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We’re doing something special tonight for Ally, one of my long time closest friends of all time. I was kind of naïve when I came here and didn’t know much about a lot of things especially collaring. I didn’t know what being a sub meant and I certainly didn’t know that I had any inclination in that direction.
A collaring ceremony is like a wedding in some ways in that it’s a commitment ceremony. Like a lot of things in here it has as much meaning as you give it, and making a special ceremony for it gives it more weight and makes it more meaningful.
What can I say about one of my closest friends for over two years? Beauty is just pixels in here but over time you get to see and know people from the inside out. And when I say Ally is one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever met, I don’t just mean in IMVU or just in pixels, which you can see but on the inside. She’s got an amazingly playful, adventurous passion, and if I had to pick one word to describe Ally more than anyone else, it would probably be FUN! She’s one of the best subs ever but she’s also got tremendous range. Most of all, she’s not only beautiful in here she’s truly beautiful inside and an amazing friend!
In life we think of Love in the Happily Ever After scenario as a final destination, something you get and hold onto for life, through thick and thin. There’s obvious reasons for that, and we hold that up as our real life ideal. Love in IMVU is the same but it’s also different. It’s not a final destination or an ending here as much as a journey or process.
HollyKaren said that 99.9 relationships end here, and she’s right in one sense. She’s right if you define succeeding as leading to real life and happily ever after and failing as ending. If you define success as going up but never coming down, then there’s very little success, because what goes up here, in the end or at some point unfortunately must come down. Whether your life situation or time availability changes or you wind up falling for someone else, things definitely change faster in here than real life. But happily ever after isn’t really the goal here for most people. Just because it doesn’t lead to real life or happily ever after doesn’t mean it wasn’t successful to me.
I can hear all the cynics out there starting up, you can have fun saying that you’re “in love” here but it’s all FAKE because you’re not actually touching them. To them I’ll say that is like calling all the shooting games fake because you’re not actually shooting living people. That’s totally true, you’re not. Except unlike shooting which is defined as a “physical” act, Love is an emotion and technically that doesn’t require physical contact.
People have fallen in love with other people at a distance for a long time. People fell in love with penpals, that they had very slow minimal contact with. Here we have immediate intense communication. So you can’t say that the love (an emotion) isn’t real just because you’re not touching them. But that isn’t the point of this post.
Love to me here isn’t defined as happily ever after. I think the success of love here is defined as how beautiful the journey is or was to you both and how good you feel afterwards. Sure there’s pain on the downside. That’s because it was so good on the upside and when you take away something that good you can’t help but feel hurt. But in the end, after the pain fades, if you still feel the love, with honest good feelings for each other, to me that’s a SUCCESSFUL LOVE.
Let me exlain. :) I loved Taylor with all my heart about 9 months ago. We had a fabulous love. Sure it’s sad that the romance wound up ending. It hurt at the time, A LOT! But in the end because it was real, and I really did want the best for her, I was happy that she was happy and in love again afterwards. I said at the time and still mean it every bit as much that I want to be her biggest cheerleader. And that’s why I had to say it here, loud and clear with all my heart, that I was totally thrilled to hear her and Stephi announce their engagement.
I say that not because I don’t love her but because I do, and honestly truly loved our time and always wanted the best for her, and for Stephi. So don’t anyone whisper or worry, and Taylor I wanna be in your wedding and life here. To me that’s a successful love in imvu. We enjoyed the process, made life beautiful for each other, and in the end love the memories and good feelings that last.
I have a lot of things I don’t wear any more. But these are the most important ones I wear regularly. I have several bracelets. My favorite is Gabby VBFF bracelet. It’s special because of what it means and because it was made just for me and nobody else has it. Just as special is my Lyn bracelet. It has three hearts connected and that’s what it means. Sometimes I wear both the Lyn hearts and the Lyn family member bracelet which we made to give out to other people that felt like family. That let us include other people without taking away from the specialness of or original bracelet and connection.
Sometimes you won’t realize how special something is to someone else. Wendy gave me a gold bracelet called and I pointed out that to me that was Wendy and Stephanie, since they both had Love in their name. I’ve worn it ever since.
Katy made the neatest locket with pictures of her, Susan and I which I really love and wear a lot. I also wear and love a necklace that Susan made for me when she told me to take off the ring I wore for her and put it on a necklace to let me go and at the same time always be close. It’s kind of a combination combination collar / ring which means more than I can explain.
I wear a pretty little anklet that’s hard to see in some shoes or bottoms, but it Sisters Always Friends Forever, and it’s so true for Collette. I started wearing butterflies because Katy said she loved them. I could go on about a few more things like my hickey, but the point is that symbolism matters in here. It’s all in our heads in some ways. No matter how you look at it these things are very special to me, just like the people and relationships behind them are.
You never know how what you say or do sometimes affects people and makes such a huge difference. Even the smallest thing can sometimes make a huge difference not just in here, but in someone’s whole life. I can’t go into someone else’s story but one of my best friends wrote a three word message at the right time that changed someone’s whole life. You never know when the right caring word is going to reach someone in need.
This isn’t just a game, it opens you up to real people, real friends that can’t help but affect each other in so many different and often unpredictable but beautiful ways. Life principles seem to apply here even more, or maybe they’re just more visible without so many things in the way. Whatever the reason, realize that Karma applies here very strongly. The secret to getting friends is to be a friend. And the secret to getting love is to give love. And the secret to being happiness here is to uplift and love everyone around you. Maybe none of those things is really secret, and I’ve probably said all of that before, but it’s worth repeating. These are real people and have real lives, often in very different situations than we realize, but all with very real emotions. It’s fun and sexy but becomes so much more too.
Another of my friends made it her resolution to make new friends and help more people. I can’t say it enough about my friends in here. I’m truly blessed, with the most amazing friends more than anything and I just try to return some of that. Uplift everyone. Share your heart and love people and you’ll touch and be touched too!
Time flies in here and people I knew three years ago seem like almost 2 lifetimes ago. But there’s something special about people you have a lot of history and connection with. I feel like I can trust them and like we have a stronger connection because of it.
The way to take advantage of this is simple. If you don’t delete your old messages, go back through them. Don’t invite random people. Invite someone you used to know but list contact with. An old friend has fewer walls and the history effect will make them predisposed to reigniting.
It gives you something good to talk about and they will want to catch up and hear how you’re doing now. It lets you talk about how bad you used to look, or funny/sexy things they did, or even what you liked best about them or how you always had a secret crush on them. All the bad things tend to fade leaving only the good things over time.
Even people who you had an issue with will have forgotten what that was and not care any more. You’ll definitely thank me for this one later. This is an especially good thing to do if you’re on over the holiday and all your friends are away. Go back through your really old messages and you can find old friends that are online even if you’re not friends any more and they’ve changed their name. It’s probably equally quiet for them and it’ll be a good time to reconnect!
What can I say to my VBFF (very best friend forever) Gabrielle on her Birthday? So many people love her but I’ve had the honor for over two years. A picture is worth a thousand words and I love pictures. Picasa says I have 4600 pictures of her. I won’t try to show you all of them but here’s a little over 500 of them! Squeezed down into a couple minutes.
You can probably tell from this video that she’s the center of our world and our group and there’s always a lot of great people around. I could go on about the depth of relationships and amount of love here but I hope this illustrates that better at anything I could say.
Dear Gabby! I LOVE you more than I can ever say and you truly are my VBFF!
OK, maybe we ALL don’t come for the sex but most people probably do to varying degrees. I don’t mean to over generalize or say that’s why everyone comes here. Some people don’t go beyond that too. But the real value here is the people, the relationships, the Love. This probably seems obvious to a lot of us in here, but almost nobody outside of IMVU sees how much is really going on in here.
I think maybe I was ultimately what I was looking for this deeper side, but just didn’t realize it. I thought I came here because I wanted to feel sexy again. Maybe it’s because I could understand how this could make you feel sexy, but who would ever believe you could feel this truly loved and get such a feeling of friendship and belonging from a computer.
The truth is though that you can and if you stay here long enough, and really get into this you probably will too. It’s obviously hard to predict even what you’ll be doing here from one hour to the next but as you learn to open up, you will have the most amazing journey. You’ll have ups and downs at times, but opening up and loving is the most rewarding thing I’ve felt. In some ways I think that’s almost what what real life is about too. It’s just that there are so many more little issues in real life, it’s harder to see sometimes. Whatever it is, I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
Just when I thought I couldn’t possibly get any happier, guess who just showed up, my ex imvu wife, Holly! Now obviously she was gone almost a year which is a long time in here, and things are very different for me. I have really and truly never been happier and am beyond solid with Susan and Katy. I love my whole family and my life here more than I can say. I’m truly blessed! They are my priority and I can’t and wouldn’t undo any of the past year. But I’ve always loved her and am so thrilled she’s doing well and able to come back.
We all do need a break at times. In a lot of ways this is the vacation from reality but sometimes we need a vacation from our vacation too. I totally get that and I was sad that she left but now I feel like the prodigal sister has returned. She is a tremendous person that I love and respect. We can’t be what we were before but she will always have a special place in my heart. Over time I’ve realized that although things often tend to move super fast here, it’s also the depth of memories and emotions you’ve shared over time that really matter the most. Having history with someone is a very special secure feeling. Take lots of pictures, because the memories you make here are so so special. Also have patience and people who leave often find their way back.
Also on YouTube at http://youtu.be/DO4h4HZ_Hv8
We meet basically every night and hang out, laugh and dance and have more intimacy and fun than I can begin to explain. These are the best people ever and I love them with all my heart. One of the things that makes it fun though are the themes that evolve. It’s always different and never planned but somehow we always end up with more fun than you’d believe.
We laugh, dance, support and encourage each other so much. We have fun with clothes, flirt and talk a mile a minute. We have more inside jokes and are hard to keep up with because we’ve spent so much time together.
There is no set theme, it just evolves from what someone is wearing or we’re talking about. It’s an amazing feeling to feel so close so loved and a part of such a neat group that really does feel like family on steroids! Anyway, here are just a few of the fun themes we’ve had recently.
One of the most special things about IMVU to me, is being able to really truly connect and be there for friends. And one of my longest friendships here has been with Heather. She has faced more challenges than anyone I else I ever knew personally and has been strong and a great friend for two years since I first started here. She’s going through a lot and I just wanted to let her know how special she is to me and how much I love her. I may not be able to talk to her much right now, but I wanted to say loud and clear that I love her and am still here for her.
YouTube Link: http://youtu.be/wO54V42jCmU
This is a fictional place where people come for fun and to be anything they want. Suddenly being free of consequences or morality and making everyone look like porn stars does tend to make it feel like we’re in a pheromone factory. But that doesn’t mean you have to be bad.
I admit I’m at least as bad as most people. I kind of look at this as my midlife crisis. I’ve learned to let go and enjoy things here, which honestly wasn’t easy. But the point is that IMVU want an be anything you want it to be and doesn’t have to be about sex. Most people kind of like the sexy side to some degree so a lot of IMVU is aimed in that direction. But that doesn’t mean IMVU itself is about sex.
One of my very best friends ever in here is the perfect example. She’s engaged in real life to a prince charming and in here to the absolute sweetest girl ever. She makes this the most uplifting friend filled place ever. I love her fiancé and I love the way she lights up the room! I may be bad at times but IMVU is about relationships and friends like Stephanie. So the answer is no, we’re not all crazy sex addicts and even if we are, we’re not all the time.
Even in a difficult time like this, I want you all to know how much I love you!
At this moment it is a very difficult time for me. This is because my grandmother, on her birthday Tuesday, had a double heart attack. I want to thank you all so very much for all the support, the messages and prayers you’ve send me. This really means a lot to me, to know that there are friends at the other side of the Atlantic ocean who cares for you. It’s too emotional to thank you all in private but I’m sure you all will understand this. Thank you all for everything!
Happy Valentine`s Day to all my dearest friends,
I wish you all happiness that will never ends.
Now this special day of love is here,
may you have memories to last through the year.
Valentines Day is a day to show you care,
like I care for my special friends on line and everywhere.
I just could not let this special day go,
without writing this verse to let you all know.
How much I care for all my special friends,
we’ve made some friendships that never ends.
Valentines Day is not just for romance you know,
so take the love in your heart and let it show…xxx
Happy Valentine’s Day my dear friends!