Calling all Imvu Girls
I wrote a post titled “Imvu Girls” the other day after talking with someone about Internet marketing. It’s a popular query so I thought it would be smart to write about and see if I can rank for that term. I put up a short post about it with pictures of Gabby (and Katy) and now a few links and a month later that page is ranked 7 or 8 on google for the term Imvu Girls, which is awesome since the first two are imvu, and then the next three are videos, so it’s number 2 or 3 after that.
I’m sure that’s because Google realizes that my best friends are the best girls in IMVU of course. So I wanted to brag for a moment but also say that if anyone else wants their pic up there it’s GIRLS, not GIRL so I could include more if you wanted ;-) This is your website too and I want to include a few more friends and even future friends. You can put them in an album and tell me to download them or email them to me at Kaitlyn.imvu@yahoo.com. Sharing is the fun of of this, both in Imvu and the website too.
Backup your Friends
I’m like you, I don’t back things up regularly. But when something happens to a friend I suddenly think about it again. And two incidents recently reminded me of the importance of backing up your friends. A good friend, Tammy was disabled and disappeared out of the blue and nobody ever heard a word. If you haven’t experienced this it’s the most horrible experience. IMVU can be such huge dicks sometimes.
Another friend had an issue with someone who got her password and unfriended everyone on her. Things happen, and thats when you suddenly realize that you can replace credits and rooms and clothing, but if you lose your friends you may have a real hard time getting them back. My name Kaitlyn is pretty easy but most names here are really hard to remember, especially when you’re crying.
So take just a minute and make screen shots, capturing an image of your friends page. Page down and make as many images as necessary. You’ll probably never use or even look at these. Just save them somewhere in case anything ever happens. IMVU is all about relationships and losing some of those relationships is very painful. I’m backing my friends up today and hope you do too. I hope you never need this but if you do I hope you have it. It’s free and only takes a minute to do.
What to do for Valentine’s Day on IMVU
Valentines Day and any holiday really, is a good excuse to say hello to friends on IMVU that you don’t get to talk to as much. Start with a simple message mentioning that you haven’t talked in a while and go through your list. Adjust the message slightly if possible.
Sending big long flowing messages that tell them to send it to all their friends are only marginally helpful. A small more relevant message you wrote specifically for them or that looks like you wrote for them, can mean more.
You don’t have to send everyone an IMVU Gift. But you should send some special friends something. It’s not that they need things. But it adds importance and weight to your message. You can just send a 200 credit card if you don’t have many credits. (where else can you get a card for the equivalent of about 10 cents)
It’s not the amount that matters but the relevance and thought behind it that people do appreciate. Remember you’re dealing with people and the emotions here are real, even if the place is virtual. So use Valentine’s day as an excuse to spread some love, and to say hello to people you haven’t had a chance to talk to recently. Enjoy it and have a very Happy Valentine’s Day sharing that love and spirit with your friends.
Kaits week in Review
I had an idea for a fun post. This doesn’t fit into any category exactly so I’ll stick in into About Me. I take a lot of pictures of everything I do in here. This morning I had 239 Megs of pics and a few video clips before lunch, (I know crazy right). Anyway I thought it might be fun to make a quick review of this past week in IMVU. It shows in a cute way the diversity of this crazy world and how much fun it can be. All I did was pick out a picture or two from each group and sort them by date order and throw in some music and a title.
No two people will ever have the same experience in here, and I admit this probably means more to me than anyone else watching this cause these are all memories to me. But it seems to make my sleep deprived week seem good and worthwhile somehow. My awesome friends are what made it so amazing, and you’ll see quick glances of them. I hope this says in an interesting way just a little bit of why IMVU is so addicting and can be so mind blowingly fun. It sort of shows why it feels like time passes quicker in here. It’s never boring and you never know what you’re going to be doing even an hour from now. It also shows why I feel like the luckiest girl in the world in here. Just another week in IMVU…
How to handle IMVU Drama
We’re all people and as much as we try to share such good times and love with friends there will still be issues sometimes. We’re humans and unfortunately we can’t let people in with good emotions and not have bad emotions sometimes too. The good side here about feelings growing so quickly and feeling so wonderful can also go bad even faster sometimes and hurt even more than real life. We don’t have body language or other real life cues like you would in real life. So it can be easier to take something the wrong way. We also tend to fill in the gaps with positive things most of the time, but sometimes we imagine something to be worse than it is too.
Sometimes even a small little thing can be taken the wrong way and cause hurt feelings. And if you don’t address that properly you can hurt yourself and a lot of people for no reason. The first thing to do if someone hurts you is to walk away and don’t dwell on it. Don’t send messages about it or talk to other people and do NOT pulse about it. You may think telling other people will help but it may cause more damage than the original comment, both to you and to your friends. Sleep and or give it some time and then look at it with fresh eyes. Late at night it’s easy to keep going on about something but that’s the wrong thing to do.
The first thing to do is at least try to calmly talk to the person just you and them. A lot of things that seem like major issues can be resolved with communication. Give them the benefit of the doubt and at least try to talk it out. This place is built on and fosters communication but it also requires more communication to function than real life too. If that doesn’t work and you have no common friends you can just walk away very easily here. But if you have common friends you can NOT act like it’s just you and the other person or you will hurt and upset a lot of other people that you care about, which can be worse than the original incident.
My Twin Lyn
I’ve certainly put a few pictures of her up lately but I haven’t publicly announced my twin sister, Katy (Quidlyn). I didn’t think I had a last name, cause Kaitlyn is my first name (although spelled a hair different irl) but it turns out that I do have a last name, Lyn.
It is an interesting coincidence that both our avi names and even our real names are extremely similar but the real reason we are twins is that we are even more similar inside. That’s a little harder to explain but we can and have talked for hours. I’ve never met anyone so easy to talk to and we didn’t just connect but felt like we realized we were connected. There was just no other way to describe it.
And anyone interested in twin fantasies just send your request to Quidlyn with several gifts and I’ll do anything with her. Hehee… I’ll have to work on some fun twin fantasies soon too.
Nod Nod… :)
Making the most Amazing Friends
Just like the way a blind persons other senses become even more sensitive to make up for it, in IMVU you can’t see the physical and there is no little things to get in the way, so you get better at sensing the non physical. I call this IMVU vision. It’s almost impossible for someone who hasn’t been here for a while and experienced it to understand I know.
You can’t see with your eyes so you have to learn to feel with your heart. I think that’s why we sometimes feel such a powerful deep connection and I even say this place proves there is a soul. These pretty pixels and words can get pretty powerful, to the point that I feel closer to friends in here than I do in real life.
I say than “friends” in real life because I kind if feel like the friendships are more real in a sense than the love, in here. Don’t get me wrong I do love the love too, which sounds funny to say. But it’s loving friends in here that is my favorite part. I’d say the best thing I’ve learned in here is to love with all my heart. And I honestly couldn’t put just one person’s pictures up for this one so I picked a couple (not all!) of the IMVU girls who I feel so strongly connected right into my heart. You’ll find your own people and understand when it happens to you.
Living Vicariously through Friends
I know nobody really has as much fun in real life as they we do in here. But I have to confess that part of the fun in here is living vicariously through my friends. Yeah I know my life is boring but that goes with the territory, being married with kids and I love my family.
I can’t talk about some of the craziest things but ironically it’s not less fun than it looks, it’s actually more. And I love being able to share it with some of the people that read this more than I can say. So the purpose of this post is just to thank you ALL of you for being such amazing friends. You know who you are and I thank you from the bottom of my MILFy heart! Kisses, Kait!!!
Being the Right Person
My IMVU sister, Gabby has had a tagline for a while that I really like. “A relationship is more than finding the right person…. its being the right person” I think that’s especially true in IMVU where you have the ability to be almost anyone you want. If you always wanted to be more assertive, all you have to do here is be more assertive. You can literally be anything you want. That is very empowering and therapeutic in a sense.
In real life you don’t get very many chances to totally remake your personality. In here you get to do that every day. So keep it real (which Gabby is the best at!), because making this feel real is important being human and down to earth is attractive too, but if there’s a trait or quality you wished you had more of in real life, make it yours. Be the real you that you always wanted to be! That’s part of the fun of IMVU. And no this isn’t just an excuse to say I love Gabby, but I do. ;-)
Friends don’t hurt their Friend’s Relationships!
Making friends and sharing with them is one of the best parts of IMVU. But your relationships are the most important things in here, and the worst things you can do to anyone in here, is hurt their relationships. So you would think it wouldn’t be necessary to even say this. Unfortunately though it does happen. I had to walk away from someone I thought was a friend that hurt my relationship with someone I loved. She flipped out and attacked me like I was her mortal enemy for even mentioning what she was doing in private.
Unfortunately this seems to be a pattern too, as she seems to be doing it to several of her friends. It’s one thing to have some intimacy with your friends, but it’s something else to demand that to the point of getting between them and their partner. She would freak out if anyone did to her what she’s doing to her friends. Having sex with your friends can be really great and very powerful, but the friendship shouldn’t be based on or require sex, at least not for a girl. It’s always wrong to even go anywhere near hurting your friend’s relationships. Unfortunately when someone is wrong they tend to attack the messenger, so I’m sure in for it, but in a twisted way that proves the point.
Don’t Friend too Fast
Even if you’re new PLEASE don’t Add people as Friends too fast. It’s tempting to do this when you’re new and don’t have any friends yet. But trust me, it turns people off and really doesn’t help much just to fill it up with acquaintances.
You also have to realize that with IMVU Friends, it’s quality not quantity that really matters. That’s because having a huge list of acquaintances makes it harder to see your real friends and doesn’t change how many actual friends you have or make you any more popular. And if you were referred to them by someone or are friending them for a reason (like you enjoy this site), ALWAYS send them a note too or it looks like a random request which is worse than making random chat requests.
Even if you’re new only friend people that were at least friendly with and talked to. By the way, this also points out why you should be friendly toward new people. It’s much easier to make friends with new people than it is more established people. On the other hand having even just one good established friend in here can be a huge asset too. It’s also worth noting that if you are new, your best and strongest friendships are often with new people that you can relate to.
My new love Tammy
Isn’t new love the best? It makes the whole world seem wonderful and you sunny. I wanted to share a few pics of my wonderful love, Tammy. It’s only a couple days I know but I feel so awesome I just had to share. You know how that goes when you just can’t think of anything else. I love you Tammy.
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Sexy and Scary at the same time
Cyndia and Mace Poena are a great couple, have an awesome family but they would have scared the crap out of me when I first met them. They are great role players and play as tough as their costumes make them look, but are always sexy at the same time. When I was taking their pictures for my friends wall this afternoon, I was blown away by the feeling of being turned on and at least a little bit scared at the same time. The anticipation and edge to it made it more fun than I had ever expected. But that’s what you seem to get with these two.
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Kait’s new word: Framily
Framily is simply when you start out as friends and end up as family. It’s one of the best kind of relationships. In IMVU you’re not born into a family. You don’t automatically get one. You have to chose them and they have to chose you. It’s family by choice which is what makes it more special in a sense.
Sure there will be issues and some drama. It wouldn’t be a family without that. But you’re a family so you stick together and make it work, because in the long run your loyalty to and love for the family trumps the issues and makes the difference.
What am I thankful for?
Being away for a week with family was great but it also made me realize how much I really miss so many people here. People encompasses a lot and a pretty wide variety of relationships. We don’t eat turkey in here and we don’t all even celebrate Thanksgiving of course. But we all have things to be thankful for, friends, families, spouses, and more.
It’s funny how this place parallels real life in this way and kind of teaches us or reminds us that the most important thing is really the people. There are more things to get in the way and distract us in real life, but the people and relationships in real life as in IMVU are ultimately the most important thing. So even though we may not sit down to a big dinner in here I am so very thankful for all of the people in my life here.
I LOVE YOU HOLLY
These are my wedding vows to Holly. I love her with all my heart and wanted her to know that while I am away. The pictures aren’t bad but there is one or two with a little skin in them. :-)
You’ll make their heads explode.
Whatever you do, do NOT try to tell your real life friends about all the dynamics of your relationships here. It may make their heads explode. I’m not kidding. It can be fun to have a real life friend join you in here, but don’t try to explain too much of this place to them or you’ll scare them away even if you don’t cause any permanent damage.
This place really is crazy and it takes a lot of time to get used to and accept it. If you try to throw someone into the deep end you can end up doing more harm than good. I know you’re excited about it, and it’s hard to keep bottled up at times, but they’re just going to think you’re crazy. If you explain too much they won’t think you’re less crazy, they’ll KNOW you’re crazy. And you probably are, but that’s the fun of it, and here you look much more normal among all the other crazy people.
Don’t spill your guts too fast
Sharing is very sexy and brings a lot of intimacy. But don’t race to disclose everything too fast. The journey is the reward here. So don’t get too far ahead of your partner. Go back and forth with revelations and it’ll make you feel closer and more intimate.
The Magic of IMVU
One of the best things about IMVU is the variety of people you get to meet and the quality of friendships that you develop. I’ve made a in awful lot of friends here. And while some come and go some also stay and touch us very deeply. And this strange IMVU vision you develop here lets us look past the surface into their heart, in a way you don’t often get to do in the real world. Add to that sharing some tremendous emotional highs and lows and you start to see the magic of IMVU.
Friends
The most important thing you’ll develop here, after a little while here are your friends. The pixels may be virtual, but it’s a person on the other side of the pixels and the relationships are real. And be careful because they can be amazingly powerful actually, like a direct connection from your heart to theirs. To me that’s what this place is all about. Friends is a broad term that covers a variety of relationships. I have two wives, and certainly doesn’t seem strong enough. To call these people friends is like calling Picasso’s paintings. These are some of the greatest people anywhere in IMVU or anywhere.
