The Science of Making Friends
A recent article in the NY Times helped answer for me a question that Kait has posed here many times: why is IMVU so powerful? The article pointed out that it is really hard to make new friends after you leave school because psychologists have found that friendship depends on three things: “proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other,” All three of these are hard to come by once you graduate so we tend to have fewer and fewer friends as we get older, but that need to connect never goes away. But, proximity, unplanned interactions and letting down your guard, are three things that imvu is the perfect invention to provide.
No wonder this place feels like High School but without any teachers or anyone enforcing the rules. I would also add shared emotions to the list. And super attractive people and sexy clothes don’t hurt either. Seriously this place does build the most amazing friendships and the most intense feelings of closeness. The good news is that you don’t have to understand it really, but you do have to be a little careful. It’s easy to get swept away, but it’s oh so yummy too.