A lot of the benefit here stems from the anonymity. It frees you to do or be anything you want to, and to be more aggressive more sexy more bad more exciting more of whatever you want. We all need or crave that freedom in some ways.
We do the right thing in life, we try to be respectable and we care about what other people think of us. We have to live with our choices in real life. In here you can experiment and be much crazier and freer than you ever would be in real life.
It’s not that we are hiding things about who we are really, we all just want to control who we are and our life a little bit more or do things a little bit differently in here. Nobody shows everything exactly as real life in here. You don’t have to and aren’t expected to 100%. But on the other hand don’t go so far that you lose credibility by having to make bigger and bigger stories.
You need enough reality to be able to relate and connect with your life here and to stay consistent. Over time people will see little things about you that lineup and make sense and make them more comfortable and feel closer, or they’ll see things that make them leery and nervous and pull back a little.
These are real people, and even more importantly these are your friends, and you have to remember and respect that. Don’t do anything to them that you wouldn’t want someone to do to you.
Don’t let the anonymity and excuse to abuse your friends. If you value your friendships, don’t make bigger and bigger stories or more and more crazy things. Sometimes lies or stories or exaggerations tend to grow and grow. It may seem exciting and fun at first but you are literally hurting the most important thing you have in here. That’s your credibility, the faith people have in you, and your relationships. That’s all you really have here, so don’t trade that for an exciting story that fizzles.
It’s great when it feels real, but just because it’s not real doesn’t mean you feel it any less. These are real people and if you stay on track things will get better and better and better, but if you start to get off track and out of balance you will crash very painfully too.
Things grow more quickly but are more fragile in imvu than real life too. It’s not meant to last like real life is. It’s got more of the live fast and die young experience and attitude. Think of it like a movie. The closer you stay to reality, and what you know, the more believable it will be and the stronger and more lasting it will be.
I always wonder how can people say they’re bored in here. It’s like saying you’re bored in Adult Disneyland. It’s the most unboring place in the world and can be anything you want it to be. I think maybe they just don’t know how to use it.
First of all never say you’re bored. It makes you sound boring. I made a great list of IMVU activities you can go do. There are is an almost endless variety of fun toys and things to do and rooms to explore. One tip, if you’re looking for interesting IMVU rooms look for ones with four stars. Pick rooms that you have an appropriate costume for but just get out there and wander around.
Make a crazy and exciting costume. There are studies that show when you smile you feel happier and the IMVU corollary is, when you look exciting you feel more exciting. Make yourself someone that someone exciting would want to hangout with. If you’re bored you’ll attract other boring people. If you’re exciting you’ll attract other exciting people.
A lot of guys seem to say they’re bored when they mean horny. Maybe they think saying they’re horny will sound bad. I actually think saying you’re bored makes you sound worse than saying you’re bored. I’d rather talk to a horny guy than a bored guy.
I also think people that are really bored just don’t know what they want to do, because you really do find what you look for here more than anywhere else. So look around at all the different things here (and there’s a ton of exciting themes in here) and pick something. You can always change, it’s not like you’re stuck with just one thing. Make a different costume, a story and maybe a fun room, and go out and meet other people. This place is addictingly fun and you can be tired or have an off or quiet day but its never ever boring!
Make your life in here reflect what you like in real life. Be expressive and have Fun! You can be anything you want to in here so have fun with it. Ham things up, and be bold and decisive. I’m not really into football, but hey, any excuse for a party! IMVU is about relationships and relationships are built on shared emotions. And the drama of a good game can be a lot more fun if you share it. Just like it’s more fun to watch a game at a bar full of fans than it is at home by yourself, it’s more fun to watch it with friends in here. There’s also no cover charge and you can yell and scream all you want.
So even if you’re not a giant fan you can still have a lot of fun at a party in here. You don’t have to be a huge fan to dress up and have fun in here. Don’t just sit there by yourself. Watch the game together and have a good time! If you’re shy and new rooms make you nervous this is a great opportunity and excuse to get out and have a good time. Or if you’re not into football come in here and have your own good time while your fan is preoccupied.
It doesn’t take very much to have a great time in here either. You can find good public rooms for these things or get your own room with these things. And often just the empty room is enough to make a pretty great adventure.
You may want to dress appropriately and you’ll definitely want to take a lot of pictures! Looking back through thousands of pictures it’s often this type of thing that makes the best pictures (and the best memories) so try something fun and different with a good friend today.
What other things have you done or seen in here that you can add to this list?
Katy made a good point in her recent post asking if IMVU is cheating. She said IMVU allowed her to do all of the things she never hit a chance to do. That kind of reminded me of the Dr Seuss book “Oh the Places You Will Go”. (It’s a life book not a kid book, though don’t tell the kids.)
That’s true and a great point. IMVU lets you do a lot of exciting things you never would have done or maybe even dreamed of. Actually anything you can dream up you can do in here. Sexy things, crazy things, silly things, impossible things, wild things, romantic things.
“You’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting,
So… get on your way!”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
“Oh the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all.”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
“You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. but mostly they’re darked.
But mostly they’re darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!
Don’t compare yourself to someone else. There’s always someone that’s better at something than you. This is as true in here as it is in real life. Someone will have better relationships, be sexier, cuter, smarter, (and sometimes all of these things, no names!) but you can’t beat yourself up about that. All you can do is be the best you can be and look for something you’re good at. You don’t have to be perfect or the best to have fun and feel good here.
You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, though when you’re in love they do seem perfect don’t they? Just don’t turn this into a competition. It’s so not, and nobody is as hard on you as you are on yourself. This is a fun place to experiment, share things you can’t talk about or do in real life, and have a blast. Don’t make it into a job or create issues, if you can help it.
Focus on what you’re good at and what you enjoy. Share your heart and have fun with your friends. Turn the other cheek once in a while and let your light shine in here. You can be as bright and have as much fun as you want in here. Just do it all with love, uplifting everyone and be the best you can be.
The default room is boring. Inviting people there is boring but it can be fun to surprise someone that invited you to the default room with something really different. When you change the room in someone else’s chat your furniture doesn’t show up. But some rooms don’t need much furniture and can be very shocking and fun.
I have a dragon room for example (http://www.imvu.com/shop/product.php?products_id=2519402) that’s very different and really fun. It doesn’t have or need any furniture. Put on a scary demonic outfit and describe the sulfur smell and the beating of his wings as they feel your claws digging in into them a little. Yeah I know you’re not supposed to hijack someone else’s chat but it’s fun to shake it up and have fun blowing their mind a little.
If you have any other really different room you can suggest, leave it in a comment!
The best part of a relationship is the head over heels falling in love part. In reality this tends to be kind of rare but in here it can happen so often that you get addicted. I call this “the fun side of the island” from the first Madagascar movie. It’s not shallow, it’s actually very heart felt. I have amazing connections and real heart felt relationships.
Add to this my golden retriever personality, and wearing my heart on my sleeve and I admit I tend to get carried away in a good way (or at least a fun way!). A less nice way to say it is what one of my first gfs called me, an intimacy whore. I guess this is probably true, but I don’t look at it as a bad thing.
Part of this is probably my real life and what I need. Not having real life potential frees me up in some ways but it limits how far I can go or how serious I can be in a sense too. I bounce around too much in here sometimes and honestly just love loving. I give my heart away a lot, maybe too much. But that’s what I do and to me it’s the best part of this crazy place. I don’t expect anything or want anything from anyone and I NEVER want to hurt anyone. I love pleasing people and love living my fantasy life on the FUN side of the island.
My great friend Susan makes the most amazing rooms and made an awesome video that I think really highlights just a few of the amazing things you can do in here. I think Katy or someone said that this was like the early version of the Holo Deck on Star Trek and I can’t help but think that and see it when I see things like this.
You really are only limited by your imagination in here. Do you wanna be a rock star, go sky diving, or just date that cheerleader you loved in school? Do you want to make an oval office room, dress up and make political commercials out of sound bites? Or have aliens land and take over? Wander around an alien space ship? It really is the holo deck and you can do anything or be anyone you want.
I put this post in the FRIENDS category because these are mostly all my friends, not random people. It was hard to pick and limit this. I probably could have included several times as many kisses and people if I had had time. But I wanted to make this as a video for the song. It’s actually what I see in my mind every time I hear this song. I hope you like it. Did you see yourself in it??