Obsessive and Possessive

imvu relationships can be Obsessive and Possessive I think we are all drawn to someone that loves us. We all want to be loved. But at the same time you can have too much of a good thing and wind up scaring the other person away. There’s a fine line between loving more than anyone else and slipping into too much and being obsessive and possessive or clingy. There are a few things though that you can do though to keep it from feeling like too much.

Be Romantic. Romance feels less threatening and more attractive. It doesn’t even have to cost anything in here. It’s just the thought that counts so think romantically.

very sexy imvu girlsGive them space. Don’t act like they have to be with you every minute they’re online. Checking with them first shows they’re a priority but be super respectful of their time.

Realize that the only way to hold someone here is to love them more and make them want to stay with you. There are a million distractions just a click away and other people inviting them. And if you want them to make you a priority give them a reason. Don’t ask for a commitment. Just be committed and be a friend not just a lover. And love the person behind the screen without ever saying it.

imvu sunset hugLove them a lot but do it loosely and try to be their friend and cheer leader. Don’t try to control things to much and take your time. Have fun with it and some patience. Things progress fast in some ways here but they still take time to be real.

Cherish the time you have rather than lament the time that you don’t. So many guys spend their time with me complaining about not getting enough time with me, instead of enjoying it. and then they wonder why I’m not excited about seeing them. ~Katy

Most of all respect their real life. The quickest way to ruin something good here is to try to take it outside of here. Even if they’re not married don’t push it at all. Act like you don’t care and let them have time and get comfortable and committed. You might not have to work this hard to get someone that doesn’t have many prospects but if you want something special this is how.

4 responses

  1. i suppose another ways to put it… from buddha: suffering comes from desire.

    cherish the time you have rather than lament the time that you don’t. so many guys spend their time with me complaining about not getting enough time with me, instead of enjoying it. and then they wonder why i’m not excited about seeing them.

    September 21, 2012 at 4:53 pm

  2. That is too awesome of a point to leave in comments so I added it to the post, though could certainly write a whole post about that. Brilliant!!

    September 22, 2012 at 12:43 pm

  3. Anonymous

    glad you got a pic of me in there!

    September 23, 2012 at 4:35 am

    • Hi Danny or Nick :-)

      September 23, 2012 at 8:17 pm

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