Does IMVU reduce cheating?

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First we have to start with the understanding that an online only relationship is NOT cheating. If you define cheating as watching porn or a sexy movie or fantasizing about somebody you meet, then almost everything is cheating. So for the purpose of this point, let’s define cheating as sexual physical contact. (If you think just thinking something sexy is the same as doing it, then everyone’s cheating and this whole discussion is pointless and you might be perfect but you may also be very lonely.)

I searched on the internet and found an article in Psychology Today that listed the following eight most common reasons given why people cheat. It was based on a survey conducted on an online dating site. I think I fall into numbers 4, 2, 8 and 1 (in that order of priority).

1. Lack of sexual satisfaction in your primary relationship. (This was the most common reason cited by individuals in their study.)
2. Desire for additional sexual encounters.
3. Lack of emotional satisfaction in your primary relationship.
4. Wanting emotional validation from someone else.
5. Falling out of love with your partner.
6. Falling in love with someone new.
7. Wanting to seek revenge.
8. You’re curious and want new experiences.

IMVU cheatingI would say that IMVU or a virtual relationship like this can help address at least six out of these eight issues. I don’t think these things necessarily make you cheat because we all have some of these things at times. I recognize and felt several of them, but have never had any real desire or inclination to cheat. But I do think that if there’s a safe way to address these issues without risking or hurting anything it certainly could say that it may reduce real life cheating.

So even if you can’t say IMVU actually reduces cheating it certainly is a good way to address some of the issues that can lead to cheating. The down side is that if you cross over into real life, it suddenly turns into cheating and can lead to serious real life issues and hurt your relationship.

4 responses

  1. There’s a school of thought that part of the reason crime has gone down so much in the past 20 years is because of video games, as a way to channel all that testosterone and aggression into a game instead of real life. But yea, your these makes a lot of sense. And super impressed by the research!

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    August 5, 2013 at 10:42 pm

  2. I also read somewhere about the justification of porn and even prostitution as reducing cheating and that kind of made me feel dumb that this is the wrong side of the argument to be on, if I’m agreeing with them. I wouldn’t recommend this as a way to reduce cheating necessarily, but I don’t think it is.

    I don’t think my virtual family here takes away from my love of my real family and I don’t think that my virtual love here takes away the real love in my life. They’re not crossing over and I am so happy it can’t be all that bad.

    Guns don’t kill people, people do, and IMVU doesn’t cause people to cheat, and doesn’t even cause people to have desire. The people already had the desire. IMVU can be a way to satisfy it safely, if you stay safe with it. Like guns and anything, it’s all how you use it.

    August 5, 2013 at 10:52 pm

  3. Pinklollie

    In my opinion, There is no guarantee that IMVU or any sites which provide means of having virtual relationship can reduce the percentage of cheating.. People can possibly cross the boundary when they are not emotionally strong and smart enough to resist the call of lust..

    In my case, I have sexual fantasies which Im not comfortable discussing with my husband so instead of doing it with other men around and hurt my husband and destroy myself I just resort to virtual way….but, but if I will not guard myself I may end up doing it in real life as many men online are real gamer…very good in mind games… I even might truly fell in love with them…

    Still it all depends on how we carry our virtual activities……

    April 4, 2014 at 3:41 am

    • You’re right there’s no website that will reduce or stop cheating, whether you do or not is your fault not the fault of any website. To me that’s why it’s important not to cross the line into real life at all! That’s where it becomes cheating to me and is the slippery slope.

      April 4, 2014 at 11:12 am

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