Manti Te’o’s Online girlfriend turns out to be fake

meeting people oline via imvuIs it just me or does this main stream story about a college football star’s year long relationship with a gf that turns out to be fake sound like IMVU? I heard about it on the radio and my ears perked up. I read this article about this virtual relationship on Drudge and it doesn’t say anywhere what service or program they met through. It mentions twitter and facebook a lot. It doesn’t say IMVU but how else do you get that close and have a relationship for a year with someone you never met??? It really doesn’t matter if it’s actually from IMVU or not, it’s kind of interesting and scary at the same time, how we can read into things what we want, and how vulnerable and dare I say gullible we can be at times.

We all embellish a few things from time to time. It’s a fantasy and an escape so we get to be who we want to be in some ways. Unfortunately some people tend to get off by making up more and more outlandish things sometimes. Or they make up so much that they get trapped and do the death thing to get out of the lies. I kind of think it crosses the line when you do it to gain something or lead someone on. This is a tricky thing to talk about. This place requires some faith and anonymity to make it fun. If you look at everything with skepticism this won’t be fun, but if you trust it too far, you can get hurt too. Personally, I don’t really want to see real life pics that much because I like the fantasy.

How could you get that close to someone you never met?In some ways I’m naive and easy to fool, but I have so much fun here and a good life in reality too. I keep the worlds separate and don’t cross over into real life or lead anyone on. I don’t know if I could do that if I were single though. I can honestly understand how stories like this happen too, given the intensity of the love I have felt in here. It’s just mind blowing and great but also dangerous too. I don’t have an answer, and know this won’t be the last story like this. In a lot of ways, this is why I started this blog because I think this will be a more and more common thing in the future as computers increase in their speed and capabilities daily. How do we protect ourselves and still enjoy the freedom and passion in here at the same time?

4 responses

  1. quidlyn

    oh poor guy. you know i’ve struggled with this too. after hearing about so many of these stories, i’m mostly like you, to pretty much just be blithely naive and believe everything, except in the case when believing a story might hurt somebody, and always keeping the online world separate from reality…

    January 17, 2013 at 3:19 pm

  2. Yeah it’s not like you or I are going to be in the news, but our friends and people in real life wouldn’t get it any more than anyone does for him. Keeping things separate and safe isn’t about putting virtual down, but protecting your real life that you need too. And once you let it out, it’s hard to get it back in or know who knows what. I used to think if you were both single you HAD to try to connect in real too, but I’m not so sure now. It is what it is and letting it be more can blow up.

    January 17, 2013 at 3:25 pm

  3. collettelilac

    Hmmmmm….Clues, Rumors, Clues, Rumors. The newest rumor is that Manti Te’o’s girlfriends real name rhymes with “ailtlyn” and starts with a K! l.) LOL. I love you Kaity!
    So silly! The way the media is talking about this! So, if she was not “real” then she must be artificial, like a robot? or maybe computers have now gained artificial intelligence? or the spirit world is now communicating with us unknowing, mere mortals via the internet?
    or the person Manti was communicating with’s computer took over her soul and now she is no longer human? Whatever! :)

    January 18, 2013 at 11:48 pm

    • It is funny to watch the rest of the world’s reaction to this. It says there’s such a long way to go before the real world understands much about virtual relationships. This might be an important step though. We’ll see!

      January 20, 2013 at 10:40 pm

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