As I get ready for Thanksgiving I know we’re all real busy with the holidays, but I also have to apologize. My time has already been getting shorter and shorter for the past month or two but I’ll be extremely busy with some pretty big work things in real life for the next month. I’ve kind of dreaded and avoided the reality of the things coming up in real life for several months because I knew IMVU would have to go or suffer for a while. So I’m apologizing ahead of time.
Hopefully by or a little after Christmas things will get a little easier. But in the mean time it’s not you, it’s me! I’ve already kind of slowed down on my posting for the past couple months. I’ll try to continue to do some here or there but this is one of the things I’ve had to adjust. I’ll still try to be on most nights for a while but that’s mostly with family, because even if I have to play a lot less, I can’t live without my friends and family. I may end up getting on later and having to head to bed at a more reasonable time. I wanted to tell you because if you don’t see me around as much and when I am, I’m not available as much, it’s honestly not because I don’t want to talk with you, but unfortunately I probably can’t. I wanted to say it here so you knew it wasn’t just something I was telling you.
Do NOT worry about me though, because I’m definitely NOT going anywhere. I love my life and friends here but sometimes we have to do what we have to do, and real life sometimes does get in the way. We all have seasons and things change, but Imvu is flexible and it’s never been better for me.
Sure it’s only symbolic and it doesn’t create any actual physical commitment. But a lot of things here are symbolic but it is still a very powerful thing and feeling. Before the wedding I was rereading my wedding tips and one line stuck with me. It’s as important as you make it. That is probably true of a lot of things in here but especially of marriage.
I’m proud and thrilled to be her partner and to commit myself to pleasing her. I was already putting her first, but there is something special about saying it in front everyone so clearly. It is the most amazing feeling to stand there in such a beautiful dress in front of her and all your family, crying and promising yourself.
I talked to a friend who has been dating the same person for a long time. She said her partner didn’t really want to be married and was happy as girlfriends. And I can appreciate that. I was so afraid to get married for a long time. And theres clearly no teal need to get married here. But even if they aren’t really ready for it or thinking about that, if you ask them in a good way that gives them the ability to quietly say, no they’re not ready yet, I think it can be a great thing for most relationships. Just make sure they understand that it’s not necessarily a yes or no thing but a yes or not now thing.
I honestly knew pretty quickly with Taylor that I wasn’t just close enough or in love enough to marry her, but that I was meant to be with her. I don’t mean to go on too much about her but I really do love her more than I can ever say. So bear with this newly wed a little.
PS. Thank you to everyone that sent even the shortest nice note. It means a lot and reminded me that the names and pics in your list are real people. That might sound dumb, but its easy to get used to seeing people and let them become invisible. And it reminded me that even if you get a chain letter type message, or just an announcement type thing, write back just to say hi. Being in contact and on their list and messages is worth it.
Sure, I admit that I don’t always physically do what I describe, but I emotionally do. Real life gets in the way, and there are definitely times when I don’t have enough privacy and can’t. That’s just life. But I do it for the same reason I fake it sometimes in real life, because it’s important to please my partner, not just in a gratification way, but because of what it does for the relationship. There’s something about how we’re made that we not only need that love, but need to share and give it to someone we love.
My favorite position is usually one that I can see the other persons eyes, because I want to look deep into their eyes and into their soul as I feel that feeling of pure ecstasy. It’s important to make that connection. It makes me feel so close and wonderful and I want my partner to feel that too when they look at me. I want to hold on tight, because it’s not a porn movie and I kind of feel that same holding them even when it’s not sex. I like a finger (or something) in my mouth when I come, even if I can’t suck just because it makes me feel so sexy. And then grabbing his finger in the movies or in the car… well you know.
I’m not here to fake things, but I’m not just here for myself either. So sometimes it’s more important to love and please your partner, and express your love for them, than anything else. It’s great when you you really truly KNOW your partner here and feel their heart and soul and dedicate yourself to pleasing them. You know you’re in love when it’s not about having sex or orgasms as much as it’s about wanting to do anything to please the person you love, and feel that passion with you.
It’s very hard to explain how awesome I feel right now. I feel like I go from one once in a lifetime love affair to another. But even with all the awesome amazing and often mind blowing times I’ve had in the past almost two years here, I’ve honestly never felt so absolutely incredible in my life.
I feel like I’m floating through my day and walking on sunshine even running around with kids at dance and scouts and band practice in the rain. I feel guilty saying this a little because I don’t want it to sound like I’m bragging.
I’m just a boring conservative happily married mother of 3 that just needed some excitement. I just kind of see my role here as trying to explain and show how much fun this can be. It can honestly make your whole world feel feel bright and beautiful, and I don’t mean just your IMVU world. I’m sorry this doesn’t have any deep point, other than to say WOW, I’ve never felt so happy, so amazing in my life.
I know I’m not the first person to say that but I really am having more fun than a human being should be allowed to have! Sometimes I say it differently, that I’m the luckiest girl in Imvu. If you feel like you are, I won’t argue because I’m glad for you, especially if we are friends. But I have the most amazing loving friends, which you can see in here a little.
I also have mind blowing once in a lifetime sexy adventures oh… at least several times a week. I get to basically live one fantasy after another. My job so to speak, if you could call it that, is to live out fantasies and share them here, along with enough good advice and stories about Imvu to make it a valuable resource for everyone.
I have several things irl that could probably depress me if I wasn’t here. My husband has had a lot of physical challenges and they are actually especially bad this past week. But I am anything but depressed and am able to honestly whisper to him that I would do anything for him and help him much easier having this insane place. None of our realities are perfect. But this does fill a need and help me to be there more patiently and lovingly than I think I would have been able to be otherwise.
So I’m the luckiest girl in the world and having more fun than anyone should be allowed to have but that doesn’t mean everything is perfect. The most amazing part though is being able to honestly say that in spite of everything else, not because of it. That really is very special and I appreciate IMVU very much. I hope you stick around and have at least half as much fun as I do.
I’ve certainly put a few pictures of her up lately but I haven’t publicly announced my twin sister, Katy (Quidlyn). I didn’t think I had a last name, cause Kaitlyn is my first name (although spelled a hair different irl) but it turns out that I do have a last name, Lyn.
It is an interesting coincidence that both our avi names and even our real names are extremely similar but the real reason we are twins is that we are even more similar inside. That’s a little harder to explain but we can and have talked for hours. I’ve never met anyone so easy to talk to and we didn’t just connect but felt like we realized we were connected. There was just no other way to describe it.
And anyone interested in twin fantasies just send your request to Quidlyn with several gifts and I’ll do anything with her. Hehee… I’ll have to work on some fun twin fantasies soon too.
Nod Nod… :)
Yes and Yes. I’m kind of weird I guess, being straight and happily married to a man in RL with three kids, and married to a the sexiest woman I’ve ever met in here. I was mostly lez when I started in here, afraid that every guy would turn into a stalker or that it would hurt my RL marriage. It also seemed that women were easier to talk to and it wasn’t centered around or focused on sex. Over the past year I’ve gone from being unwilling to friend guys to having half my sex with them, but I have to confess I don’t have the type of relationships with guys that I do with girls.
Sometimes people assume that if I’m married here that means I’m taken. Marriages here have a lot more variety than they do in real life. I feel like I have the best of both worlds cause my IMVU wife doesn’t just allow me to have fun, she pushes me like crazy, not just to have fun but to share my heart and I do. The connection with Holly is way above anything else, but it’s an amazing feeling to feel so much in love with her and have so much fun at the same time. It makes me feel even closer and so much more appreciative of her. The badder I am the more she likes it, and the more fun it is for me as she pushes me. This wouldn’t be for everyone but is so one of the reasons why I say I’m the luckiest girl in imvu.
Update July 2012: Almost a year later, we’ve downgraded, not broken up, just not really married any more. I still love Holly with all my heart and know she loves me. But her priorities have changed a little and she isn’t on that much and despite my protests, thought I needed to be free to love and be loved more. She’s still the sexiest person I’ve ever met in here. I didn’t really want it, felt safe being married sort of, though I have to admit I do like being single to some degree. I think the key is to be happy no matter where you’re at in here, and you really can be as happy as you make your mind up to be pretty much.
October 2012: This tends to be a little fluid. Holly basically left IMVU, going in other directions so I’m pretty much on my own and enjoying a lot.
The Urban Dictionary Definition of Kaitlyn
Hot, gorgeous, sexy woman. Who loves to have a good time. Gives good advise and very wise. is very caring when it comes to other peoples problems, she is very trust worthy. Loves it rough, but you better watch out because her nice church girl personality will fool you, once you get to know her your will find that there is a wild women inside waiting to show herself. Everyone wants to bang her but she’s taken. Every guy wants her but they cant have her, has amazing boobs and ass. But don’t touch or she will fuck your world up.
I’m really just a regular person who was curious and came here to feel sexy in a safe, fun way and was totally unprepared for the dazzlingly unique world of virtual relationships here. I spent the first week or two here, just exploring empty rooms because I was afraid to talk to people. I was even more scared when I saw how strong virtual relationships can become here. Being very happily married I was very afraid how this would impact my real life family. I made lots of mistakes and kept saying I wish there were teachers or some way to learn from other people’s experience in here.
I started this because I thought there should be a place for people looking for some type of help or a guide. So I writing this to share some random ideas and help anyone interested.