This place can be a very fragile place
One of my very best friends from quite a while ago, recently left IMVU suddenly. It’s very painful to see and it almost can’t help but make you think or worry about the frailty of this crazy place sometimes. I’m sometimes envious of single friends because I worry that if we have an argument and my husband put s his foot down, I could lose this place. It’s lasted 2 and a half years so I feel like we’re making it work, and I’m less worried than I used to be. But that doesn’t change the fact that if your partner gets upset about it, you’re gonna have a problem.
I try harder to make everything else work better in my life and relationships, going the extra mile whichever possible and making sure it’s not only not an issue, but not seen as an issue. Make sure you’re MORE loving, not less with all of the people around you. Be extra supportive of them and pay attention to their feelings.
Don’t cross over into real life. It may seem safe or harmless to do something small but once you do that changes it from a fantasy into cheating. You simply can’t do the things in real life that you do in here so letting any of it into your real life or showing to much of your real life in there has no significant upside and could be very damaging. So protect yourself and your friends. If my husband gets upset about this I HAVE to be able to say, NOTHING ever crossed over and I was totally safe. If I can’t honestly say that without flinching I’ll be in trouble.
Be honest about it. Maybe this should be the first point, although the others are very important too. You don’t have to be brutally honest going into every detail. And you have to do it in the right time and way. I don’t let the program remember my password and I always make sure I put everything away. I also call it a game with him. Actually he did that first and I just went with it. We all have hobbies and things we like to do, and keeping it on that level is honest enough to me.
It could all end tomorrow. That’s why I try to be safe, why I try to be extra loving, and I try not to hurt anyone here. I think the bottom line is that he realizes this is important to me and it makes me happy without hurting anything. I honestly don’t have any better answer than that. I can’t help but worry some, but If push comes to shove I’ll do whatever it takes to make this work, because it really is priceless.