The Science of IMVU
I’ve also been pondering the question of what makes imvu different than a chat program like Yahoo Chat or gchat. Before joining, I couldn’t tell you. It’s certainly not as ambitious as second life–I think that’s to its credit, since it is so much more accessible and prettier…
I think part of what makes imvu so magical is that the brain is wired for imagination… for simulation. MRI scans show that the same neurons that fire when we touch a hot stove, also fire when we see somebody else touch a hot stove (so-called mirror neurons). These neurons evolved in part because they provoide empathy but also to help us simulate the future so that we don’t have to touch the hot stove to know it will hurt. Other experiments show that people who are assigned an attractive avatar in second life act more confident, 
but more importantly, that confidence carries over even after they’ve logged out of the game. Even old psychological studies found that if you recorded phone conversations of person A talking to person B, and person A thought person B was prettier (due to a faked photograph), person B “sounded” more attractive, according to observers who weren’t aware of the photograph. Simple put, Avatars matter.
On a personal note, I find that avatars have a really big effect on me. A good guy friend of mine likes to use a girl avatar sometimes. I found I interact with him very differently when I see him as a girl. More simply, I love cuddle poses. I mean I REALLY love cuddle poses. I can literally feel my heart rate change when I’m in the arms of somebody I love. But maybe I’m just weird… but even if it is just me, there’s still the science.
Thank you Quidlyn (Katy) for such powerful insight.
Generosity goes hand in hand with Happiness
Generosity here doesn’t guarantee or buy you happiness. But generous people certainly tend to be happier. And happier people are definitely generous too. Be generous with the people you love.
Christi was the one that honestly taught me the power of gifts and how effective that could be in making someone fall in love with you. I was in love, engaged actually. You have to be loving for sure, write great notes with them, and be there for them at the right time. But how else can you make some smile for the cost of a postage stamp. And if you add several smiles together with someone that comes here to feel sexy and have fun you’ll probably find that generosity does lead to happiness too.
I’m not sure if this as universal but at least for me I found that I can’t truly enjoy things here without helping other people to enjoy it too. Generosity doesn’t have to be with credits. I am spending a lot of time trying to make this a valuable resource because it makes me happy. We all have different ways of helping but however you do it, helping others leads to happiness, here and in real life too.
Dealing with time differences
One of the neat things about IMVU is the worldwide nature of it. Geography doesn’t matter very much in cyber space but the time differences can be a factor when you have dear friends from all over the world. As an example, I come from the Netherlands. Within Europe, we don’t have to deal a lot with time differences, sometimes an hour ahead or an hour back. But many of my friends on here are in America and the time differences can amount to 6, 7, 8, or even 9 hours which makes a difference.
Often I can only see my friends when I really need to go to bed or when I just wake up. Between Kait and I for example, there’s a difference of 6 hours. Fortunately she doesn’t sleep and I can often see her when I wake up. The funniest thing is when they ask how my evening or night is or they say good night when I just opened my eyes after a deep sleep (and hopefully a very nice and beautiful dreams). The good side of that is that no matter when I go on, there are almost always a number of good friends available to talk to.
With friends at a distance you may have to work harder to adjust and find common time and you should definitely write more notes. This may be just a few words to include “I Love You”, a complete story in which you write something about yourself or what you have experienced that day. Write a fun or a sexy story or just simple a poem or some poetry. Try to leave something of yourself in the message so that when you do see each other once again you’ll have some things to talk about together. Messages are timeless and will always read when the other person logs on or check their e-mails messages and are often saved. Even a short note will also show in their inbox if you’re online and will often encourage them to invite or respond.
Love knows no boundaries and one of the neat things about IMVU is the way you get to know people in other parts of the world and other cultures that you never would have been able to before. The friendships you make all add up and create an amazing network connecting and shrinking the world like never before. None of my real life friends have the friends all around the world that I do and it’s very special.
Wendy wrote this and I was looking for a picture to put with it and thought of this song. I was going to put embed a youtube video of this and then realized I had so many pictures and video clips I should probably put together a video for her. This is just a small glimpse into the fun and love we’ve shared. Thank you so much Wendy!!
Also on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpGpGfhlFuE
Please like and Fav it there if you can.
Too much of a good thing, even for Imvu
Some people don’t like role play (RP). I generally do and actually really like interesting and extreme imvu costumes and things. It’s taken a while to get my head around some of it but now I like to ask people what their favorite or most exciting costume is. But when I met JeanPaulVell (pictured left and right), I realized there is such a thing as too much of a good thing, even in Imvu.
I say too much of a good thing because even though I like interesting costumes and role play, if it’s so extreme that it gets in the way or makes you look stupid or crazy it makes it hard for people to believe or even listen. It felt like Role Playing gone bad.
Some people watch tv to much, some play nintendo too much and some go overboard and get too crazy with their costumes. It can be easy to over do things in here too. I understand that. But the best approach here as in life, is more of a balanced approach. I ended up blocking him because he was out of control and couldn’t talk much just put on more and more extreme and I realized that this is what the people that say they don’t like role playing hate. It’s so extreme it just turns people off.
Holloness
A disorder that comes from too much virtual reality or over dosing on cyber. Based on the first well known fictional virtual realty environment, the Star Trek Holodeck.
Symptoms include a blurring of vision and of the lines between RL and VR. Stiff joints or a sore butt often in connection with repetitive movement stress. Advanced stage victims may have vibrocaloses
If you have three or more empty glasses, empty chip bags, or dirty dishes by your computer you may be at risk. Victims often observed to consume large amounts of caffeine, and often engage in large amounts of meaningless sex chats.
Treatment typically includes showering, sleeping more than 4 hours per day and getting out of the house, preferably going to the gym or some type of actual physical activity or social engagement with real human contact.
This can also come from or be caused or triggered by missing your very best friend for long periods of time. (I miss you Gabby)
Not Another Update
I like improvements but I hate updates because they seem to go hand in hand with crashes. I try to wait a few days before doing updates unless it sounds like something really major, just on general principle. But when I crashed 5 times in a single night I figured it was necessary. 3 of them were blue screen bad crashes and it seemed to have messed up some programs which had to be reinstalled.
Anyway it did get more stable for me after updating although that certainly wasn’t a very high bar. The one thing I do like 
in the new update is the new chat invite box. It shows not only who’s inviting you, and some information about them but it also shows you the room their inviting you to and how many people are in it. It’s nice because it tells you more about the invite ahead of time.
The room you were inviting from before didn’t matter that much before but now suddenly it does, almost as much as your profile picture. It’s very easy to change your default room and it’s suddenly much more important than ever before. Even if you’re new, you should change your default room as soon you’re able to because inviting someone to the default room is like keeping your default profile picture. It makes you look like you don’t know what you’re doing and or you don’t care very much.
Passing Sexy Notes
I wrote a sexy note to a friend and decided it was good and had to save and reuse it. I sent it to 3 or 4 friends that it seemed appropriate to send it to. One sexy friend who’s the best at notes continued where I left off and before we knew it we both making the sexiest story together. It’s always good to send notes. Don’t use my note, but hopefully you enjoy it and it inspires you.
Here’s my first note:
You hear soft footsteps behind you and a finger light trails on your shoulders and your neck like a poor silent glide your waste. You feel a shiver dance down your spine when I kiss your neck, and my breasts gently pressing it against your back. My pillow turn to snacks and move to the side of your neck as my second arm slides around you. My whole body is now pressed against your back and you think I have a naked or not wearing much in the heat of my skin. you try to make your head spin, but my lips feel your ear, and my warm breath in your ear. A hand slides up your chest and the other sides down your belly. a low animal sound as my tongue dances moaning in your ear and my fingers fine to trace your panty line, rubbing the side fabric gently. you close your eyes and one arm back confirming your suspicion as you squeeze my bare ass, reaching pulled me harder against you. My pussy grinds against you I like as I mouth hoarse words in your ear, I love you ….
Her first response:
Slowly I close my eyes and enjoy the moment with you behind me. With my hand on your bare ass I press you closer to me. I feel the warmth of your body through the soft fabric of my nighty. The hot breath from your mouth feels like a gentle breeze in my neck. You soft kisses on my neck betray my tickling spots! I try to turn my head slightly to give you more freedom in my neck. Even though I know that I can hardly handle this spot, but the enjoyment and feeling that my body is going through is indescribable. My whole body trembles at the touch of your kisses and tonque in my neck. My other arm goes behind your head while my fingers play with your beautiful long soft hair. I arch my back a bit and feel my knees buckling. Softly I whisper, while I hear the tremor in my voice that I love you. I hear your laugh between the kisses and feel how your hand slowly teasingly along the soft material of my undies slips. Suddenly your other hand moves down too and grabs my nighty at both sides…
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In the Matrix you can be as happy and have as much fun as you want.
IMVU is what you make of it just like your real life is, but unlike real life you can literally make it anything you want. Nobody’s real life is perfect but you really can’t or shouldn’t use that as an excuse for anything in here because your real life doesn’t matter. I know this is repetitive but the beauty of this place is that you can really be anything you want no matter what your life has been.
I talked to a friend today that had serious health issues and said that he was bitter because of his health and how hurt he had been in the past. He would up throwing his relationship away and blamed it all on his health and past. I tried to help him at the end, not to save that relationship (with my friend) but so he could at least do better in the future. Blaming other people or your circumstances is nice because it means you don’t have to try. But it also means you’ve given up any ability to change it. In here none of that matters very much and you can turn everything around or change anything you want at any time.
It’s hard to turn your real life around, to get a new job or start a new relationship or move can leave your life disrupted or even in a shambles for a long time. We’ve all been there and know it can takes years to get over major real life setbacks. But here, it’s like the Matrix. You can be the One if you believe. You can be as fast and as strong as you want to be. You can be as happy as you want to or as u can see yourself here. Close your eyes. Say a prayer if it helps. Put on some exciting or uplifting music and “Act the way you want to be.” You can’t help but feel better, almost immediately. If you act sexy, you’ll feel sexier, even if you didn’t before you started. You don’t have to fix everything or be perfect to feel better. Just act more that way and you will be that way.
It’s almost like living in a dream. You can go with the flow letting it direct you, or you can consciously direct it. IMVU can be as fun as you want to make it. It’s a shame more people don’t realize this secret and have more fun. You are hereby unlocked from your situation, from your past and are now free to be anything you want.
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You are now free to move about the country…
Say what you need to say…
Note from Kait: You might want to scroll down and click on the YouTube video below for Say What You Need to Say before you read this. I thought that was kind of the theme for this post about writing notes by my best friend Wendy. Wendy is the perfect person to write about writing notes and she’s also in a great new love which is so beautiful to watch atm too. She and Wendy, both write the most amazing, sweetest, most endearing notes I’ve ever seen in here. It’s even more impressive when you realize English is a second language for her.
In IMVU, it’s often easy to love, but to really fall in love the person behind the avi and feel their heart and soul with yours takes some effort and a lot of communication. That type of true Love is absolutely wonderful and it gives you the most amazing walking on air, invincible feeling. Every time you get a message or even just re-read one, you get a very special feeling. A feeling of jitters or butterflies in your stomach, that brings back day dreams of the person of your dreams. This feeling is wonderful but it takes some effort and with busy lives and time differences we can’t always be on at the same time. That’s why it’s so important to keep in touch with messages and keep reminding the other person why he / she is so special to you.
Let the words flow from your heart and write the messages as personal as possible. If you’re newly in love, that may be difficult because you know little about each other. Personalize them with that little bit that you do know, and share your heart. Sometimes write deep things, and other times write short little notes or stories. Mix in some funny humorous comments here and there too. Sharing emotions is important and laughter is a great emotion too and can lighten it and keep it fun. Even if you’ve never done it before, try writing out a descriptive role play type message about sneaking up and hugging them or waking them up in the morning. IMVU is nice because you can include a gift as a prop. IMVU messages are limited to 1000 characters so if you write him / her a longer love letter, you may be able to send emails, if you’ve shared email addresses.
Another note from Kait: She wrote a very good example of what you could say, but I thought this might be a good place to surprise her and show off a little at the same time. So I’m including the actual poem she wrote for me, because I really love it and her so much.
A feeling
So sweet and so naughty,
So pretty and so funny,
So everything,
You are like magic, but way cooler
Like a teddy bear, but softer
Like an orgasm, but more intense
I don’t think you are human,
You are an angel with no wings,
You create so many things,
You turn my world around,
You make me fall on the ground,
But i don’t care cause i know its you.
A look in your eyes
Is worth me more than anything in the world to
I respect you,
love you,
need you.
You are there for me,
And I will always be there for you.
And that is the best feeling in the world.
I am so addicted to this feeling
I go to sleep with it,
And wake up with it,
It’s in my heart,
It’s in my mind.
I love you Kait, kisses xxx Wendy
Darkness Wedding
On Wednesday April 11th I had the privilege of attending the IMVU wedding of Karu and Dae Darkness
It was a beautiful ceremony and I was really glad to make them a video of the ceremony and their vows. I really think IMVU is about relationships and and an imvu marriage is a symbol of one of the strongest relationships. It also brings everyone together as a family which is really special too. So congratulations Karu and Dae.
Send a joke to friends…
We all love to get messages. Whether it’s for a holiday, or something important or just something funny. I get a lot of stuff in my regular email that some people blast out to everyone and I read it if it’s short but don’t like to do that with email. But in here messages seem a little more personal. You can’t really blast them out as much so people don’t get as many and they seem more personal.
My friend Cindy, recently sent me two jokes about Koala bears that I thought were funny. They weren’t original, they’ve been out there for a little while if you google them. That really doesn’t matter though. The point here isn’t the joke, but just that sending a joke and making your friend smile and think of you is a good thing.
“A Koala bear walks into a bar and picks up a woman. Takes her back to his place and perfoms oral sex on her. After satisfying her he just gets up to leave. She insist that he stay longer. He hands her a handout from Australlia that idetifies him as an animal that “eats bushes and leaves.”
“So this koala bear is hanging out in a tree smoking weed when a lizard comes strolling across the branch and says “watcha doin there koala bear?” the koala answers “smoking some weed. you want some?” so the lizard agrees and they smoke a joint. well the lizard gets cotton mouth and decides hes gonna go out to the end of the branch and get some water out of the river. he gets down to the edge of the branch and falls in. he crawls up the bank and sees this gator hanging out. the gator asks him what he was doing. the lizard says ” well i was up in this tree here smoking weed with a koala bear and got cotton mouth so i went to the edge of that branch to get some water and i fell im the river.” the gator says “a koala bear and a lizard smokin weed? i gotta see this!” so the gator goes to the trunk of the tree and yells for the koala bear. the koala bear looks down and see the gator and says ” holy shit lizard! how much water did you drink!?!?” hehe “
Bonus giggle:
Q: What is a bear’s favorite drink?
A: Koka-Koala!
Music is important in IMVU
Music is a great way to add to the feel of any room or situation. Sometimes I feel like Bumble Bee from Transformers, talking with music. I’ve tried to get music for all kinds of different situations. I am a little over board in that, but hey I’m not as ridiculous about that as I am about pictures.
I hate it when I end up buying a second version of the same song though. And your songs aren’t very easy to search. So I made a list of them. I would up pasting it into html because I figured it would be easier for me to find. I don’t figure it matters all that much to many people but just in case you want to see my IMVU Music List, here it is. Yes, some of it’s a little dirty but a lot more of it’s loving and just good music. If you don’t use music in here yet, just start with a couple of your favorite songs and play with it a little bit if you haven’t yet. You might find that you really like it.
Find a good room for your favorite costumes
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I like to ask a guy what his favorite IMVU costume is (because it’s easier for them to show than for them to answer my question about their fav fantasy) and twice guys have said batman. I don’t expect them to have a whole bat cave (though I’d love if they did). But wouldn’t it make sense for them to have looked through and at least bookmarked a good bat cave room.
I searched and tried a couple while we’re talking for the second one and impressed him by inviting him to a batcave room. You can usually find a good empty room for almost any theme or costume you have but having a good room bookmarked for your favorite costume is more than just common sense. It’ll make your session better, you’ll know where the poses are and won’t waste time. So find a good room for your best costumes if you can.
This not only helps when you need to use it but it’ll be fun exploring too. You can also do it the other way around, making a good costume for your favorite room. It might also just be an outfit that matches the colors of the room.
What makes IMVU more than a chat program?
Katy asked this question, “What makes IMVU more than a chat program?” this afternoon in the comments on the post about getting started in IMVU. She’ll probably have some more to add but I’ll try to answer this. I think she was comparing it to something like yahoo messenger or text messages. Part of the answer is obviously the visual component but I think there’s more to it than that.
I think it’s the variety and customizability of it that makes it feel so real that you start to associate with it to the point of being able to feel it. If you make it look like yourself and spend hours and hours with it, you really feel it on an emotional level. Just like when you are in a sexy pose even if you weren’t really in the mood but when you started, you almost can’t help but feel sexier. The visual aspect makes it feel more real and combined with the communication, creates often makes very powerful emotions.
The emotions are what makes this feel more real and so much more than just texting. It’s more than a game and more than chatting. I think it might have been Katy that described it as the early stages of the Holo Deck, from Star Trek. You really can go anywhere or do anything, and be anyone you want here. It’s less than real life, but it does feel real not in a physical way necessarily, but at least in an emotional way. The people are real and the emotions are real, even if you’re not really there.
We weren’t really flying but emotionally I think we were. This seems like as good of an example as any, to show why this is more than just chatting. But you also have to realize that this is a wonderful loving friend that I am extremely close to, too. It’s a absolutely amazing feeling to let your walls down and share this type of loving fantasy with someone you really care about.
Every day is so different but Friends are the best
After a night like I just had with 50 screaming cub scouts racing pinewood derby cars and screaming I sure miss my friends and the good insanity of this place so much. I am addicted to insanity. Or maybe it’s that I really need to escape some days. It started out when we dropped and broke his pinewood derby car on the way to the meeting. So we’re gluing it in the car on the way there and it just went down hill from there.
Maybe if I had to find a point in that this place can be so many different things that no matter what you happen to need at the moment, you can almost certainly get it here. Some days I want a crazy sexy adventure, and other times I just want a quiet conversation with a friend. There is such a huge variety of things in here you are never more than a click or two away from anything you can think of.
You can be a rock star in concert, dance with vampires, and then go hang gliding over a nude beach all within few minutes for almost nothing. It can be a raging spring break party or it can be a sanctuary of solitude. It can be anything you or anyone else can imagine. And it’s my job to do and share as much as I can with you about this crazy world. I originally came here to feel sexy and find more intimacy. I have that and more but I think it’s sort of interesting that just like the super rich in real life, even when you have so many exciting opportunities it’s still ultimately your friends that matter the most.
Just for fun, next time you’re at a Party
You use your imagination in here, so why not use it a little more in real life? If you’ve been in here I’m sure you have some good friends. The next time you go to a party or out to dinner or even shopping, imagine that these are your friends from IMVU. It works best at a night club or party with a lot of young people because the ages of people in here tends to be younger, more single like something you’d see at a night club or party. And people also tend to dress up and look their best there which makes it feel more like your IMVU friends. I did this a lot when I went to Bourbon Street in New Orleans.
I guess this isn’t much of a tip, it’s just something fun to do. It kind of makes things seem more real sometimes. I don’t cross over between IMVU and real life because I’d be in a lot of trouble and it would hurt my family. I’m certainly not going to be a porn star in real life but it’s fun to be able to let loose and feel that way sometimes in here. I think I’m good at this because I’m good at visualizing things and I guess I’m just saying it’s fun to visualize these things in real life, even if I have to keep them just in my head. Sometimes I admit that I am jealous of friends that can act out more in real life.
Music is on Sale – Half Priced
Music is on sale, half price till Thursday. I don’t usually mention sales except things that I really like. And I missed the last half priced sale. I’ve got a lot of music I was waiting to get. I will have to make a video how to set up music play lists soon too.
Keep your IMVU messages
Two tips about messages, well other than to send loving ones and to send them often. I don’t delete my messages because I’m lazy but also because if anything happens sometimes I find I have to find things or old gifts. It’s nice to have them available in a kind of time line, that you can look back through and see friends you might have lost track of. But there are two problems with messages in IMVU. They don’t have a date, and you can’t search them. Sometimes it’s important to know the date a message was sent or find all of the messages about a topic which you just can’t do at all in IMVU.
The second tip, I got from Katy and wish I learned a long time ago, is that you can get your messages via email. I was paranoid when I signed up so of course I said no emails for anything. And I didn’t even realize that getting my messages sent via email was an option. Even if you don’t want to see them or let them into your regular email, you can send them to a yahoo email address to create an automatic imvu message archive with a safe, secure third party. That solves the time and date issue, and makes them much more searchable. It doesn’t let you look through them and see who’s online the way IMVU does so I’ll still keep them there too.
If you think you might stay here for a while get a yahoo email address and send a copy of your messages there just in case you need them. It’s also a great way to protect yourself in case IMVU goes ballistic on you or your account gets hacked. If you had to start over you wouldn’t lose your messages and therefore could reinvite most of your friends.
Here is the link for your imvu email preferences
Another good resource is this form that Lets you send a message to anyone that hasn’t blocked you, even if they only accept messages from friends.
Your inner character shows on IMVU
In a place where you can be anyone you want to be it’s funny how the inner you comes out. Maybe it’s the ability to experiment so easily, to interact with such a variety of people, to feel such powerful emotions, or the freedom of anonymity, or more likely a combination of all of the above. But it’s so interesting to get to know someone and see how their inner character shows here in an almost physical magnetic kind of way in some people.
Whether it’s Katy’s brilliant heart and cuteness, Ally’s easy going playfulness, Wendy’s loving and poetic soul, Stephanie’s deep loving heart, HollyKaren’s inner strength or even Morgan’s emotion. I think the trick to this is also the secret to great intimacy, being able to just let your heart flow. Don’t be afraid to let your heart out and your personality shine. If you’re shy in real life this is your chance to change that. You’ll never find another place that lets you break out of the bonds that hold us every day. Don’t be afraid to ham it up, just be consistent and open and the more you let your heart out the deeper your friendships will be and the more honest you are the more real it will feel.
Has your Real Life gotten any sexier since Imvu?
Holly literally asked me this question last night. Coincidentally Sheri came in from quite an adventure and shared her story with me barely an hour later. She met her real life partner in imvu and they went to compete in an Amateur Night competition at a local strip club. She was very nervous and I think part of the fun of this was probably the build up and anticipating it too. But here’s her story. I’ll add something about my answer (which is kind of boring) in the comments because it’s nothing compared to Sheri’s sexy story.
As you know, my wife and I went to a strip club where they were having an open stage, we thought we were late, but actually got there 2 hours before it started, my wife dressed in Daisy dukes and a white button down shirt with the 2nd and 3rd buttoned and the rest tied into a bow with a old pair of tennis shoes. I wore a school girl outfit with Plaid skirt and a white top with a Plaid neck tie loose around my neck and a pair of Mary Janes with anklets, My hair was in pigtails with pink ribbons, There were 8 of us at the open stage we shared a hugh mirror with only 3 chair to put our make up on!
They announced us on stage 1 by 1 and they were playing really cheese music. All the fears I had on the way there Left me as soon as I got on stage! 2 of the girls were already down to their G strings within 5 minutes, I was going slow and flirting with the guys. I kept looking at my wife and I was really dancing for her! The guys there and a few girls I saw there were shouting out the names of their favorites girls on stage. I slowly pull my top over my head to expose my pink lace bra! While still swaying to the music I pulled the ribbons out of my hair as I let my hair fall round my shoulders and back!
Walking to the front of the stage I started shaking my breasts as I put my hands behind my back and unbuckle my bra and let it fall to the floor! I started to tease the guys that were standing in front of the stage! I then kicked my shoes off watching them spin in the air! I then put my hands on my skirt and started to wiggle to the music as I started to slide my skirt off me so slowly.
We started to dance closer to the end of the stage and the guys started to tuck bills in our g strings, One guy said his hand slipped and he grabbed my pussy! I acted cool cause I did not want to spoil the mood there! Every time a guy would tuck a bill id feel his fingers against my waist I would feel a bit wetter! After the strip part was over they had a vote to see who was first.
I came in second and my wife came in fifth. After the vote we were able to give lap dances and I had 3 that want me! After the place closed we were counting our winning in the dressing room! The Girl that came in first and I both had a business card wrapped around a 20. I won the bet I made with my wife on who would get the most money, I won by 15 dollars. I certainly didn’t do this for the money though. It so fun and even exciting to do it together with my wife.
Leave comments for Sheri (a regular reader and imvu friend) and tell us how imvu has made your life sexier too.
Women want to be seduced
The good news is that you can act like an idiot in here and still get lucky sometimes. Jimmy Buffet says it’s 5pm somewhere. It’s also 1 am somewhere and someone just came in from dancing and drinking and is horny and looking. A stopped clock is right twice a day. But if you want to get the best girls and want them to look for you and come back to you again, you have to be good. You don’t have to be great or be perfect, but you should try to be as good as you can.
Even if gorgeous women grow on trees in here, women want to be seduced. And if you play along and give them what they want, making them feel special and flirting and teasing them they will give you what you want getting more into it and will want to do it again and again. Flirt with and play with them, be confident but not arrogant, sexy but not degrading, keep talking, be descriptive and make them feel sexy, put emotion and passion and energy into it. Be creative and make it fun. Read a romance novel like 50 shades of Gray or some sexy stories online. These things take a little effort but you’ll get much more out of this if you do that, I promise.
How not to look for an IMVU Family
This was actually from about a week ago, and I didn’t get to publish it and I thought about it again today because I met Cyndia’s family today. They were great, and although there was certainly a wide variety in the people and characters, it was obvious that they were close and comfortable with each other.
It’s kind of interesting because you can tell how close people are by how hard it is to understand the conversation. The closer they are the more inside things are woven into their conversation and the more they just let things flow. But looking for and finding the right people to fit in with here is so cool. With that being said here’s how not to do it.
Guest_*removed*has joined the chat
Guest_*removed*: Heey
Kaitlyn: helloo
Kaitlyn: How are you today?
Guest_*removed*: Im Janessa
Kaitlyn: I’m Kait :)
Guest_*removed*: Nice to meet u
Guest_*removed*: Im Lookin for a family
Kaitlyn: you don’t do it this way.
Kaitlyn: you go out and go through rooms that sound interesting
Kaitlyn: find people you like and be a friend
Kaitlyn: you don’t ask for a family
Guest_*removed*: oh okaay
Kaitlyn: you find one you fit in and feel a part of one.
Kaitlyn: a family is just a recognition of your closeness to a group of people.
Kaitlyn: you become family by being such great friends
Kaitlyn: that there’s no other way to describe it.
Kaitlyn: and you don’t just ask for that, you have to be a real friend and that takes time.
Guest_*removed*: so u can help me
Kaitlyn: then you’ll find one.
Kaitlyn: one that you feel like you belong in.
Kaitlyn: It’s not something some can just do to you or give you.
Guest_*removed*: ty can u help em
Guest_*removed*: me’
Kaitlyn: I guess I thought maybe telling you how to do it WAS helping you.
Guest_*removed*: Okaay
Guest_*removed*: Ty
The single best thing you can do to meet sexy imvu girls
Someone said something to me yesterday, that I didn’t think much about at the time but realized is important. I said I like RP. He said he liked Roleplay but not Roleplaying. I understood what he meant by the context, meaning that he liked to play, but not the more serious type that makes it more than playing. I think some people need to realize the difference. Serious role playing, being a demon in a family of demons or vampires or a dom or sub is very different than just playing. It involves building a whole persona and taking on that person and BUILDING a character. RolePLAY is much simpler and less involved. It’s just acting out a sexy situation.
You can’t really have sex without roleplay. You’re not doing anything physically, you’re just talking it through in your head. You don’t have to get into it or be totally committed to it. You just play along. You don’t need exotic fancy costumes or to talk like a baby or a demon to do it. You just have to paint the picture with words, describing as vividly what you’re doing at the moment, as possible.
I would take it one step further and say that if I could only learn and use just one tactic in imvu, and wanted to maximize my opportunities and the quality of my IMVU encounters, it would be to role play aka play along more. Not creating a whole character, but playing. There is a tremendous range of directions you can go as you play, but in my opinion, this is clearly the best way to get the most out of your time here. If you’re standing there trying to get something started with that hot girl, stop staring and start playing.
Instead of saying wow, you look hot, say “I try to look away but find myself glancing back repeatedly mesmerized by your charms.” Next time you go into a room, don’t just type Hello. Say, “A (tall figure/curvy girl/attractive young woman/handsome traveler) slowly enters the room, waving a friendly acknowledgement to the others.”
Don’t think of it as Role Playing, think of it as Playing along. If you want to play with someone you’ve got to play along. Out of all the things you could do to increase your imvu fun factor just learning to play along, is probably the single most important helpful thing you could do. Here’s a good example of Role PLAY, playing along which a friend and I had earlier today. It wasn’t anything brilliant, but it takes some playing to
Love the person behind the keyboard
I’ve had the privilege of sitting in on some very interesting (and deep) conversations with HollyKaren recently and one of the comments she whispered to me at one point stuck with me. This seems kind of related to the last post, and the one before that, oh and the one before that even too. Maybe it’s a theme or even something bigger. Love the person behind the keyboard.
It’s an even more impressive when you realize that this was whispered in response to a discussion of drama. But maybe this is the lesson hidden in my to the trouble with Morgan. She was upset and lashing out a little. It happens and the cause isn’t the issue. The lesson is that the best response isn’t to respond at all, but to love the person behind the keyboard. That might seem too simple and it’s easier to say than do (as all good advice is). But it’s probably one of the most powerful tips not just for IMVU but for life.
