BDSM in IMVU

Let go of your restraints and enjoy a little imvu bdsm fun
I should start out by saying I’m one of the most conservative (yes and boring) people in real life. I’d never touch BDSM in real life and if I even looked at it my husband would probably freak out too. I warmed up to vampires and demons and a lot of things faster than bondage. But I’ve kind of figured it out here in a sense I think. This is a great place to experiment in a safe way with new things you’d never do in real life. And it’s all virtual so it’s COMPLETELY safe and the edginess does kind of make it fun if you really play it up.

I also think a lot of the best imvu fantasies involve a way or reason to let go of yourself and the usual restraint that you have (no pun intended). We are all told to behave and be good, and a fantasy is a great way to let go of that and let the bad animal side out. BDSM is a way to do that, to feel owned by someone else, made to please them or helpless to resist them. That feeling is exciting even to someone that would NEVER do any of this crap in real life. Maybe especially to someone who couldn’t do any of this, lol.

BDSM is also very visual and lends it self to imvu poses, the anonymity of this place and sometimes blatant sexuality. I kind of think of BDSM as in the cateogory of Stripping, Vampires, and Furries. It’s so IMVU that you almost have to try it at least a little, if you’re here for any length of time. I don’t want BDSM all the time, by any means. But if I can try it and have fun with it you probably can too, when you’re ready. Don’t rush because if you’re not comfortable there are a lot of other fun things you can do. You can have a great time here and never try this, but it is very powerful and sexy and popular for a reason.

5 responses

  1. quidlyn

    Yea, this is something I *never* thought I would like or try, and the feminist part of me used to scream and rage every time I let myself–or begged to be–tied up, but she has mostly given up. Someone very dear to me and very wise pointed out, feminism is about freedom and choice, and there should be no contradiction between feminism and bdsm. I like that idea a lot.

    February 5, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    • I think in here everything is so totally voluntary that the feminist voice saying you shouldn’t be forced to do something doesn’t really apply the same way. You’re here for fun and role playing and the sensation of playing something with such strong emotion is very powerful and fun. If relationships are built on shared emotions this can give you powerful emotions that definitely create very strong relationships. So I wouldn’t ever do this either in real life but like I said, in here it can be kind of fun. Then once you try it, the question becomes to tie or be tied? LOL

      Kisses, Kait!

      February 5, 2012 at 3:26 pm

  2. Wendy

    After reading your full story about bdsm I could reasonably have found myself complet inside your thoughts about it. Bdsm is I think for a lot of people a kind of fantasy and not everyone would let this known to each other. Especially when you know that your partner did not love bdsm. Everyone will have a fantasy sometimes about the fact that you are together with someone you love very much but can do nothing because you’re tied. Of course I have ever had that fantasy too frankly admit :). Last week I did my first look ever on imvu at a bdsm room. I do have one picked was empty so I could look around cautiously. I found it quite exciting really sniff around in there, even while you know when there’s a visit you only have to click and you can leave the room. Maybe I will surely have to do sometime, because I became quite curious to what to do :). Lol … and maybe even be your fantasy to be reflected. I have a lot to learn within IMVU I can really see that :)

    Love and kisses, Wendy

    February 26, 2012 at 3:55 am

    • A lot of things here took a while to get used to or build up to. This was definitely one of them, but I think a lot more people are kind of curious and want to play that fantasy here than want to admit it in real life. If you can’t explore a fantasy here where can you? So just take it one step at a time and enjoy the journey. And who knows, maybe one day!

      Kisses!
      Kait…

      February 26, 2012 at 5:22 am

  3. The problem with BDSM on IMVU is that it opens doors for people who are abusers. Ridiculous as it may seem, the basics of SSC (Sane, Safe, Consensual) should also be applied on online venues such as IMVU. I have seen too many people leaving IMV or getting deeply depressed because of online abuse which uses BDSM as a cover-up or a pretence.

    September 3, 2012 at 1:08 pm

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