Why does it get better and better?

imvu loveOne of my best friends, says this all the time. It’s going to get better and better from here. And I didn’t believe her at first because it was already amazing, but honestly it really does seem to keep getting better and better. I was trying to think about that and understand why that is.

Most of us go through the Random sex stage. But as fun as that seems at the time we tend to go back to the one that seemed really good. Then we realize that as exciting as the new person and spontaneous situation can feel, sharing the passion with someone you really care about is much more intense.

So it’s easy to understand that it gets better as you move from the random stage as youo move into a relationship. But why does it seem to get better and better even in the relationship stage?

There's more than one kind of closeness in imvu

You can’t see it there but we’re holding hands!

I think the answer is that the more you share, the more connected you are, the more powerful it gets, and therefore the more you share and then connected you become. And so forth and so on. This spiraling, as you get to know someone, opening up and learning the turn ons if your partner, is awesome. Sure we tend to get blind, and we do fill in the blanks of the other person with what we want to see. But this is one of the most amazing things you will experience in here and it’s so addictive.

more rowingHow could you not want to come here and have that kind of love and experience? And along the way, I think we also tend to get trained, to see someone and connect the feelings you’ve had with them before. I see my lover and suddenly all the passion we’ve shared wants to come flooding back in. I feel like pavlov’s dog, seeing my love and bells start ringing in my head! Except it’s not my mouth that starts watering. giggle giggle…

2 responses

  1. It’s funny we used to talk a lot about the stages of imvu. From random sex to long term f— buddies to something more. But you’re right, the stages just keep going, we’re into something new… the new stage need a name!

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    August 5, 2013 at 11:04 pm

  2. I thought I knew the stages when I started this after I was here about a year. Now I feel like I know the stages less than I did almost two years ago. It would be interesting to name the stages because a higher percentage of us than I would have guessed at first, seem to go through the same progression. And it’s not something you see in other types of interactions.

    That’s actually why I thought that someone with a stronger psychology background should really be the face of this, someone that could really expand on things in here and submit articles to industry journals etc. Just a thought…. ;)

    August 6, 2013 at 4:06 pm

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