I didn’t get to say goodbye…

Usually I would not write something in personal on the blog of IMVU Tips but today, with tears in my eyes did I had strength enough to write something personal!

Last Wednesday evening I received a message from Frederique, my classmate for the past 4 years. Her message sounded so happy, she and her father were invited to visit a client’s location in Kuala Lumpur, just in time before we get to hear if we passed our school examination. Her last message to me said, “Wendy, until next week, a little exciting, but we will get that examination, really, see you soon xxx”.


“Hello mum, bye daddy, bye grandpa, bye grandma, bye brother, bye sister, bye boyfriend, bye girlfriend.”

It sounded solid Thursday morning for a check in at flight MH17, Malaysia Airlines. An exuberant atmosphere, families with suitcases, young people with backpacks. Already wearing summer shorts, or even had their sunglasses on their heads to meet the sun.

“Happy holidays and, hey watch out”. One last hug and then run through the customs. Again they look back, again waving. They laugh, “Bye bye, we’ll meet you again in about three weeks”.

Screaming and excited they’re left unaware it would end tragically.

Nobody even had a thought that this could be the last time, the last hug, the last words! Would she still be angry about last week? Does he know how much I love him? Would she have known? Would it have hurt?

On July 17, 2014 at 12:14 departed flight MH17 from Malaysia Air, with 298 passengers for their destination to sunny Kuala Lumpur, to celebrate holidays, to visit family or to switch to another flight.

2.5 hours later the plane crashed in the Ukrain. At first, it wasn’t clear whether it was an accident or an attack, but no one survived the disaster.

Schiphol Amsterdam, the Netherlands – destination “death”.

“Hello mum, dad day, day grandpa, grandma day, day brother, sister day, day boyfriend, girlfriend day”, Frederique and father, rest in peace.


Never go without saying goodbye,
never leave without a kiss.
Who will meet the fate,
can’t do it tomorrow.

Never go without talking,
that sometimes need a heart so much.
Of what you leave in the morning,
could be there at the evening no more.

6 responses

  1. Wendy, thank you for sharing…. (crying!) It’s painful but special to feel and share that. We watch the news and see what happened but it’s hard to appreciate it the same way from here not knowing the people personally. Your very personal message makes it much more real and touching. Thank you for sharing and making the world feel a little bit smaller. Our prayers definitely go out to you and Fredrique’s family and friends and everyone touched by this horrible attack.

    July 20, 2014 at 7:09 pm

  2. so so sorry Wendy so sorry for all the friends and families… i suppose its nice that imvu can help make the whole world feel a little smaller, and really helps you understand and really feel the things happening on the other side of the world.. both the good times, like hanging out with brazillians and germans for the world cup, but also the bad… luv u wendy. hugz!

    July 20, 2014 at 7:17 pm

  3. Wendy sent another message that I thought showed grace and love and was worth including. It’s great how IMVU makes the world smaller and allows us to feel the connection and issues with people in other parts of the world. We love and pray for you Wendy.


    Today, the day of remembrance, silent marches, church services and national mourning. About a week ago our whole country welcomed our Dutch football team at Amsterdam airport which became 3rd place in Brazil at the World Cup of football, a few days later we all got the terrible news by television, radio or through social media of the airplane crash of the Malaysia airlines flight MH17. Happiness, fun and happy faces turned over into fear, fear of asking for what happened above Ukrainian ground. The World cup of football will not long remaining in our memory when we think of the scarves which will grieved deeply in our hearts when we think of what happened at the 17th of Juli. In this violent crash, performed by Russian separatists, the Russian or Ukrainian army, did I lost a dear friend and her father. Therefor and how difficult this is…sigh, will I temporarily, not being online, and I ask you all for your understanding. I will come back, once I have given this loss a place. I love you all xxx Wendy

    July 23, 2014 at 6:09 pm

  4. Sigh, slowly, the consequences of a cold war will be going on, after the crash of the Malaysian passenger airplane MH17 above Ukrainian ground. America, Canada, Australia and the European Union accused Russia by supplying weapons to the Sepratisten and imposed sanctions on Russia, Russian companies and people personally. Russia therefore, strikes back with sanctions against all these countries. Our small little Dutch country exported in 2013 for about 1.5 billion in agricultural products, therefore as most important to us, about 390 million of flowers and plants. A very large customer of ours, and we are now also, exported roses and other flowers to Russia. Right now there are trucks, fully loaded at the borders and they may not go in…sigh.
    It’s so hard to see how governments have been fighting a cold war by the fate of nearly 300 innocent victims. Victims while traveling to their vacation destination, families with small children, but also people who were traveling home and for no reason been shot down from the air. A cold war, a war we won’t been asking for, certainly not the people who were in that plane or neither the people of the village where the plane has been crashed…sigh.

    I do ask myself each time, “why!”.

    The world needs peace,
    It’s a scream that loud sounds,
    and through cloudy fields,
    penetrates into the wide sky.

    Humanity sighs full of fears,
    and who is it who offers a solution?
    the indignation and despair,
    staring into the distance!

    A child cries for his mother,
    she was killed by a brute force,
    and no one there could be found,
    who offered them salvation and protection.

    The world shudders,
    and weeps for what is to come,
    because the word “Peace”,
    won’t exists in some “World Sufferers” list of words…

    August 7, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    • We love you…. Ik hou van jou Wendy :)

      August 11, 2014 at 2:07 pm

  5. So sad to hear and stil not forgotten, heard it on the news again today.

    October 19, 2014 at 9:17 am

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