Love in IMVU is a Journey and a Process not an end point

imvu happy coupleIn life we think of Love in the Happily Ever After scenario as a final destination, something you get and hold onto for life, through thick and thin. There’s obvious reasons for that, and we hold that up as our real life ideal. Love in IMVU is the same but it’s also different. It’s not a final destination or an ending here as much as a journey or process.

HollyKaren said that 99.9 relationships end here, and she’s right in one sense. She’s right if you define succeeding as leading to real life and happily ever after and failing as ending. If you define success as going up but never coming down, then there’s very little success, because what goes up here, in the end or at some point unfortunately must come down. Whether your life situation or time availability changes or you wind up falling for someone else, things definitely change faster in here than real life. But happily ever after isn’t really the goal here for most people. Just because it doesn’t lead to real life or happily ever after doesn’t mean it wasn’t successful to me.

I can hear all the cynics out there starting up, you can have fun saying that you’re “in love” here but it’s all FAKE because you’re not actually touching them. To them I’ll say that is like calling all the shooting games fake because you’re not actually shooting living people. That’s totally true, you’re not. Except unlike shooting which is defined as a “physical” act, Love is an emotion and technically that doesn’t require physical contact.

imvu engagementPeople have fallen in love with other people at a distance for a long time. People fell in love with penpals, that they had very slow minimal contact with. Here we have immediate intense communication. So you can’t say that the love (an emotion) isn’t real just because you’re not touching them. But that isn’t the point of this post.

Love to me here isn’t defined as happily ever after. I think the success of love here is defined as how beautiful the journey is or was to you both and how good you feel afterwards. Sure there’s pain on the downside. That’s because it was so good on the upside and when you take away something that good you can’t help but feel hurt. But in the end, after the pain fades, if you still feel the love, with honest good feelings for each other, to me that’s a SUCCESSFUL LOVE.

Let me exlain. :) I loved Taylor with all my heart about 9 months ago. We had a fabulous love. Sure it’s sad that the romance wound up ending. It hurt at the time, A LOT! But in the end because it was real, and I really did want the best for her, I was happy that she was happy and in love again afterwards. I said at the time and still mean it every bit as much that I want to be her biggest cheerleader. And that’s why I had to say it here, loud and clear with all my heart, that I was totally thrilled to hear her and Stephi announce their engagement.

I say that not because I don’t love her but because I do, and honestly truly loved our time and always wanted the best for her, and for Stephi. So don’t anyone whisper or worry, and Taylor I wanna be in your wedding and life here. To me that’s a successful love in imvu. We enjoyed the process, made life beautiful for each other, and in the end love the memories and good feelings that last.

6 responses

  1. Taylor

    Kait, you are the best. This is beautiful. I agree, I’m a big supporter of the idea that just because a relationship doesn’t last, doesn’t mean it was a failure. I wish nothing but absolute happiness and love for you. Love you so, sending lots of hugs and kisses your way.

    February 8, 2014 at 3:59 am

  2. (Stephi?)

    aww so sweet .;thank you for everything Kait xxxx

    February 10, 2014 at 1:03 am

  3. Anonymous

    After reading that you have confirmed all I knew of you to be true My Lady, inside you beats the heart of an Angel and you have the mind of a poet. Your words were so moving and made me think of all those wonderful friends I have it almost moved me to tears, I have to say almost because I’m supposed to be tough:)

    February 10, 2014 at 5:47 am

    • You’re so sweet. I love that I know who even anonymous people are just by their words. Yours is obvious but I think I could tell most of my closest friends without being told at all. I know I don’t see you physically and could probably bump into you without ever knowing but I see the heart in your words!

      February 10, 2014 at 12:12 pm

  4. I also realized in writing this and talking to people that what counts in here isn’t just the love you personally get, but the love that the people you love and feel a heart felt connection with have too. We can only have so much passion personally, but it’s almost as good to see the people you love having it too. It’s amazing and beautiful to feel their love too. So don’t just let your own heart open up and love deeply, share and encourage everyone around you in every way you can too! If you thought it was hard to explain being in love here, this is even harder, but trust me, it’s sooo beautiful!

    February 10, 2014 at 12:20 pm

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