflects THEIR taste.
  12. Long deep conversations.
  13. Care about their real life.
  14. Talk about your beliefs and childhood.

Explore your Fairy Fantasy in imvu

I don’t think Fairies was really a big fantasy of mine before I came here. It’s cute but just doesn’t sound like it would be as sexy as some of the crazy things you find in imvu. But if you like intimacy, you should really try this. It can be the most intimate “magical” thing you’ll find in here. I don’t want to be that all the time. I like the bad girl role a lot too. But with some people this just seems so right and so amazing.

All it really takes to make a fairy is a cute (sexy?) white or light pastel look and a matching pair of wings, some soft music and a flying room or pose. A romantic setting and moonlight and some fire flies help too. It doesn’t take hard core poses, or graphic dirty talk. It takes some heartfelt love and is excellent if you’re more into intimacy than cyber. It can also build a stronger bond than your typical sexy scenario. It may be the uniqueness of it, or the sweet enchanted feeling, or maybe it’s because it seems to combine and build friendship as well as intimacy. I admit I still like vampires, submission and a lot of exciting crazy things in here, but Fairies are always one of the most special things to me.

I was also amazed at how many different fairy pics I actually had. The hard part was limiting myself to a handful of representative fairy pictures. Everyone of these was a beautiful loving time too. Even if this wasn’t a big fantasy you always thought of, you should try and have some fun with it.

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Best Friends

best imvu friends

best imvu friendsI was introducing someone to friends and tried to explain the relationships which can get complicated. I thought for a moment as I introduced people as my best friend, my very best friend and several variations with things like super and awesome, how fortunate I am to have so many super awesome best friends and to be best friends with so many awesome people. best friends beach cuddle

We are all individuals and every relationship is different for sure. But I have the most amazing friends and friendships I’ve ever had in my life in here. I feel like I’ve been saying this a lot lately, because I am truly blessed and wealthy beyond belief in here. LOL, maybe I should wear my pirate outfit because I treasure you all!


I want to know your Heart

feeling somes heart in imvu

feeling somes heart in imvuI want to know your Heart, was a song we sang in church this Sunday and it reminded me of IMVU so much. One of the amazing things about this crazy place is how it lets you really know and touch someone else’s heart. It’s just a silly cartoon chat program but when you connect I mean really connect with someone you truly love, you wind up with such an amazing full heart connection.

We all go through life doing laundry and cutting the grass but inside I think we kind of yearn to connect, to love and be loved. And this silly game (yes I’m just saying that to tease HollyK) somehow lets you do this sometimes in the most amazing way. I don’t know if this is the purpose of life, but it kind of feels like the purpose of imvu, the ultimate feeling you can search a whole lifetime for, and you find it in a silly computer program. But honestly it’s not the computer program it’s the person on the other side of the screen.


What am I looking for?

what are you looking for?

what are you looking for?Someone asked me this and it got me thinking a little how it’s changed and grown. When I first started here I was just looking for a safe way to feel sexy. Now I kind of want more. I still want to feel sexy but I have gotten kind of spoiled and know how much more this can be. I want to know your heart and have a magical intimate moving experience.

I like sex but don’t just want sex. Feeling sexy doesn’t even require sex as much as it does intimacy but good sex creates a feeling of intimacy. So many people who think this place is all or mostly about sex have no idea that they’re only seeing the tip of the iceberg. I think we’re all here because we want to be loved. (Am I talking about real life or imvu? Or is it true for both??)

looking to be loved in imvuI also want my friends to be happy and I want to please and love them. In some ways I’m actually best at being a second place safe and loving best friend. I love seeing my friends in love just as much as I love being so connected. I bounce around a lot and wear my heart on my sleeve a little too much sometimes. A friend and I were talking earlier today and she takes her time opening up and sizing people up before getting close. I am the opposite. I jump right in and then try to figure out afterwards if it’s the right thing.

What do I not want? I don’t want to own anyone or be owned all the time, although I do like to submit to someone strong that I can love and respect. I don’t need gifts or credits. They are a nice way to say you love someone and a way to show your appreciation though. I certainly don’t need drama or an attitude. I’m also not looking for anything real life. I realize I’m in a minority here when I say I have a great marriage and family but I do.


There’s nothing more intimate than Virtual Sleep

cuddling and sleeping together in imvu love

cuddling and sleeping together in imvu love

I gave my best friend Gabby, the title of Queen of Real a while ago because of the way she has always made things so real. Whether it’s having dinner together or making couch pillows that match her real life pillows or the way she makes it feel when she talks, she has always had an amazing ability. One of the things she has always done like that which is just amazingly intimate is how she literally sleeps with her wife or most special girls.

Collette and Kait sleeping in imvuShe brings her laptop to bed and lays down in her special sleeping room to literally go to cuddle and drift off to sleep together. There’s something intimate about listening to soft imvu music, talking for a little bit and then drifting off to sleep and waking up (if your internet connection lasts) in your partner’s arms. Time zones being what they are your partner might not be ready to sleep or wake up at exactly the same time, but it still feels more real and very intimate. It’s especially nice if you have time to share some passion and then drift off together as you cuddle.

imvu heartUnfortunately being married in real life it’s not like I can ever really take my laptop to bed so I’ve cuddled and enjoyed it a little bit once in a while but never really had my own spot or much chance to use it. Recently while my husband was away for a couple days I added a cuddle area in one of my favorite rooms and finally had the chance to use it. loving my imvu sister katy I also wound up using it with a couple special friend that didn’t stay and sleep. It was kind of like skipping straight to the warm intimacy feeling. Oh and I came up with a nicer way to say how I love the intimacy. A long time ago a friend said I was an intimacy whore which I kind of liked, but now I say I have a Golden Retriever personality. I just wear my heart on my sleeve and love to love all over everyone.


Living on the fun side of the island

The best couple on IMVU

The best couple on IMVU
The best part of a relationship is the head over heels falling in love part. In reality this tends to be kind of rare but in here it can happen so often that you get addicted. I call this “the fun side of the island” from the first Madagascar movie. It’s not shallow, it’s actually very heart felt. I have amazing connections and real heart felt relationships.

a new imvu loveAdd to this my golden retriever personality, and wearing my heart on my sleeve and I admit I tend to get carried away in a good way (or at least a fun way!). A less nice way to say it is what one of my first gfs called me, an intimacy whore. I guess this is probably true, but I don’t look at it as a bad thing.

imvu moonlit lovePart of this is probably my real life and what I need. Not having real life potential frees me up in some ways but it limits how far I can go or how serious I can be in a sense too. I bounce around too much in here sometimes and honestly just love loving. I give my heart away a lot, maybe too much. But that’s what I do and to me it’s the best part of this crazy place. I don’t expect anything or want anything from anyone and I NEVER want to hurt anyone. I love pleasing people and love living my fantasy life on the FUN side of the island.


It’s the people

sexy imvu girlfriends cuddling

sexy imvu girlfriends cuddling
When I first started out here I only went to empty rooms. I was still in the playing stage. Learning to move around and playing with everything. It takes a while to get to the relationship side of imvu and to realize that it’s the people that make the room. It’s also the people that make or break your experience here too.

I came here to feel sexy and I enjoy the physical side as much as anyone. But there is a magic and intimacy in being a part of a group of people you truly love and trust. I’ve laughed for hours and felt more intimacy than I could explain even to people on here with the amazing group of friends I have. It’s not about getting naked at all. Nobody took off a stitch of clothing last night. But it’s truly the best feeling in IMVU.

If you’re not having fun here keep looking there are totally amazing people here. It takes special people and a little while to get this close but it’s very easy to meet new people and start fresh here. There really are amazing people in IMVU waiting to meet and get to know you.


Why is this so intense and intimate?

sexy imvu girls on the beach

sexy imvu girls on the beachI came here to feel sexy but was blown away by the intensity of the emotions and intimacy you can feel here. It takes a little while to get comfortable with it, to learn to lower your walls and share from your heart. New people you don’t know can be fun but it’s also helpful to find the right really good people and build strong friendships too.

I think part of it is that it’s how anonymous it is that frees us up. Part of it is how much we express emotions saying what we feel or think, creating a kind of mind meld. It probably also helps that anyone can be drop dead gorgeous and there’s no disease or risk of pregnancy. Part of it’s a shared fantasy but the emotions are real and very powerful. It can hurt if it falls apart and you have to protect your heart at the same time that you give it away, sharing very deeply. A network of friends can help even more in here than in real life too, both if anything falls apart and giving you loving support system.

We can’t actually see the other side but you develop and share a real heartfelt image as we get to know people from the inside out. It is surprisingly powerful, intimate and addicting. If you haven’t experienced the intensity of imvu sex, try it for a while. It takes a little while to develop but this is definitely part of the future, and worth some effort. It can be one of the most amazing powerful intimate things you’ve ever felt.