Is IMVU Bad or Fake?
Is email or texting less effective than talking or evil because you’re not actually talking to someone? Is it fake or stupid because you don’t really see the person you’re talking to? It certainly doesn’t replace talking to people in real life. You could say that email is fake or facebook friends are fake in a sense. I feel closer and more connected to friends on here than ones that I email with. There are people that get carried away with it and take it too far and spend too much time doing that. You could say that IMVU is more sexual, but a lot of people say that facebook has ruined their marriage when they hooked back up with people through it. So is facebook evil or bad?
The answer is that it’s not if you use it reasonably. Anything can be damaging or bad if you use it wrong or overdo it. Fast food or even vitamins can be bad for you if you don’t eat anything else. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to eat any fast food or vitamins. Yes, IMVU is addicting, but playing online games is addicting too. There are a lot of situations where IMVU can be really beneficial for people, giving them a social life that they wouldn’t have been able to have as much otherwise. I guess anything that is beneficial and so much fun is going to be addicting to some degree. And if you abuse anything it can have a downside.
I admit that I probably spend too much time on here. But the incredible fun and gratification you get here is still better for me than anything else, even when I divide it by the number of hours I’m here. So as long as it doesn’t cross over into real life, and I’m not spending too much money or taking too much time away from my family to hurt things significantly here, I think it’s a good thing. We are off the edge of the map to some degree, doing something so new that there really aren’t always answers. I guess that’s part of the reason I started this to try and figure these things out a little.
This is just one view though and there are probably as many different answers to this as there are different situations. So this is one post I think a number of people will be able to wade in on and add some perspective to.
Who is IMVU good for?
I just started making a list of who IMVU is good for. I thought there would probably only be a handful of people when I started this list but it just kept growing. This is another one of those posts that I think visitors will have a lot of good things to add, because the list seems to keep growing the longer I think about it and talk to people.
- Single mothers with children or anyone with no social life.
- Anyone that feels younger at heart.
- Shy or inexperienced guys looking to learn and gain some confidence
- People with any type of Handicap, that want to feel and interact normally with friends
- Anyone physically restricted whether for legal reasons health reasons or geographical reasons
- Anyone that travels a lot and wants to be able to see their friends where ever they are
- Physically or emotionally abused people who want a place to have fun in a safe way
- Anyone looking to experiment either sexually or in almost any interpersonal direction
- Anyone that wants to change something about themselves
- People with unusual fetishes and tastes
- Perverts, Sex addicts and ??
- Lesbians or anyone interested or experimenting in that area
- People into vampires, demons, furry colorful animals or almost anything you can imagine
- Anyone who just went through a devastating breakup
- Guys who want to be girls (or vice versa) and pathological liars
- Married people who just want more intimacy and to feel sexy in a safe way
- Anyone bored or who can’t sleep at nights or needs an escape
- Shop-a-holics
- Exibitionists
- Nudists
- Anyone interested in clothing or computer design
- People looking to meet someone in another country
- People looking for a relationship with any of the above
- An outlet for designers and artists
- Anyone looking to waste a lot of time. :-)
- IMVU is good for Dreamers!
- ??? What else can you think of…
Almost as important as who it’s for is who it’s not for. It’s not for children except possibly without very close supervision. The faint of heart also have to be careful with it because it can be a little crazy, and no matter why you come here it will effect you in ways you probably aren’t expecting.
IMVU is good for and made up of ALL kinds of people, the most diverse population you’ve ever seen, and it can blow your mind if you’re not careful.
What is IMVU?
IMVU is hard to describe because it’s so diverse. It’s like trying to describe the internet to someone that doesn’t understand computers. And the amazing diversity means that it’s a lot of different things to different people. So unlike most of the other things which I write about and and let people respond a little bit to, I think this ultimately requires the input of a variety of people to be even partially complete.
I will start it off with a few things but it’s intentionally not thorough so there’s room for more contributions. I’m going to give this post a special link in the right column so it can be added to or accessed any time. You don’t even have to give a name or email address to respond. Just share a thought or two about what IMVU is to you. Anything that seems at all related will be accepted.
IMVU is:
…a virtual world that lets you be anything you want to be.(Kait)
…like High School except with no rules or teachers. (Kait)
…a safe way to meet people and be sexy. (Kait)
…all about relationships. (Kait)
…the internet that your mother warned you about. (Kait)
…more than an addicting game, but less than real life. (Kait)
…shopping heaven, with low prices and unlimited closet space. (Morgan)
…a great place to hang out and be with friends I’m closer to than real life. (Morgan)
…virtual reality, kind of the predecessor to the holodeck. (Quid)
…a way to live and star in your own romantic comedy. (Quid)
…what you make of it. (Quid)
…limited only by your imagination. (Quid)
…unfortunately half full of people who lack imagination, or common decency and are only here for sex. But the girls aren’t that bad. (Quid & Kait)
…gives you back what you put into it and then some. (Quid)
…addicting. (Kait)
…only limited by your imagination, (or other people’s imagination.) (Kait)
…whatever you want it to be. (Kait)
Why are we here?
Why are we here? (on IMVU)
To feel sexy
As an escape
To have a social life
For intimacy
For great sex
Because of friends
To live out (role play) or just experiment with fantasies you can’t do in real life.
To meet someone special that you connect with internally (not me)
To recover from trauma (not me)
For me I just wanted to feel sexy in a safe way that wouldn’t hurt my marriage or family. The first thing that surprised me was the level of intimacy. It’s certainly not what I expected in the beginning.
The next surprisingly powerful thing is kind of related to the intimacy and that’s the friendships. The friendships aren’t based on intimacy but rather seem to develop for the same reasons. Some how it all seems to end up about relationships in a sense.
I have to add that Holly has also done a great job of teaching me the value of experimentation in here to the point that I’m always seeking out new and exciting things in here, of which there certainly seems to be no shortage of.
So I’m not here for just one of the reasons above but a mixture which I think I think is probably true for most people too. Whatever your reason or reasons I hope you stay and enjoy it as much as I do.
If you think I missed something in the list above leave a comment or contact me in imvu.
Kait’s IMVU guide and Virtual Relationship advice
IMVU is an insane place that’s all about chatting, dancing, meeting new people, beautiful sexy cartoons, shopping, sexy clothes, strip clubs, parties of every description, and of course lots of sex, all in a reasonably safe virtual way. The real secret that some people never figure out or that at least takes a long time to figure out, is that under all that, imvu is really about relationships. The variety of relationships is as vast and diverse as the two million people from over 80 countries.
Virtual relationships here can also be amazingly powerful and develop much faster here in this crazy world than in real life, without all of the distractions and nuisances of real life. Unfortunately I couldn’t find any frank real world advice about IMVU or virtual relationships. So after talking about that long enough I decided it was time to try to put something helpful for the IMVU community together. I don’t work for IMVU or even know anyone that does. This is just one crazy MILF’s random collection of thoughts and experiences in here. I try to keep most of the more adult things in a Private Section with passwords, but many of the images are pretty sexy and geared toward an adult audience.
I hope you enjoy it and I’d love to hear your comments or feedback. IMVU User Name: Kaitlyn (send a message before Adding me as a Friend)
