Guys don’t assume too much
I’ve said before not to ask for pics or webcam when you first meet someone, but even more than that, don’t assume because you are intimate that she wants to be intimate with you constantly because she did one time. Don’t assume because she played your love slave she wants to be your love slave permanently. And don’t ask her to be your girlfriend after one conversation or encounter.
It would be rude to say after being intimate with someone that they weren’t that great or that they weren’t anything special. It’s also equally wrong for a guy to immediately assume they are the best she’s ever had too or that she wants to do more than what you just did. If you want more you have to MAKE her want more. Send notes and or gifts and make her want to please you, share some of your heart but not all of it, and make it fun with sexy creative rooms, and make her laugh.
Don’t ask her to be your slave, make her want to be your IMVU slave. Everything here is voluntary and they can disappear and block you with a click. The only thing you have to keep even someone you’re married or committed to in here is your love and making them want to stay. Don’t ever stop making them want to stay or the whirlwind of IMVU will start pulling them away.
An IMVU Conversation about what girls look for.
Did you ever wish you could be a fly on the wall listening to the private conversations about what IMVU girls look for? This was totally unplanned but I talk about a lot of stuff with my girlfriends and this wound up being such an interesting discussion I thought I’d just keep it in conversation form. I took off a little bit of pleasantry up front and edited one or two typos. I added a link or two, to posts that I’ve written about those topics, too, but other than a word or two, this is just a candid conversation about what women look for.
My friend mentioned an interview process which intrigued me and started the conversation. I cut it off when it turned to talking about specific people and things. Who the conversation was with isn’t important but she is gorgeous and has been here for several years. She’s been here quite a bit longer than me and I enjoyed hearing some of the same things I’ve found and learned from it too. And lets continue the conversation if it sparks any thoughts back to you.
Click the title, the picture above, or here to see the full conversation…
Backup your Friends
I’m like you, I don’t back things up regularly. But when something happens to a friend I suddenly think about it again. And two incidents recently reminded me of the importance of backing up your friends. A good friend, Tammy was disabled and disappeared out of the blue and nobody ever heard a word. If you haven’t experienced this it’s the most horrible experience. IMVU can be such huge dicks sometimes.
Another friend had an issue with someone who got her password and unfriended everyone on her. Things happen, and thats when you suddenly realize that you can replace credits and rooms and clothing, but if you lose your friends you may have a real hard time getting them back. My name Kaitlyn is pretty easy but most names here are really hard to remember, especially when you’re crying.
So take just a minute and make screen shots, capturing an image of your friends page. Page down and make as many images as necessary. You’ll probably never use or even look at these. Just save them somewhere in case anything ever happens. IMVU is all about relationships and losing some of those relationships is very painful. I’m backing my friends up today and hope you do too. I hope you never need this but if you do I hope you have it. It’s free and only takes a minute to do.
A Great Gift Message
I just wanted to share a great note I just got. It was from Quidlyn and it’s great because it paints such a vivid picture in your mind and gives such a warm loving feeling. Its a great example of how the right note makes a gift incredibly special.
…a rainbowed butterfly comes floating by, carrying a note dropped to your hand. the parchment thick, wax seal affixed, bearing the letter K, the script of some dream land. You carefully remove the seal, unfolding the square letter, revealing a sprinkling of gold stars inside. A sudden wind gust lifts the confetti into the air, swirling you within a cloud of sparkles. In careful calligraphic script, the note reads… Instructions: 1) Throw arms around self, squeezing tight. 2) Close eyes. 3) Imagine my arms holding you tight. Thank you so much for your lovely gift. Please find pinki to keep you company when I cannot be around.
When you this much creativity and effort into it, it makes the gift so much more special and makes them feel good and feel good about you.
What to do for Valentine’s Day on IMVU
Valentines Day and any holiday really, is a good excuse to say hello to friends on IMVU that you don’t get to talk to as much. Start with a simple message mentioning that you haven’t talked in a while and go through your list. Adjust the message slightly if possible.
Sending big long flowing messages that tell them to send it to all their friends are only marginally helpful. A small more relevant message you wrote specifically for them or that looks like you wrote for them, can mean more.
You don’t have to send everyone an IMVU Gift. But you should send some special friends something. It’s not that they need things. But it adds importance and weight to your message. You can just send a 200 credit card if you don’t have many credits. (where else can you get a card for the equivalent of about 10 cents)
It’s not the amount that matters but the relevance and thought behind it that people do appreciate. Remember you’re dealing with people and the emotions here are real, even if the place is virtual. So use Valentine’s day as an excuse to spread some love, and to say hello to people you haven’t had a chance to talk to recently. Enjoy it and have a very Happy Valentine’s Day sharing that love and spirit with your friends.
Don’t just stop talking
In porn it seems like the girl tends to do most of the talking but she’s getting paid to be there. If you’re paying for a lap dance it’s appropriate to let her do most of the work and most of the talking. But if you aren’t paying for it and want them to do this again with you, you have to do your part and make her want to. You do that by being sexy and getting her excited, and if you stop typing don’t assume that the pose or your amazingly muscled avi is going to do that. It’s your mind that makes it sexy, or makes the difference between average and great.
I met a fun guy the other day that had a rule. I admit everyone isn’t going to follow this rule and don’t honestly expect everyone to follow this. But his rule is that his fingers can’t leave the keyboard till she has come. Now when he said this, I had come twice already. I had things to do and would have often stopped at one and almost always stopped at two. But he was so good that when I realized he hadn’t come yet, I took him to my best room and made dam sure he enjoyed himself.
So if you want to have a longer better session with someone, and make sure she wants to have sex with you again, the best imvu advice I think you can have is to keep talking/typing. This also means don’t rush straight to sex, enjoy the process and build up and make her want it before jumping into a sexy pose. You’ll get much more and much better pleasure if you don’t just rush into it, and stop talking as soon as you get a hard on. Use lots of adjectives and be very descriptive. Read a romance novel if you want to see what women like. It’s no secret and it honestly won’t even take that much work to stand out from the crowd, believe me. Oh and by the way, I am bringing a sexy friend back with me to do the threesome fantasy for the fun guy with that rule. So maybe I should add a link from the post about how to get threesome in imvu, to say make it great for her and she’ll bend over backwards and want do more to please you.
A Bowl of Soup
You never know how much difference a small act of kindness is going to be in your journey here or in life. I had a friend Kim that wasn’t in my immediate circle but I liked to go see when I could. She always had a lot of people around her and I was always impressed with her. One day I noticed that she was alone in her room which was unusual, so I stopped in. She was in the hospital or just home from the hospital. I gave her a virtual bowl of soup and stayed with her for a while.
You never know what small things you’re going to do along the way that really touch someone. And that bowl of soup made an impact and made us closer. If I hadn’t given her that soup I probably wouldn’t have been close enough to introduce my best friend Gabby to her, they wouldn’t have gotten married in IMVU and more lives than you probably realize in IMVU would be very different.
The point is that sometimes the little things make a big difference. Also keep a couple basic staples on your giftlist, a bowl of soup, crying tears, a birthday hat, and a couple good songs with sappy titles. You never know when you’ll need to share a few tears with someone and how much difference that thought and a few cents worth of credits and an IMVU Gift can make.
IMVU Fairies can tear down your walls
The most amazing thing in here is the level of connection that you can develop with the people you’re close to. And if you don’t get derailed along the way, each relationship seems to build on each other. Everyone is unique but as you go through your journey here you may discover that it gets easier and easier to let your walls down.
I think the way our walls seem to come down in here is what allows us to build such amazing friendships. And each time we let our walls down we learn to let them down more and more easily. You have to learn to protect your heart and if you get hurt too badly when things don’t work out you can get derailed. But aside from that if you can learn to love the ride, it does get better and better as you learn to share. And that connection, that sharing is amazingly powerful.
I have found an amazing connection with my Twin Lyn Katy. We started talking and I had been working on a Fairy outfit for a friend, and one thing led to another. We honestly had the most amazing intimate and loving time together, with nothing more than a kiss and tearing down our walls.
Protect Your Heart
when it comes to me, the kisses come free, but they never get all of the heart
This was a line in a Marilyn Monroe song I saw in the pilot of “Smash” on Monday. It also paralleled advice Stephanie said my sis, Gabby had given her which I thought made a good point. :-) When you first come in here and fall in IMVU love for the first time there’s almost no way to be prepared for how much you can feel, how fast and how strong it can be. It’s just one of those things that you have to experience for yourself. When you do, you’ll understand the importance of that advice, “Protect your heart.”
It’s amazing how fast things grow in here. It can definitely surprise you and catch you off guard sweeping you off your feet. It’s fun to be swept off your feet. My twin Katy said “Its amazing how many romances you get to experience and live, but it is a little scary fast.” Unfortunately it can also fall apart even faster. When what was mind blowingly good for weeks or months falls apart in a day or two, it’s going to hurt, ALOT. And I find not being able to talk to people about in real life can make it very hard too. That’s why Gabby’s advice is so important. Enjoy the ride but protect your heart a little bit too. Don’t do it to the point of being jaded or unable to enjoy the awesome rush of the mind blowing romance. But have some friends and realize that it’s the nature of the soap opera insanity sometimes.
That’s why it’s important to take your time a little (if you can) and just know that what goes up must come down, to have friends and maybe some chocolate ice cream on hand, and to know that you will get over it with some time. (I know it doesn’t feel that way at the time though, believe me we’ve all been there) I also tend to find that my experiences seem to build on each other and it’s not always the case but each new imvu romance tends to seem even more vivid and stronger than the one before. I don’t know if that’s true for everyone but the more love I feel the easier it is to love again, somehow. Anyway the point of this was to just pass on Gabby’s good advice that she gave to Stephanie. I also thought since I couldn’t pick just one of her pictures, I’d make a slideshow of the pictures with Stephanie from last night.
How to increase your odds
A guy asked me after looking at the website “So what would increase the odds of accepting a cold invite or friend request?” Some people never accept cold requests and some accept all of them. I tend to be somewhere in the middle. Everyone’s going to have their own things and I didn’t survey anyone else for this, I just tried to put down a few of my ideas to start with. Some friends may have a few good ones to add.
1. An Interesting picture and or a professional look. Your IMVU profile pic is the first thing anyone sees and is the basis for the first impression. Make it attractive and unique.
2. Not a Guest. Being a guest isn’t bad if you’re new. But if you’ve been here a while and you’re still a guest it makes you look like you’re not serious.
3. AP a must, VIP a plus. It’s not bad if you don’t have VIP, but it is a plus if you do have it.
4. Clever or funny tagline.
5. Matching or interesting things in your profile.
6. I like guys a little older in here. 18 reminds me too much of my teenage daughter and older guys have more experience and resources. Young guys also tend to want RL pics which are against my married rules.
7. If you invite IMVU Girls to the default imvu room that’s also a strike against you too, although that’s more after you accept the invite.
Make it more exciting with Role Playing
Some people are afraid of role playing or think they can’t do it. Role playing is just putting some story and more exciting and powerful emotion into it. Whether you realize it or not cyber is role playing anyway. You’re describing it and trying to make it vivid and fun. So if you can do it there, you can probably do it in other things if you think about it. It’s just a matter of putting extra effort into it to paint a more exciting picture and make it more than just sex. Sex without role playing is like porn, there’s no plot or real emotions. Role playing is like Romance, it just makes the sex better and more exciting.
That’s why I really like fantasy dates and the RP fantasy intros (in our IMVU Fantasy Section) because they make it easier to start a fun fantasy scenario with your partner. Otherwise we tend to fall into a rut and either wander around hoping for something fun to just happen or just doing the same things that we usually do. So hopefully our fantasy intros will either spark an idea or give you a fun starting point.
Hands free comes in handy
One of my best secret tips here is Dragon Naturally Speaking. I type pretty fast but there are times when not having to type comes in very handy. I find it does still take one hand to correct a few things and hit return but once you use it you’re gonna be spoiled. I crashed the other day and it wasn’t working when in restarted so I had to leave and come back another time. I have been thinking about putting this post up for a while but I just got a good discount coupon from TigerDirect so I figured this was a good time to put it up. It’s usually not this cheap. SO click the image below or check TigerDirect right away or search for version 10 or 11 on ebay if you want it even cheaper.
BDSM in IMVU
I should start out by saying I’m one of the most conservative (yes and boring) people in real life. I’d never touch BDSM in real life and if I even looked at it my husband would probably freak out too. I warmed up to vampires and demons and a lot of things faster than bondage. But I’ve kind of figured it out here in a sense I think. This is a great place to experiment in a safe way with new things you’d never do in real life. And it’s all virtual so it’s COMPLETELY safe and the edginess does kind of make it fun if you really play it up.
I also think a lot of the best imvu fantasies involve a way or reason to let go of yourself and the usual restraint that you have (no pun intended). We are all told to behave and be good, and a fantasy is a great way to let go of that and let the bad animal side out. BDSM is a way to do that, to feel owned by someone else, made to please them or helpless to resist them. That feeling is exciting even to someone that would NEVER do any of this crap in real life. Maybe especially to someone who couldn’t do any of this, lol.
BDSM is also very visual and lends it self to imvu poses, the anonymity of this place and sometimes blatant sexuality. I kind of think of BDSM as in the cateogory of Stripping, Vampires, and Furries. It’s so IMVU that you almost have to try it at least a little, if you’re here for any length of time. I don’t want BDSM all the time, by any means. But if I can try it and have fun with it you probably can too, when you’re ready. Don’t rush because if you’re not comfortable there are a lot of other fun things you can do. You can have a great time here and never try this, but it is very powerful and sexy and popular for a reason.
How to get a 3 some
Every guys fantasy to some degree or another is a threesome. And there are more girls here than guys so you would think this shouldn’t be too hard. I may be wrong but I don’t think most get this very often though. So I figured I’d see if I could help. This is for guys looking to get a threesome with two girls.
First don’t ask two girls on the middle of sex unless you know at least one or are spoken to first. They know you would want to and will say something if they’re interested in the possibility. And don’t go to lesbian rooms to look for a threesome, that never works.
If you have a girlfriend, ask if she’s ever had a 3some and then ask her which of her friends she would most like to do it with, or who she thinks would be most likely to do it. Even if she didn’t expressly agree to it, if her friend agrees you’re most of the way there.
Now you can just ask the friend but you’ll often have to sweet talk them a little. Send her a gift and a nice note that you’d like to talk to her. Or try making up a story about her car breaking down and the two of them ringing your doorbell late at night. Or their boat sinking and you pick them up on your yacht. Or you rescue them from a dungeon or whatever type of situation you like best and have a room for. If you can incorporate an article of clothing and you gift that, it makes them feel even more obligated to participate. It takes more planning and effort than a regular couple but if you write a nice note and include a gift or two you’ll probably at least make a new friend.
The other way to do this is work the other direction. Ask a girl if she would join your GF and you. You can come right out and ask that much easier than you can just ask her to have sex with you directly. But don’t do this unless you’ve talked to your GF or are really sure she’ll say yes. Another way is to ask for a threesome for your birthday. You might start by asking your GF what her fantasy is first. Then see if you can explore that with her, which you should definitely be doing anyway.
Suggest that it might be fun to spice things up a little. Even the most conservative girls can appreciate that because it sounds like you want to improve your relationship with them which is a good thing as opposed to them not being enough for you. I admit this takes a little more effort than just the normal encounter. But the worst that will happen is that you wind up with just one and there’s a good chance you’ll have an awesome time.
Another very easy step you can take in that direction is to simply suggest having sex in a public room. Start this by finding a sexy room that’s empty. Just have fun and you never know who will walk in. But make sure when someone comes in that you say hello to them even if you’re in the middle of sex, because otherwise they will often run right out. This will also give you a chance to ask your friend if she’s interested in having someone else, when she’s most receptive to it too.
Sample IMVU Taglines
Your IMVU Tagline is an important space for personalizing your avatar and saying something unique about yourself. Make it fun, creative and interesting. This is just a list of the tag lines of my 260 or so friends. I just wanted to include it to give you some ideas. Some are funny, some are strange or written for someone specific. Some change frequently, while some never change.
Sample IMVU Taglines
“Friends and Family are the BEST”
“Fulgur de Caelo. Tonat ex Mari”
“I fell apart but luckily i put myself back together again, because i’m a doctor haha”
“Jarl ,Adminstraor City of Clearus of Gor”
“No day goes by without something beautyful happening”
“Your footprints can show you were you have been…”
“friends for life
“live into your dream”
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‘A relationship is more than finding the right person…. its being
‘MALE ALPHA- SWEETER THAN CANDY..
–{[(Owned by Miss Amber)]}–
. . . . . . .HI . . . . . . . . . . . .
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… this mess.. its a love story.. baby, just say YES!
…miss you..
.bad bitches im your leader.
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1,28,12 the Beginning of a new Chapter in my unding love for my wife Ruby!
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=^.^= Rawr ~smiles all cute like~
AKnighttoRemember
Amazing Mistress Kimber
Amor no me ama
And soon we shall return
Anyone can hate. It cost to love
Archbishop of Banterbury
BORN READY…. CAN U KEEP UP??
Baby, I'm yours.
Badges? Me don't need no stinking badges!!
Be yourself; everyone else is taken.
Beauty lies within your soul
Beauty, in all its forms
Ben watches weird po rn
Blame BarbieHailey if you're look for my room
Born and raised in the world of pleasure.
Broken but maybe fixed
CHECK OUT MY HOT NEW PRODUCTS
Cast your own shadow
Check out the Busty Gentlemen's club
Cupcake is back & loves Mistress Kimmi
DELIBERETLY DELISCIOUS..
Who is IMVU good for?
I just started making a list of who IMVU is good for. I thought there would probably only be a handful of people when I started this list but it just kept growing. This is another one of those posts that I think visitors will have a lot of good things to add, because the list seems to keep growing the longer I think about it and talk to people.
- Single mothers with children or anyone with no social life.
- Anyone that feels younger at heart.
- Shy or inexperienced guys looking to learn and gain some confidence
- People with any type of Handicap, that want to feel and interact normally with friends
- Anyone physically restricted whether for legal reasons health reasons or geographical reasons
- Anyone that travels a lot and wants to be able to see their friends where ever they are
- Physically or emotionally abused people who want a place to have fun in a safe way
- Anyone looking to experiment either sexually or in almost any interpersonal direction
- Anyone that wants to change something about themselves
- People with unusual fetishes and tastes
- Perverts, Sex addicts and ??
- Lesbians or anyone interested or experimenting in that area
- People into vampires, demons, furry colorful animals or almost anything you can imagine
- Anyone who just went through a devastating breakup
- Guys who want to be girls (or vice versa) and pathological liars
- Married people who just want more intimacy and to feel sexy in a safe way
- Anyone bored or who can’t sleep at nights or needs an escape
- Shop-a-holics
- Exibitionists
- Nudists
- Anyone interested in clothing or computer design
- People looking to meet someone in another country
- People looking for a relationship with any of the above
- An outlet for designers and artists
- Anyone looking to waste a lot of time. :-)
- IMVU is good for Dreamers!
- ??? What else can you think of…
Almost as important as who it’s for is who it’s not for. It’s not for children except possibly without very close supervision. The faint of heart also have to be careful with it because it can be a little crazy, and no matter why you come here it will effect you in ways you probably aren’t expecting.
IMVU is good for and made up of ALL kinds of people, the most diverse population you’ve ever seen, and it can blow your mind if you’re not careful.
IMVU girls with Stunning style and class
It’s really not that hard to look good in here. I mean it’s a land of awesome beauty. It’s literally crawling with not just beautiful but stunningly sexy IMVU girls. Ironically it’s the fact that it’s so easy to look good that makes it even more important to develop a unique IMVU style. This is one thing that I confess to struggle with at times. It’s fun to shop but I tend to do it hap hazardly at times. I’m trying to develop better looks by buying a whole set of things from a designer with style, by looking through lots of derivations of things that I like, and by copying more from the Daily Outfit Challenge.
I thought about because I was going through the hundred plus pictures from last night and so many of them seemed to just jump off the screen. Katy is in the banner for this post, on the top of the page is clearly the Queen of Cute, and my VBFF and Sister Gabby, is the Queen of Style, although she would be the first to admit that she gets it from her wife, Kim. That’s probably another post about how you can feel even closer by sharing styles and looks with a spouse. And OK, I admit that this post is mostly just an excuse to show off amazing pictures of my best friends. I’ll call it a visual tip, high lighting some amazing examples of how you can have stunning style and class, even in a world crawling with drop dead gorgeous IMVU girls.
57 Ways to show someone you love them in IMVU
This is a post I want other people to help add to. Leave a comment here or send me a message in IMVU (my screen name in IMVU is Kaitlyn if you don’t know me.) I will edit the list and add your suggestions.
- Notes, especially ones with good letters or a mushy saying or story
- Gifts (must have romantic special notes)
- More notes, poems, compliments, and heart felt love
- Telling them you love them in front of other people and mutual friends
- Putting a picture of you both on your profile
- Introducing them to your friends (as your GF or VBF or something sappy)
- Going out of your way to spend time together
- Be interested in their activities and the things they like
- Make (develop) a picture of them or both of you for the wall in your room
- Go shopping and get them things that show you know and care about them
- Buy a shirt or necklace with their name on it or that says I love you and wear it with them.
- Get a heart effect for after you have sex with them.
- Invite them to fun different rooms, not just your default room.
- Make them laugh.
- Share sad times and be there for them when they need it.
- Do real life things like eating a meal or watching a movie with them.
- Pay attention to their fav songs and fav type of music and make a mix with their name.
- If they are a developer send several people one of their newest items and ask them to leave you a good review. This makes the developer love you (you probably have to tell them though) and it also impresses the people you give the items too.
- Write a prayer for them.
- Take lots of pictures of them and make a photo album of just you and them.
- Get a head sign that says I LOVE YOU and just put it on when they’re around.
- Randomly just say you sneak over and kiss, caress, tease or spank them (in other words, little comments)
- Get excited when they enter a room.
- Send flowers or one gift every morning.
- Have a custom voice box made with their name so you can call them by name or say I Love You Holly.
- Go over board for birthday or any special event for them
- Listen, really listen to them
- Go to whatever room they are in.
- But give them space
- Dress a like (sometimes)
- Adjust your look to things they like
- Always be supportive and put their needs first
- If someone gives you a gift let them see you using it.
- Treat something they gave you as extra special and keep it with you.
- Spend time with them even when you’re busy.
- Share your fantasies
- Figure out their fantasies and make them happen
- Find their hot buttons and push them often
- Plan dates together
- Find fun rooms to share and explore with them
- Accept them for who they are
- We all have sore spots and weaknesses, understand and be careful of theirs
- Accept their boundaries but know when to push them a little too.
- Care about their needs more than your own
- Never ever be jealous
- Defend them
- Edify them and put them on a pedastle
- Be open and sharing
- Be vulnerable
- Cuddle often.
- Include their fav positions, or imvu dances in any room you make.
- Find excuses to touch them.
- Get a tattoo with their name on it or just that says taken.
- Teach them how to do something
- Take a virtual class about something you are both interested in.
- If they have a job in here whether it’s as a dancer or developer, help them do it or do it with them.
- Play a virtual game with them
Say it with Music
You can say literally anything with music. You can’t think of any phrase you’d ever use that doesn’t have a song. Save a chat and pick out something you joked about and search it in the music. I’ll be real surprised if there isn’t a song with that title. There is probably so many you’ll have to listen to a bunch to find the best one or the best version. It costs less than the price of a regular postage stamp but there is something about saying it with music that seems deep and thoughtful. And even someone that has a lot of stuff appreciates music.
I recently met a very successful Mesher (I made the mistake of calling her a developer, but she does this for a living and makes the things that developers use). Anyway the point is that she’s done this for years and the things she’s made are impressive as heck. So what do you get for someone like that? I sent her a note afterwards saying how nice it was to meet her and sent it with a song that I thought she would like. You pick a word or two out of their profile or conversation and you can probably find an appropriate song in just minute or two, and it says that you really cared, and were listening, especially if they like and use the song.
Love takes some time
A great friend had an experience that brought up a good point. She met someone who she liked but was saying she’s totally in love with her way to fast and it makes her worry. It’s good to wear your heart on your sleeve but just like the real world, don’t say you love someone the first time you meet them. This place is built on pure emotion and I’ve said it is Miracle Grow for relationships, but it also proves again that taking your time can definitely make things last longer and be stronger. So don’t rush. The falling in love, new love, early stages are so much fun. Enjoy that and keep it light. That’s Ally’s and my short tip for today.
Why it’s important to greet people
When people enter a room it’s important to acknowledge them and make them feel welcome. We all make judgements from our first impressions and we are deciding in the first couple seconds if the room is worth spending time at. In IMVU you can’t tell if people are awake and want to talk or dance with you from the body language the way you can in real life, that’s why its not just politeness but a necessity to greet people.
It also tells them who’s in charge or who to start talking to first. It also helps the other people in the room because when you’re immersed in a conversation it can be easy to overlook someone coming in. So there are a lot of good reasons to greet people and it’s just part of good IMVU manners. It helps make the room inviting and remember its the people that make the room and this is part of that.
Setting ground rules
A new friend (Girl7770) made an important point the other day, about setting ground rules. There are so many different types of relationships in here and a much wider broader range of what’s acceptable than anything in real life. You’ll want to make sure you are compatible in several areas, such as whether you could ever take anything off of here and have real life potential, the level of communication, both in terms of the amount of time and what things if any beyond IMVU would be acceptable. Time zones and the amount of time and times of day you intend to commit are considerations, because there’s nothing harder than being committed to someone that’s not around or is only available at a time you can’t be here.
The other big area that you need to make sure you’re on the same page with is your exclusivity. First of all, this isn’t real life and seeing other people here may not be cheating at all, and in any case isn’t really the same thing as doing it in real life. Exclusivity goes against the grain of IMVU. It’s not that it’s impossible but it’s harder to do in here than real life. It’s like limiting yourself to one ride in Disney World. There is temptation around every corner. Also be aware that your partner probably needs some time away with other friends, to be really healthy and happy too.
There are a variety of ways that people handle it. Some couples make a list of acceptable partners that the other can play with, or a list they can’t play with. Some say it’s OK to do when the other is on and some say only when the other is off. Some people limit themselves to no orgasm, no penetration, or just about any variation you can dream up, someone is probably doing that. The point is that you have to understand what your expectations and behavior should be. This should certainly be a much bigger post with a better break down and maybe even a survey too.
The trick to making a relationship work here (as in real life) is communication. Also realize that things change and evolve in here so this may be something you’ll have to revisit. And if your partner’s doing something that’s not comfortable for you, you have to talk about it. To keep it bottled up until it blows up is even worse. And please don’t attack them for breaking the rules if they don’t know them. From personal experience that is really not fair. Relationships are what this place is all about and can be absolutely awesome, but they require even more communication than they do in real life.
Keep your Real Life down to earth
Don’t feel like you have to make your real life sound exciting to be attractive. Saying you’re drop dead gorgeous or a stripper or a model in real life only makes people worry that if you are lying about that, you might be lying about other things. It’s a game and you can be anything you want to be. But realize that it’s ultimately your heart that makes you attractive in here.
Ironically the ability to change the pixels so easily teaches you that it’s the inside that makes you beautiful. So make your personality attractive, wear your heart on your sleeve and don’t be afraid to share it. You’ll be Be a great friend and you will always have lots of great friends in return, no matter what you do or look like in real life.
Check every picture on TinEye.com
One time one of my best friends got a picture from a girl friend and when I checked it on TinEye.com I found out that it was a picture of Sharon Stone. The person who sent it was from outside of the US and didn’t know who she was. They had just picked a pretty smiling picture from Google images not realizing it was a famous movie star in America. They also didn’t realize how easy it was to check pictures now. I have actually done this and found fake pictures several times.
The other thing many people don’t think about is what what this means. If someone, especially a partner, will lie about this and send a fake picture you can’t help but wonder what other things are they lying about. I also believe that the strong majority of fake female pics are put up by guys. Guys are more visually oriented and I kind of think that a girl that’s not happy with her looks won’t put anything up. But guys pick good looking pics because they think that’s more important. This doesn’t mean anything individually but on average I think it’s true.
One last note: Don’t try to be the picture police. They will only attack you for pointing it out because when you can’t argue the issue, you attack the messenger. There are only a few people in here that really hate me. Most of them were caught using fake pics. Ironically I don’t care that much, cause I’m good with guys too. Now that isn’t officially the reason why any of them hate me. But it kind of seems like more than a coincidence too. Hopefully you can just pass on this post and not create any issues. Sometimes you have to live and let live.
