IMVU Basics

I see hidden things

kait xray glassesI don’t have X-ray vision or secret glasses but I know a couple little tricks that show hidden outfits and hidden products. It’s really absurdly easy to do. It only takes adding two keystrokes.

All you do to see the inventory in a room is right click in the room and select inventory. Then in the URL in your browser add -e after imvu before the .com and wait for the add and then hit skip and you can see the hidden outfits and products in the room.

You can do the same thing when you are looking at a developers catalog to see hidden things but it doesn’t let you buy them. Side note: if you’re a developer if you let your VIP expire for a month anything before then can’t be seen and is safe from prying eyes, though that means giving up your categories and whispering etc for a month, which I’m doing now.

The outfit trick is neat and I often open and save the inventory URL in case I ever want it. There are a lot of other great tools at imvu-e.com. It’s a great resource.


I can’t act this way in real life

Happy Birthday KrisA lot of the benefit here stems from the anonymity. It frees you to do or be anything you want to, and to be more aggressive more sexy more bad more exciting more of whatever you want. We all need or crave that freedom in some ways.

sexy imvu birthday partyWe do the right thing in life, we try to be respectable and we care about what other people think of us. We have to live with our choices in real life. In here you can experiment and be much crazier and freer than you ever would be in real life.

It’s not that we are hiding things about who we are really, we all just want to control who we are and our life a little bit more or do things a little bit differently in here. Nobody shows everything exactly as real life in here. You don’t have to and aren’t expected to 100%. But on the other hand don’t go so far that you lose credibility by having to make bigger and bigger stories.

You need enough reality to be able to relate and connect with your life here and to stay consistent. Over time people will see little things about you that lineup and make sense and make them more comfortable and feel closer, or they’ll see things that make them leery and nervous and pull back a little.

imvu birthday partyThese are real people, and even more importantly these are your friends, and you have to remember and respect that. Don’t do anything to them that you wouldn’t want someone to do to you.

Don’t let the anonymity and excuse to abuse your friends. If you value your friendships, don’t make bigger and bigger stories or more and more crazy things. Sometimes lies or stories or exaggerations tend to grow and grow. It may seem exciting and fun at first but you are literally hurting the most important thing you have in here. That’s your credibility, the faith people have in you, and your relationships. That’s all you really have here, so don’t trade that for an exciting story that fizzles.

It’s great when it feels real, but just because it’s not real doesn’t mean you feel it any less. Sexy imvu dancers These are real people and if you stay on track things will get better and better and better, but if you start to get off track and out of balance you will crash very painfully too.

Things grow more quickly but are more fragile in imvu than real life too. It’s not meant to last like real life is. It’s got more of the live fast and die young experience and attitude. Think of it like a movie. The closer you stay to reality, and what you know, the more believable it will be and the stronger and more lasting it will be.


Begging for gifts

topless pink pug2It’s fun to have new clothes and dress up nice but… I don’t think that’s really the point. The amount of fun you have here is not determined by how many different outfits or items you have and it’s definitely not how many credits you have. If you don’t have money for credits you can review products or do some of the special offers.

begging2Sure it’s fun to have some new toys but what really makes it so much more fun is having good friends. And begging for gifts kind of hurts your friends and pushes them away more than anything else. It hurts your friendships And for what? Another sexy dress in your virtual closet?

You’ll find some people that will pity you, and if you ask everyone for gifts sometimes you’ll get some but most of the time you’re insuring that you don’t make the really good friends that you would have. I understand that gifts are a way that you show appreciation and make someone feel loved. But that’s when they’re GIFTED, not when you begged for them.

I want to help people and giveaway a lot of things to friends and even people that I just meet but I don’t really do it because I have to or because they ask me to, I do it because I WANT to. You can see my stats on my homepage and You’ll see that I have almost 5900 items in my generosity score, because I enjoy sharing but not because people ask for things. The way to be rich in here is to be rich in friends! Gifts are for showing you love someone, and you don’t come out and ask someone to love you, you love them and be a friend to them first.


Real-life is first but…

Fairy Love in IMVUJust because we always say real life first, that doesn’t mean that this can’t be just as good or better in some ways. That is a difficult thing to admit sometimes but it is true.

Fifty shades of Gray in IMVUI have a great life, and love my family and my husband tremendously. I try hard to my real life first, all the time. We went to a farm and got pumpkins rode a horse and did the hay maze. Kids are good and make you stay focused to some degree. This just fills in in between and seems to be good for me at giving me a little bit of the fun that real life sometimes lacks.

some people make imvu so specialI don’t want to talk to much about my real-life sex life on here because I don’t know who will eventually read it. But just because real life comes first, that doesn’t mean that the passion here is any less real or intense. Another way to say it is that, just because real life comes first, doesn’t mean that this is any less important to me.

It didn’t start out this way of course, but it does grow on you. This isn’t addictive because it’s painful. I think some people have problems because its so good and so real. People also run into problems letting or wanting it to be more than just virtual. sexy imvu harem girls

It’s not hard to believe I guess that a fantasy could be fun or addictive. It can be literally anything you want, and you do have to keep real life first but this can be absolutely amazing and so much fun!


What’s the Purpose of IMVU?

intimate love in imvuWhy are we here? What’s the real purpose of IMVU? I came here initially to feel sexy again. After kids and 9 years of marriage, I wanted a safe way to feel sexy. It wound up being more.

After the sexiness I realized the intimacy was even more special. You can get the sexiness from A video or romance novel. But you can’t get the feeling of intimacy you get here from a video or feel so connected.

I used to tell a friend that all I wanted was to know her heart and share mine with her. Maybe that could be the ultimate purpose for this crazy place. It’s sexy, it’s fun, but the real value, the real purpose of this to me may be to connect in a very special and deep way. That doesn’t require sexiness although sex is a great way to solidify a good relationship. But sex alone doesn’t make a relationship.

Another interesting question is, what is the purpose of this blog? It’s a combination of three things (in no particular order). It’s to help and talk about issues and give them some interesting ideas and helpful advice here or there. It’s to connect and bond with readers and encourage friendships. Thirdly, it’s to explain a little bit of this crazy experience to the outside world. Oh, and maybe it’s a little bit entertaining along the way.

You may have other ideas about the purpose though. It’s different things to different people. So add your idea in the comments!


Real-Life is first but…

imvu transformationJust because we always say real life first, that doesn’t mean that this can’t be just as good or better in some ways. That is a difficult thing to admit sometimes but it is true.

I have a great life, and love my family and my husband tremendously. I try hard to my real life first, all the time. This just fills in in between and seems to be good for me at giving me a little bit of the fun that real life sometimes lacks.

I don’t want to talk to much about my real-life sex life on here because I don’t know who will eventually read it. But just because real life comes first, that doesn’t mean that the passion here is any less real or intense. Another way to say it is that, just because real life comes first, doesn’t mean that this is any less important to me.

It didn’t start out this way of course, but it does grow on you. This place isn’t addictive because it’s painful. I think some people have problems because its so good and so real, that it can mess you up. People also run into problems letting or wanting it to be more than just virtual, or when it falls apart because it can be just as real and intense on the negative side when you mess up too.


You can take this with you

cell phone loveYou’ve heard the expression, you can’t take it with you… Well you CAN take THIS with you! No matter where you go, you are able to hang out with your friends and share what ever you want from anywhere. Right now, one of my best friends is in New Orleans, and another is in London for a couple week vacation. I miss them but still get to see them a little bit here and there when they can get a few minutes free.

Another of my best friends used to travel all the time. This is excellent In that type of situation. There is something very special about feeling so connected and able to spend time with your friends no matter where you find yourself.

kiss the phoneWhen I’m away, it’s often with family so I try to be good and really just miss the friendship. But sometimes when you are away if you are alone this can also be Very reassuring in a sexy kind of way. It’s hard to have a social life anywhere else if you are traveling all the time, but the Internet is never very far away today.


Is IMVU MORE real than real life?

snuggling with the sweetest girls in imvuYou can be ANYTHING, with no facade, no rules, no judgement. It’s not more physical, but the emotions can certainly be stronger than real life. It definitely lets the real you out more than real life.

I guess it depends on your definition of “Real.” If you mean the “outer” you or the surface you, then no, it’s not more of that. But if you believe there is something more inside you, then this is the way to let it out. In here, you can be different, you can be totally unique!

Look at those eyesYes, you need a real life, of course, we all do. But I bet if you really got in and looked around and let yourself go a little bit in here, you would find that you need this too. Or that some of this can help at least fill in the gaps a little and add to the whole you.

It’s also nice to be able to let other people in more, then we do in regular every day life. Whether it’s just for passion, or you build relationships or you just have fun or amazing friends or the family you wished you had, you can find it here. Let the real you out! Let other people in and you just might find that it is real.


Better Safe than Sorry

imvu jail cellmate

imvu jail cellmateThis place can certainly be very emotional. And while I don’t have many issues or drama personally, you still have to be safe and respect that line between virtual and real life. Once you open the door it’s hard to put the tooth paste back in the tube. It’s easy to say the wrong thing or have something get taken the wrong way and offend someone. No matter how much you love someone right now, there’s a reasonable chance they won’t always love you as much. And if they feel hurt by anything, you don’t want to give anyone, even someone you love, the ability to do anything that risks your ability to be here or worse yet hurt you in real life.

If you’re open to real life potential it’s not as cut and dry as it is for me, being married in rl. If I had to worry if anyone in the activities I’m involved in connected me with my website, I could be in trouble and forced to let it go or kill it, which would kill me. It’s not a question of trusting one person or not, but if someone just thought it was cute and nice to send flowers, something simple could cause a major problem. If someone was jealous or blamed me for their son or daughter’s activity on here, just a phone call in anger could put this at risk. I don’t want to think about this too much but I had an issue at one point from my husband about yahoo messages that he saw on my cell phone. I immediately deleted the app from my iphone to prove it wasn’t anything. That’s the closest I’ve come to having to leave but it scared me. I am addicted and I admit it, which is why I try not to risk things.

chained in loveNobody’s worth risking everything here for. I walk away from people who don’t understand that, and are asking for pictures or video cam. (especially guys because they feel much more stalker-like when they say it) But please don’t take my concern to mean I don’t love you or feel close. It’s the opposite actually, its because I do care about people here very much. I want to be able to share the things that matter, but no matter what bump or issue we have I won’t mess with that or your life. Also because of the website and my name, I also can’t really change my avi name or prevent people from accessing my website very easily. So if this is an issue with you I’m sorry, but I don’t want to risk this for anyone.


What to expect in IMVU

do the imvu dance with people you love

imvu fun lion king dancingWelcome to my secret life, my inner smile, my souls retreat, my love, my heart. This isn’t just a game or a toy. It’s more real than a reality show, more emotional than a soap opera, more passionate a brothel.

You’ll meet zombies and dragons and people from every corner of the world. You’ll dance with cats and vampires and You’ll laugh so hard your cheeks hurt and cry your heart out. You will fall in love and it’ll fall apart in a heart beat. Then you’ll fall in love all over again.

You’ll find what you didn’t even know needed and experience more emotion than you ever thought possible. do the imvu dance with people you love It’s a fantasy and a dream that you’ll never want to leave. You’ll lose more sleep and have more sexy clothes than you ever thought possible.

You’ll make friends and laugh and cry. You’ll really communicate more than you can with even your best friends in real life. You’ll make mistakes and get hurt and hate it at times. But watch out because you’ll get addicted to it too.


IMVU Completes Me

imvu butterfly

Katy said it, and the more I thought about it, the more I realized how true it was. “Imvu completes me.” It’s amazingly flexible and can be anything you want, whatever you need in your life. It’s the chance to do what you have had a chance to do when you were young. It can be supportive. It can be your social life. It could just be an outlietIt’s the place to experiment and try things you’d never be able to do in real life. You’ll make friends, go to all kinds of places, and do anything and everything you can imagine.

Another special friend put it another way. She said, “It’s funny how this place makes you think about things or realize you have been missing things that you didn’t even know existed in that part of you.” It can complete your life even if you didn’t know you were missing anything!

We all come from different places and points in our lives. We may or may not even know what we’re looking for and it’s different for everyone. But if you stay here long enough, and really open up, you might just find what you didn’t even know you were looking for. I came here because I wanted to feel sexy, but one of the things I didn’t really realize I was also looking for was a sense of belonging. I have a lot of sexy fun but it’s the friendships that matter the most.

Try new things, build relationships and have fun with it. Hopefully you’ll find what you’re looking for too.


The Good Bad and the Ugly in IMVU

the good bad and the sexy in imvu

the good bad and the sexy in imvuThere is a lot of good and fun things in here but there’s also a lot of bad too. The anonymity of this place and the Internet makes it a magnet for people with issues. Don’t let your guard down or think that because you know someone here that you can trust them.

When you open up and feel so amazingly close to someone it’s easy to feel like you can bend the rules or you have to trust someone you love so much. Unfortunately once you let things out you never know who knows what. Remember you don’t show someone you love them by breaking the rules. You show them you love them by NOT letting them break the rules. Unfortunately when things go wrong they often go very wrong in here, and the people you’re the very closest to are the most likely to be upset and may feel hurt enough to want to hurt you.

Imvu doesn’t want to talk about it or seem to want to do anything about it either but there are child pornographers and predators in here. I know someone that was pursuing them and I’m trying to get her to tell the story. I live in and talk about the good side here. My job with this is pretty much showing how much fun it can be and trying to inspire you. But just know that there is a dark side and the rules about protecting your personal information aren’t just guides and they are there for a reason, to protect you! Enough said but know that I love you and want to help you have fun but stay safe above all.