Does pretending make it real?
This is kind of an interesting question. It actually does in some ways. Of course pretending to be a vampire doesn’t make you really a vampire. Physical things don’t change because you pretend them. The line is a lot blurrier when it comes to personal attributes.
If you pretend to be brave or timid you are actually brave or timid in here. If you pretend to be a jerk and obnoxious in here then you are actually being a jerk and obnoxious. Pretending obviously doesn’t change the physical things, but it does change the non-physical things because those are more based on your actions and behavior then anything else.
I went into a room recently and some of the people were “pretending” to be obnoxious to someone. Now if you know the person pretending and they have a solid history of not being that way, one session of pretending doesn’t change your perception of them. One of the nice things about meeting new people, is that you don’t have any past baggage and you really can be whatever you want to be.
So be careful about “pretending” or role-playing negative characteristics. Sometimes role-playing something extreme or negative can be exciting but be careful and make sure you aren’t actually changing people’s perceptions of you, especially new people who don’t know you.
One last interesting thing about role playing emotions. There’s actually very little difference between playing an emotion and really feeling it. In fact you’ll probably even find that if you pretend to feel an emotion well enough and long enough, you actually DO feel it!