Look at their intentions
We all make mistakes. We say things to protect someone or do something that winds up hurting. I’m more guilty of this than most maybe because I talk to much and don’t filter or think sometimes. I justify that by pointing out that its necessary to open up and share straight from your heart to be really close.
Unfortunately, no matter how careful we are, sometimes things happen. If its someone you don’t know, all you have to go on are the actions. But when you really know someone you have to look at more than just their actions. You have to take into account their intentions.
It’s difficult to say what’s most important or make a rule. It’s a case by case judgement. But the more you know someone the more you have to look at their intentions and if possibly the context. If it hurt but they didn’t intend to hurt you, you have to try and forgive them. That’s often easier to say than to do, I know. But the right thing to do is usually the hard thing.
Private Note: I wrote this during the day Friday and now it’s the hardest thing to post. I guess it’s hard because it’s right. And I feel like shit. I’m sorry for being a jerk. I know you and that matters more than anything else. Please believe me I intended to come in and say I’m behind you no matter what and this was just an excuse to show you that I’m on your side. Then I end up feeling excluded and taken for granted and dissed and I just over reacted. I’m very sorry! (If you don’t know what this means don’t worry about it!)