Does pretending make it real?

kaits fairy songThis is kind of an interesting question. It actually does in some ways. Of course pretending to be a vampire doesn’t make you really a vampire. Physical things don’t change because you pretend them. The line is a lot blurrier when it comes to personal attributes.

If you pretend to be brave or timid you are actually brave or timid in here. If you pretend to be a jerk and obnoxious in here then you are actually being a jerk and obnoxious. Pretending obviously doesn’t change the physical things, but it does change the non-physical things because those are more based on your actions and behavior then anything else.

star wars in imvuI went into a room recently and some of the people were “pretending” to be obnoxious to someone. Now if you know the person pretending and they have a solid history of not being that way, one session of pretending doesn’t change your perception of them. One of the nice things about meeting new people, is that you don’t have any past baggage and you really can be whatever you want to be.

So be careful about “pretending” or role-playing negative characteristics. Sometimes role-playing something extreme or negative can be exciting but be careful and make sure you aren’t actually changing people’s perceptions of you, especially new people who don’t know you.

One last interesting thing about role playing emotions. There’s actually very little difference between playing an emotion and really feeling it. In fact you’ll probably even find that if you pretend to feel an emotion well enough and long enough, you actually DO feel it!

4 responses

  1. Anonymous

    It’s very true..

    April 15, 2014 at 6:51 pm

  2. luv that fairy outfit… super cute rustic wings

    April 28, 2014 at 9:34 pm

  3. but yes, this is great advice.. fake it til you make it.. works in rl, but especially here. i’ve always been an uber shy person, but i’ve been forcing myself to fake it ever since i signed up as a tour guide in college, and so i was shocked when one of my bridesmaids told me she thought i was one of the most outgoing people she knows. imvu is an especially good place to reinvent yourself.

    April 28, 2014 at 9:44 pm

  4. Hmmmm… maybe this is one of those lessons that applies to real life. Assuming an attribute (a better way to say it?) is the same thing as having that attribute! Here even more but now that I think about it, in real life too. Though in real life sometimes your past follows you, as opposed to here where you can walk into a new room and new people and be anything much easier. Try it!

    April 29, 2014 at 1:46 pm

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