An IMVU Conversation about what girls look for.
Did you ever wish you could be a fly on the wall listening to the private conversations about what IMVU girls look for? This was totally unplanned but I talk about a lot of stuff with my girlfriends and this wound up being such an interesting discussion I thought I’d just keep it in conversation form. I took off a little bit of pleasantry up front and edited one or two typos. I added a link or two, to posts that I’ve written about those topics, too, but other than a word or two, this is just a candid conversation about what women look for.
My friend mentioned an interview process which intrigued me and started the conversation. I cut it off when it turned to talking about specific people and things. Who the conversation was with isn’t important but she is gorgeous and has been here for several years. She’s been here quite a bit longer than me and I enjoyed hearing some of the same things I’ve found and learned from it too. And lets continue the conversation if it sparks any thoughts back to you.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i come on here to unwind
Kaitlyn: yeah it’s a fun escape
Good-friend-of-Kaits: my relationships are very real but i find that people treat each other more disrespectfully than in rl
Good-friend-of-Kaits: less consequence i guess
Kaitlyn: in here you mean?
Kaitlyn: they are more free, and some guys can be kind of single minded.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: ive been here quite a while so i try extra hard to be nice to people i find genuine
Kaitlyn: but I don’t get too much of that feeling in here.
Kaitlyn: but it’s probably a good group of friends to some degree.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: most guys are clueless in a lot of ways.
Kaitlyn: I do have great friends
Good-friend-of-Kaits: me too
Kaitlyn: Unfortunately most guys idea of RP is ordering me to take off my clothes
Good-friend-of-Kaits: guys want me to teach them then sit back and say nothing
Kaitlyn: yeah I wrote about guys needing to try to talk more just the other day.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: or expect me to be a slave right off the bat
Kaitlyn: but I have to say
Kaitlyn: The guy I had a heart to heart with about talking
Kaitlyn: did take it to heart and made a big improvement.
Good-friend-of-KaitsGood-friend-of-Kaits Whisper: thats cool
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i have a few guys ive "shaped"
Good-friend-of-Kaits: they can learn but many are limited to two step tasks
Good-friend-of-Kaits: lick it, fuck it
Kaitlyn: well sometimes that’s ok.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: theres those times…
Kaitlyn: but it’s also so easy to stand out too.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i interview a lot and i look for certain things from guys
Good-friend-of-Kaits: makes it easier to weed through them
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i play a lot but not with everyone
Kaitlyn: you interview them?
Kaitlyn: how do you select??
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i interview about 30-40 per day until i get sick of them
Kaitlyn: oh wow.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i have certain things- an introduction is always good to start
Good-friend-of-Kaits: most guys dont even do that
Kaitlyn: yeah…. I watch who’s talking
Good-friend-of-Kaits: then i like seeing if they can start a conversation’
Kaitlyn: if they’re talking they will probably be able to talk more and be better.
Kaitlyn: even if they don’t talk to me.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: talking is good
Kaitlyn: I look for older guys too,
Kaitlyn: more experience here.
Kaitlyn: interesting profile things.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: yes, older guys are more experienced and easy to get along with
Kaitlyn: you have to be careful with guys in the middle east too.
Kaitlyn: but older is hard to tell cause half the older guys lie.
Kaitlyn: everyone’s not 20.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: middle eastern guys are usually very disrespectful
Good-friend-of-Kaits: although i enjoy this roleplay
Kaitlyn: yeah this room and your harem fantasy are neat!
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i avoid gangsters
Kaitlyn: I don’t rule guys out for that but just use it as a flag.
Kaitlyn: I don’t see many gangsters
Kaitlyn: what other things do you look for in your interviews?
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i like it black but i dont like it too rude
Kaitlyn: Do you tell them you’re interviewing them for your GF?
Good-friend-of-Kaits: seduction is always a good way to get in my panties
Good-friend-of-Kaits: no for me
Kaitlyn: I don’t mind black, but too much ebonics sounds so ignorant it kind of gets to me.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i dont tell them im interviewing
Kaitlyn: oh ok :)
Good-friend-of-Kaits: it puts them off and too much pressure
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i look for creativity
Kaitlyn: Yeah, I’ve learned another question that i sometimes use
Kaitlyn: instead of my usual one about fav rp fantasy.
Kaitlyn: that puts them on the spot too much
Kaitlyn: they’re afraid to say the wrong thing a lot
Kaitlyn: so I ask what is your most fun or exciting costume.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i look for guys who share their imvu fantasies first
Kaitlyn: they usually like to show that
Kaitlyn: and it tells you ;)
Good-friend-of-Kaits: and are looking for a playmate
Kaitlyn: that’s a nice way to say it.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: thats a good question
Kaitlyn: guys with good (vivid) fantasies and looking for a playmate.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: asking about my fav role without sharing first usually puts me off
Kaitlyn: I look for something in their profile.
Kaitlyn: kind of a neg for the guys that don’t list anything at all.
Kaitlyn: like we’re going to somehow use that against them or something.
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i love new fantasies and i love fulfilling fetish requests
Kaitlyn: me too!
Kaitlyn: Sometimes I send them to my website fantasy section if they don’t understand what that is.
Kaitlyn: but it can take to long or get to engrossing
Good-friend-of-Kaits: and i HATE guys who get off but are too embaressed to tell me and just leave
Good-friend-of-Kaits: i like hearing they shot it across the room for me
Kaitlyn: I only hate that if they do it really fast before done or able to finish.
Kaitlyn: yeah much better!
Kaitlyn: Hold on I have to get something to clean the ceiling with after that baby, lol
Good-friend-of-Kaits: they want me to put out , they can at least be grateful and tell me
Good-friend-of-Kaits: and i hate when they’re too shy to ask for what they really want
Kaitlyn: and then they either want you to be their slave or gf for life
Kaitlyn: or they act like they don’t even care what you think or want anything else.
Kaitlyn: It’s OK, I just like something in between.
It went on to talk about other things, but I thought that overhearing that frank conversation would be helpful or interesting. Don’t be upset that girls are evaluating guys, that’s the process. And if you embrace that and try to learn the right answers you’ll have much more fun. It also doesn’t take much to stand out from most of the clueless guys. That’s what I’m trying to do here, to help you get better at the game and have even more fun. You can stumble into things here but this will make you a better hunter :) Besides by reading this, that says you’re probably already ahead of most guys.
Add your two cents here on this. A lot of girls probably have a few slightly different things they look for and guys may have interesting stories or thoughts about this too. Many of them might not seem that finicky but it’s all part of the dance, and part of the fun.