The IMVU scientist explains all the sex on here: oxytocin

oxytocinIf you stop to think about it, what we do here is really weird. I’ve talked in the past about how our brain is an excellent simulator of things we see, and imvu allows us to live out our fantasies. But let’s face it, a lot of what we do here is sex. And a lot of what we do here is form really tight relationships we call sister, sub, wife, gf, fiancee, etc… When the world is so vast and we could live out so many things, from being an astronaut, to fighting dragons, to dancing the nutcracker ballet, why does imvu seem focused on sex and marriage?

I unlocked a part of this puzzle this week talking to a friend who doesn’t orgasm during cyber sex, and therefore doesn’t see the big deal about imvu relationships. Because thinking about it, these two are linked.

Research shows that when women orgasm, they release many hormones, amongst them oxytocin. Oxytocin is the hormone associated with bonding and trust. It is the hormone that helps mothers bond with children. Making someone inhale this hormone can make them trust you. Men release oxytocin too when they orgasm, but less and only when it is with someone they love. For women, as I was warned by a former biology teacher, orgasms start you on the dangerous path to love.

And that help explains the hold imvu has over us. The sex is addicting not just because it is fun but because of the emotional ties it holds over us.

Until next time dear reader…

Your oxytocin addled imvu scientist, signing off

4 responses

  1. annaleedevane

    Well isn’t that just the truth…We fall in love and they fall asleep.

    February 19, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    • LMAO @ anna… sad but true!

      February 19, 2014 at 12:15 pm

  2. This is an interesting perspective! Even if it’s not ultimately physical in origin, I do physically respond and that physical response does affect me. It affects me a lot like it would if I were there physically. I always just figured that it was because I was very empathetic, that I can feel the emotion from a movie or even a sad commercial. I’m good at negotiating sometimes because I can put myself into the other person’s shoes more than some people. I never thought it would be so fun.

    Maybe the other part to the physical side is that I emotionally WANTED to feel that. I know I’m an eager willing participant, kind of self hypnotizing myself a little I guess. But I really DO like this and love the feeling. I was thinking last night as I drifted to sleep (rl) that I’m SOOO IN LOVE and how great that felt!

    I guess that trust is a dangerous thing in a lot of cases too. It explains why especially women stay in bad relationships. It allows guys to take advantage of people here, especially younger less experienced girls. So keep this in mind and watch for it. Enjoy it to some degree but be careful too.

    I LOVE YOU Katy!. Oh but there’s something else, because a couple of my strongest connections here aren’t sexual. Gabby and Stephanie for sure. I’ve never been bad or very physical with them but there’s nobody more connected. But at the same time, I’ve kind of regretted that sometimes because I know sex does add strength and an edge to even great relationships.

    Love you, choking you soon!

    February 19, 2014 at 12:14 pm

  3. From a note earlier today to Katy kind of about this…. Yes great sex clearly makes relationships stronger and more intense, but the truly great, the truly real ones here aren’t based on sex. Sure sex might help it sometimes, but the sex is more an outgrowth of the genuine connection than the other way around. I KNOW you know what I feels like. I feel it with YOU! I hope everyone here gets to experience and enjoy that too.

    February 24, 2014 at 11:20 pm

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