I would honestly be one of the last people to ever be into bondage in real life, but some of that in here can be fun and create powerful emotions. If you can’t experiment and do things you’d never do in real life here, where can you?!
I’m really not into BDSM and don’t want to make that my life. But I really love being able to experience such a variety of extremely powerful emotional things here. Relationships are built on shared emotions and this can certainly be very intense and emotional.
If you really get into it, the powerful contrast between and combination of fear and pain and pleasure, even if they’re only in your head is shockingly potent. It does take a strong loving connection to be able to trust someone that completely. And passion with someone you really love is always more intense, although a first time encounter that really connects is exciting too.
This is a chat I had meeting someone for the very first time. It was fun and I was enjoying it and I know things can happen fast in here, but this was ridiculous. The point is you might not want to ask someone for a total commitment up front before you get started and really have much fun. It’s kind of like asking them to marry you at the beginning of the first date. You might think to yourself you want to marry them on the first date, but don’t ask the girl to then and there and require that before continuing. He didn’t know the first thing about me.
I guess if you’re looking for someone weak and totally eager to submit (even to someone they don’t know), this might make a little sense. But you’ve got to make them love you before demanding it, at least in my book. His fifth line was “welcome to your new home, girl”
His 9th through 12th lines of text were:
Gyrisel : you are mine forever. you are a slave. this is your place in life
Gyrisel: ((then submit to me in rl as well as here. make your profile show youre mine))
I played along and even bought and put on his things trying to make it fun and play it out. I changed the name because I’m not trying to hurt anyone at all, but I just write about my experiences here and about things I hope will help people learn and have a better time here.
I had the privilege of attending one of the most amazing and impressive things I’ve seen in IMVU, a good friend Brenda’s collaring ceremony with Holly. This whole world is hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced it for themselves. I think it’s hard because of the intensity of the emotions and because it’s so different than most of the things in our real life. But out of all the things in here, collaring is even harder to explain, even after you’ve been here a little while. At least it was for me, and I didn’t really understand it until I really got to know some amazing subs and saw the intensity of their relationships. I think they are the best example of how great IMVU can be as a team sport, and they can be some of the strongest relationships in many ways.
When I put it in terms of a relationship and realized that it’s essentially just a marriage with a different balance of power. Talking with Brenda before the ceremony we talked about how it was letting down the walls. The intimacy of surrendering so completely is awesome to watch let alone experience. The secret is that Imvu is about relationships and this can clearly be one of the strongest type of relationships and most amazing pure IMVU experiences.
I can’t show the whole ceremony but I made a video of the vows and while you can only get a small fraction of the emotion from watching a small part of it in a video without knowing the people and seeing the whole build up, but I hope you can get a sense of some of the power and intimacy. I hope you appreciate this rare opportunity to see a small piece of the most intimate of ceremonies.
I want to quote a little of the Mistress’ background explaining it.
Holly: What follows is not altogether different from a wedding. It is a formal recognition of the exchange of love and understanding we two have found between ourselves. This collar represents that both of us are always willing to be responsive to each other to love grow and learn together, the ultimate in respect and honor. Brenda will continue to do her best to fulfill my wishes. And I will always be there to kiss away her tears and share her laughter, and be understanding, appreciative, and treat my beloved Brenda with both loving tender hands and the harsh whip or paddle when she needs that! She is learning.. and I love our new student.
Holly: While many see a collar simply as a symbol of being owned by the one who wears it, it also implies a great responsibility for the owner to care for the one who willingly wears it. We do not “own” Brenda.. Brenda “owns” us, me, our House, and our Family. In Our House, collar does not signify slavery. And no woman in this House shall be called slave in the sense of one with no rights. You are all subjects and as subjects, beholden to me as I am sworn to love, honor and protect thee. A woman may wish to be “slave” in private, with lovers, but it is her own choice and voluntary.
There are a lot of different kinds of intimacy in here and I hope this helps to give you a rare glimpse into a very powerful and unique side of IMVU.
I should start out by saying I’m one of the most conservative (yes and boring) people in real life. I’d never touch BDSM in real life and if I even looked at it my husband would probably freak out too. I warmed up to vampires and demons and a lot of things faster than bondage. But I’ve kind of figured it out here in a sense I think. This is a great place to experiment in a safe way with new things you’d never do in real life. And it’s all virtual so it’s COMPLETELY safe and the edginess does kind of make it fun if you really play it up.
I also think a lot of the best imvu fantasies involve a way or reason to let go of yourself and the usual restraint that you have (no pun intended). We are all told to behave and be good, and a fantasy is a great way to let go of that and let the bad animal side out. BDSM is a way to do that, to feel owned by someone else, made to please them or helpless to resist them. That feeling is exciting even to someone that would NEVER do any of this crap in real life. Maybe especially to someone who couldn’t do any of this, lol.
BDSM is also very visual and lends it self to imvu poses, the anonymity of this place and sometimes blatant sexuality. I kind of think of BDSM as in the cateogory of Stripping, Vampires, and Furries. It’s so IMVU that you almost have to try it at least a little, if you’re here for any length of time. I don’t want BDSM all the time, by any means. But if I can try it and have fun with it you probably can too, when you’re ready. Don’t rush because if you’re not comfortable there are a lot of other fun things you can do. You can have a great time here and never try this, but it is very powerful and sexy and popular for a reason.