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Kait’s IMVU guide and Virtual Relationship advice

IMVU is an insane place that’s all about chatting, dancing, meeting new people, beautiful sexy cartoons, shopping, sexy clothes, strip clubs, sexy poses and parties of every description, and of course lots of sex, all in a reasonably safe virtual way. The real secret that some people never figure out or that at least takes a long time to figure out, is that under all that, imvu is really about relationships. The variety of relationships in IMVU is as vast and diverse as the two million people from over 80 countries.

Virtual relationships here can also be amazingly powerful and develop much faster here in this crazy world than in real life, without all of the distractions and nuisances of real life. Unfortunately I couldn’t find any frank real world advice about IMVU or virtual relationships. So after talking about that long enough I decided it was time to try to put something helpful for the IMVU community together. I don’t work for IMVU or even know anyone that does. I just Love IMVU, and this is just one crazy MILF’s random collection of thoughts and experiences in here. I like taking pictures and making videos of IMVU and try to keep most of the more adult things in a Private Section with passwords, but there are a lot of Imvu Girls here and many of the images are pretty sexy and geared toward an adult audience.

I hope you enjoy it and I’d love to hear your comments or feedback. IMVU User Name: Kaitlyn (send a message before Adding me as a Friend)

Making the world smaller

snap03504IMVU is very international and it’s great to get to know and see things through friends all over the world. Looking at the statistics a moment ago I noticed something I thought was interesting. Even with all the turmoil we hear about there, the Ukraine was the third highest country by visitors today. It doesn’t really prove much but I just thought it was interesting how we can reach people all over the world. I pray for the people of the Ukraine and the Dutch and everyone who lost family and friends!

I see hidden things

kait xray glassesI don’t have X-ray vision or secret glasses but I know a couple little tricks that show hidden outfits and hidden products. It’s really absurdly easy to do. It only takes adding two keystrokes.

All you do to see the inventory in a room is right click in the room and select inventory. Then in the URL in your browser add -e after imvu before the .com and wait for the add and then hit skip and you can see the hidden outfits and products in the room.

You can do the same thing when you are looking at a developers catalog to see hidden things but it doesn’t let you buy them. Side note: if you’re a developer if you let your VIP expire for a month anything before then can’t be seen and is safe from prying eyes, though that means giving up your categories and whispering etc for a month, which I’m doing now.

The outfit trick is neat and I often open and save the inventory URL in case I ever want it. There are a lot of other great tools at imvu-e.com. It’s a great resource.

The combination of emotional and physical is powerful

loving imvu familyA lot of people stop at the physical side, because that’s what they’re used to with porn or something by themselves. IMVU is more than porn. Yes it’s a little less then real sex but if you really get into it it’s only a very little less. It can also create something that you don’t necessarily have in real sex after a while, that’s the emotional head over heels heart wrenching passion of falling deeply in love. You probably had it at least once in real life but in reality it doesn’t last forever for most of us.

Sure I love my husband but I’m not head over heels in love with him like I was when we first met. That’s nothing against him or us it’s just life. Real life isn’t quite a fairytale fantasy all the time. But this kind of can be.

sexy family timesSome relationships only have the emotional side, and that can be great. Some only have the physical side. Some people live in and never get out of that stage. The real magic though in IMVU comes when you are able to combine both sides!

The heartfelt intimacy and connection makes the passion more powerful. And powerful passion leads to more intimacy and even more of a connection. Either one is great but the combination is ubber powerful!

I didn’t get to say goodbye…

Usually I would not write something in personal on the blog of IMVU Tips but today, with tears in my eyes did I had strength enough to write something personal!

Last Wednesday evening I received a message from Frederique, my classmate for the past 4 years. Her message sounded so happy, she and her father were invited to visit a client’s location in Kuala Lumpur, just in time before we get to hear if we passed our school examination. Her last message to me said, “Wendy, until next week, a little exciting, but we will get that examination, really, see you soon xxx”.

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“Hello mum, bye daddy, bye grandpa, bye grandma, bye brother, bye sister, bye boyfriend, bye girlfriend.”

It sounded solid Thursday morning for a check in at flight MH17, Malaysia Airlines. An exuberant atmosphere, families with suitcases, young people with backpacks. Already wearing summer shorts, or even had their sunglasses on their heads to meet the sun.

“Happy holidays and, hey watch out”. One last hug and then run through the customs. Again they look back, again waving. They laugh, “Bye bye, we’ll meet you again in about three weeks”.

Screaming and excited they’re left unaware it would end tragically.

Nobody even had a thought that this could be the last time, the last hug, the last words! Would she still be angry about last week? Does he know how much I love him? Would she have known? Would it have hurt?

On July 17, 2014 at 12:14 departed flight MH17 from Malaysia Air, with 298 passengers for their destination to sunny Kuala Lumpur, to celebrate holidays, to visit family or to switch to another flight.

2.5 hours later the plane crashed in the Ukrain. At first, it wasn’t clear whether it was an accident or an attack, but no one survived the disaster.

Schiphol Amsterdam, the Netherlands – destination “death”.

“Hello mum, dad day, day grandpa, grandma day, day brother, sister day, day boyfriend, girlfriend day”, Frederique and father, rest in peace.

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Never go without saying goodbye,
never leave without a kiss.
Who will meet the fate,
can’t do it tomorrow.

Never go without talking,
that sometimes need a heart so much.
Of what you leave in the morning,
could be there at the evening no more.

IMVU Customer Service is nowhere to be found

bad-customer-service-3I filed a complaint about ongoing HARASSMENT in IMVU which their terms of service says specifically is not allowed. I filed it on June 30th, and since then I’ve called twice and used the Live Chat (which seems even more ineffective) and every time they promise to “escalate” it and I’ll get an answer within 24 hours. 18 days later, I’m still waiting for their first response. They haven’t even sent me their dumb form letter saying how sorry they are that I feel this way. Not a word for two and a half weeks.

I understand outsourcing your customer service, but you would think harassment would be one of the higher priorities, and yet despite repeated calls and chats they can’t even be bothered to reply let alone solve anything. IMVU’s a great system, but the company behind it is killing it, not to mention attacking their own customers. They’re quick to crucify their customers and slower than slow to respond to help them.

IMVU bans customers for LIFE for their own mistake

imvu blames users for trusting their systemA good friend of mine was recently banned for life, lost all his credits and everything without warning or appeal for IMVU’s own mistake. I’ve known him for probably close to two years, and he was a decent guy not looking for trouble. His crime was being intimate with someone that said they were 22 and had AP. It turned out that the girl had lied and was 16, and her mother threw a fit. IMVU rather than fix the system and require real age verification, they attacked their customer and said it was his fault and suspended him without any recourse, without any appeal at all.

I don’t talk much or get close to anyone without AP, or even anyone that shows 21 or less in most cases. I’ve taken flack for that and people aren’t happy if I don’t feel comfortable in talking to them, but AP is supposed to be there to protect everyone (adults as much as minors). If someone gets AP and shows that they’re older, unless you have a real reason to contrary you have to be able to rely on that. And if that turns out to be a minor that’s IMVU’s FAULT for giving them AP (which is supposed to be a pass to the adult side) and shouldn’t be yours.

Katy and SusanUnfortunately IMVU makes a lot of money off of minors in that gray area, and then even make money by banning their users, which is SICK. They could clearly fix the system and make it safer and prevent minors from getting AP if they wanted to, but they make money from it and therefore won’t. Instead they attack and blame their user who was trusting them steal everything he had without fixing anything. This is just one more example of why I say eventually you’ll HATE IMVU. IMVU Customer Service is worse than just bad, they attacks and retaliates against their own customers for complaining. It’s sad but it’s true.

Dispatches from the imvu scientist on Body Language

I’ve been thinking about imvu versus other ways to talk to people online for a  while. One of many things that can make imvu special… Body Language. A lot of how we perceive and interact with the world around us depends on our bodies. In fancy social psychology terms, we have “embodied intelligence.”

bl7A lot of recent experiments have shown the importance of body language. That we use cues from someone’s posture to detect their emotion more than their face. That we can make robots feel alive by giving them body language. That talking to someone on the phone when you just have a photograph of them versus no photograph or someone elses photograph leads to a very different conversation and experience. That just adopting strong body language before an interview makes you more confident and more likely to get the job. That the size and shape and even temperature of the room you meet someone in affects how you perceive that person.I think part of what makes imvu so powerful is that even though it only does this in little ways, they make a big difference.

1) Most obviously is just the items you buy, the clothes you wear, the skin, the face. All of this conveys a lot about you. Something people don’t think about as much is the Avatar you choose, which determines how you stand, how you sit. I think all of that conveys so much, often sub-consciously, about who you are.bl2

2) The dots you click on also matter a lot. There is choice. Little things, but how close you sit, standing versus sitting, cuddling, walking, the type of cuddle, all make a difference in the conversation.

3) Emotes. I think I use emotes a lot. Like a lot alot. Maybe too much. Like  ~smiles~ ~giggles~ ~laughs~ ~shrugs~ ~sighs~. Dunno. Pay attention to your body. It does all sorts of little things when you’re not thinking about it. Type it sometimes. I think sometimes gestures say a lot. Imvu encourages this a bit by animating things when you start a line with them: (e.g. here’s a list I found over the years: tired kiss bad good flip zzz score jump leap crazy who what when how sleep yes no nod ooo clap oooh mad ii yay ok loco hm hiya ooooo ag hiya k mad bd smile :) :P grr z  hmm choke ;) wink sexy)

bl64) Mirroring. A lot of social science has shown that when two people are in sync, their body language tends to start to mirror each other. The same has been shown for words. Two people in sync with each other start using the same words, phrases, styles. There are sites that compare how similar two people’s talking patterns are, to find out how in sync they are with each other.

Those are little things. But sometimes the most important body language is the kind you do with someone else, (not just the sexy times) but just being able to sit together, to dance, to hug, to hold, to cuddle, to place your hand casually on their arm, to run your fingers through their hair, those are the most powerful moments in this little world.

Congratulations Stephanie! We LOVE you!!

Riding off into the imvu LOVE with YOUTomorrow is a special day for one of the most special people I’ve had the privilege of getting to know in here. I wrote a long time ago about the magic of a Pure Heartfelt Connection and that’s truer than ever. And sharing that and feeling that with Stephanie has been one of the best things of all in IMVU. I’ve had the privilege and honor of sharing all of the emotion and excitement of an amazing real life fairytale love. And tomorrow she marries her real life prince charming.

I love her more than words can say, so I’ve collected several hundred pictures and a few videos to try and capture some of that love. No word or pictures could ever repay the love and happiness I’ve felt with her but I hope this gives you an idea. And Stephanie I’ll laugh and cry with you always. You’ll be awesome and like I’ve always said, You have AMAZING things ahead. This is just the beginning and even though I can’t be there with you physically, I want you to know I’m sooo there in spirit, happy dancing right beside you, and whispering in your ear. Ik hou van jou Stephanie

Here’s the link to download in HD
https://imvutips.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/stephanie-congratulations-and-we-love-you.wmv

Kait and Kris Wedding Pictures and Video

snuggling by the fire on the beach after weddingI wanted to put up and share the pictures of our IMVU wedding and a video of the vows. I’ll just link to the actual WMV file of our wedding video here because it’s hard to read the bubbles on the lower reserve version it plays. But the original in 720P is big 800megs for 30 minutes but gives you more of the experience of being there.

It was immensely powerful and touching for me and I wanted to share it with you. IMVU is nothing if not intense and emotional and it’ll touch your heart if you let it. I hope you can see how special not just the wedding but ALL of the people are to me!

Getting married right NOW!!

congratulations married page

Wow, super excited and nervous and anxious all at the same time. I’m worried about the size of the room and how many people can fit. So it’ll be important to have the link for JOINME readily available. If the link’s here it’s available. I’ll take it down when it’s not active any more.

Wow it was so wonderful!! Going to bed so happily married!!!

You’re Invited

Warm imvu kisses2I’ve been head over heels and floating ever since I met Kris and am so excited to invite you to our Wedding Sunday night at 10pm Pacific time June 29th. We can obviously only have so many people in the room but I’m doing something special, to share it all with everyone. I’ll post a link here before it starts so people can join and watch right though my computer. That means you’ll hear the whispers, see me type and everything I see. With the Joinme link, any computer can see and join and can even chat privately too.

I’ll post a video here afterwards with most of it, but this lets you join right in and share it even closer. I want to share this happiness and special time with everyone. So come back Sunday night and feel free to share the love. It’ll be a sexy fun special party for everyone! Thanks so much to all my friends and everyone that’s made this such an unbelievable time. Luv Yew!

Does IMVU Customer Service retaliate when people complain?

IMVU Customer Service Complaint Department
I filed a complaint at IMVU because the angel profile wasn’t AP and they took it down. The rep responded with an arrogant YES IT IS AP and I got two more anonymous complaints. Each time I put it back up. Hanna was apparently away for a couple days and when she got back, she responded to my ticket and I got a fourth complaint. A couple days later, I write back and suddenly get the fifth “anonymous” complaint.

I’ve had a lot of sexier profile pics since I started here and in three years only got a couple complaints. Now nine days I have FIVE complaints about one of the least offensive pictures I’ve used. I haven’t had any issues with people, I’m about to get married in here. Things have never been better. The only issue I’ve had has been with Hanna in IMVU Customer Service. And every time I add to the complaint ticket or get a response I get another complaint.

be very careful complaining about imvuDoes this prove it’s from IMVU, I don’t know. IMVU is the most closed, anti customer organization I’ve ever dealt with. They don’t tell you what was wrong, who said it was wrong, or give you any appeal process. And it seems like if you do say anything to them, you mysteriously keep getting attacked. I wouldn’t assume it’s all IMVU reps or their policy, but I guess we’ll find out based on how they respond. If they bury it, and insist it has to remain “anonymous” there’s probably a reason for that and it’s probably either sanctioned or part of their policy or so prevalent that they don’t want to admit it. If that’s not the company attitude they will open up and be more forthcoming.

If the company does show the details of the complaints I won’t do anything to that person and promise to respond respectfully and in love. My family name is LYN which means Love Your Neighbor, and I’ll respond as such. But to do this to one of their biggest supporters is just stupid beyond measure. I’m boycotting the company, not buying any more credits for myself or friends and adding to the complaint section of the website as much as possible in the mean time.

The only reason I’m in IMVU is the people, and my friends. Otherwise I would already be in 2nd Life!

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