It's a mix of one crazy MILF's experiences, IMVU tips & Relationship stuff.
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Kait’s IMVU guide and Virtual Relationship advice

IMVU is an insane place that’s all about chatting, dancing, meeting new people, beautiful sexy cartoons, shopping, sexy clothes, strip clubs, sexy poses and parties of every description, and of course lots of sex, all in a reasonably safe virtual way. The real secret that some people never figure out or that at least takes a long time to figure out, is that under all that, imvu is really about relationships. The variety of relationships in IMVU is as vast and diverse as the two million people from over 80 countries.

Virtual relationships here can also be amazingly powerful and develop much faster here in this crazy world than in real life, without all of the distractions and nuisances of real life. Unfortunately I couldn’t find any frank real world advice about IMVU or virtual relationships. So after talking about that long enough I decided it was time to try to put something helpful for the IMVU community together. I don’t work for IMVU or even know anyone that does. I just Love IMVU, and this is just one crazy MILF’s random collection of thoughts and experiences in here. I like taking pictures and making videos of IMVU and try to keep most of the more adult things in a Private Section with passwords, but there are a lot of Imvu Girls here and many of the images are pretty sexy and geared toward an adult audience.

I hope you enjoy it and I’d love to hear your comments or feedback. IMVU User Name: Kaitlyn (send a message before Adding me as a Friend)

Take Human Bites

Lil Fairy LoveWhen we chat we talk in short sentences or phrases. We don’t always punctuate everything or spell everything perfectly and we don’t talk in full paragraphs. So when you talk in ceremonies, weddings or things, even if you’re copying and pasting do it in smaller bites. It gives it more of a spoken feel and makes it feel more real and a better rhythm.

When you write in smaller blocks, it fits into the bubbles better, and you know you’re going at the right pace. If you paste a big block it’s harder to know how fast the user is reading and it’s easy to go to fast or too slow. And if you paste more than two bubbles it doesn’t show the whole thing in the bubbles. I like to video things and like to watch the bubbles in a crowded room because it’s easier to follow the thread and the right person.

If you’re copying and pasting, it’s really not much more effort to copy and paste a few more times. It’s not a big thing, but its especially important for screen shots and videoing because you only see the bubbles. This is just one of my pet peeves and I have it in a list of tips for IMVU weddings but not in its own post. So remember take Human Bites! I also like vampires too, so it works that way too ;)

IMVU is like Living in Disney World

IMVU is Adult DisneyI just got back from Disney World and can’t help but make a comparison here with IMVU. For me IMVU isn’t just like going to Adult Disney World. It’s not even like getting a season pass for the Adult Disney World. It’s like falling in love with the top ride designers, and living out every fantasy you can imagine with people actively trying to design the most amazing things ever, all to make you crazy head over heels in love! That’s all it is. And guess what, it totally works!

Katy bee dancin her ass offThey think I do a lot, I just ride and have the absolute time of my life!! And Love them more than I ever thought was even possible! That’s all… It’s just being head over heels with the most amazing people who constantly push your buttons and seem to be able to make you more and more in love every day… ALWAYS!

Then it’s sharing your heart and soul with the Queen of Happiness and better friendships than you ever had in real life. It’s more than passion, it’s honestly loving and sharing friendships, laughter, and tears. It’s almost unlimited sexy clothes, music and people that want to love and be with you all over the place. The only downside is there’s never enough time to see it all. It never closes and never gets old. It just gets better and better every day! It’s totally addicting and gets better and better every day.

Road Trip

road trip

The summer is almost over but I’m on my way to Disney World with my real life family. Its nice to get away but I miss everyone here.

IMVU is a No-fault state

swing your partner round an round In the USA some states are no fault states.  That means they don’t determine fault in an auto accident.  IMVU Is the same way. No matter what happens, if you have to leave quickly, or your partner crashes or says the wrong thing or is away for a while… Anything like that, you can’t blame anyone.  It’s just part of the flexibility you have to have in here.

It’s nice to say you’re sorry if something happens, but if they don’t don’t place any fault. Everything is so voluntary here if you blame someone or hold somebody responsible and give them a hard time, it’ll only hurt you and your relationship with them.

So try to be very excepting, and nonjudgmental. That’s a good word for this place, non-judgmental.  You can’t judge anybody about basically anything in here. For better or worse, It’s kind of the wild West in some ways, in that anything goes!

No matter what the issue is remember the one answer and response that you need to have, is to love the other person more than anyone else! If you always have that attitude it will always be fun and things will work out in the end.

warm imvu cuddle and loveThis is a little different with the IMVU corporation though. While nothing is ever their fault, you will certainly be blamed for anything and everything, whether it’s your fault or not.  You can follow their terms of service to the letter and still be attacked over and over again and don’t ever expect the IMVU customer service to do anything but attack and blame you!

You can prove that they are wrong and they will simply ignore it and continue to blame you until you give up and admit that YOU were wrong.  I don’t want to vent too much about them in this post, because this isn’t a complaint but trust me on this.  You will eventually hate the IMVU corporation.

My discussion with “Jeff” the Head of Customer Service at IMVU

head of customer service at imvu
Dear Jeff,

Thank you for taking the time to talk to me, but like I said at the end, thanks for NOTHING! Because you and IMVU clearly don’t care about your customers or your community. I guess what they say about absolute power corrupting absolutely, is true here as well. Oh that’s not totally true. Thank you for giving me permission to post the video.

Kaitlyn: I don’t mean the text
Kaitlyn: I mean the full video
Jeff: ok.

Direct link for the original higher quality and more readable bubbles: https://imvutips.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/hour-long-discussion-with-jeff-director-of-customer-service-at-imvu-2014-07-29.wmv

Unfortunately nobody’s “Judgement” is perfect and I understand that. You yourself said it’s an “inexact science.” The problem is that you don’t have any way to deal with this gray area other than attacking the customer until you beat them into submission and force them to not only follow the Minimum Coverage Guidelines, (MCG) but your “judgement” which you can’t define or test for. The regular customer service reps don’t even want to admit it’s a “judgement call” and that isn’t mentioned in the Terms of Service or the messages when you take down a profile pic. You only quote the MCG and Terms of Service even though you can’t tell if the picture follows it or not.

Yes people do like IMVU, but eventually everyone hates the company that enforces rules but doesn’t follow them, and acts like GOD. A real customer service rep would have apologized and diffused the situation, not attacked and insisted the customer was wrong with form letters. I love the people in here, I like the system, but I HATE the company and their (your) GOD complex, and your consistent approach of just attacking the customer and acting like there is no gray area, but they’re just wrong. You say it’s an “inexact science” in your first messageyet you don’t have any way to appeal this mysterious “judgement” or “inexact science” and don’t have any way to allow for mistakes or anything in the gray area, other than attacking the customer and saying they’re wrong until they go away. And you wonder why people don’t like imvu customer service or the company?

I thought as the Head of Customer Service at IMVU you’d be more than a robot, simply saying the customer is wrong, the customer is wrong, the customer is wrong. You disappoint me and only reinforce why I hate the company. Maybe that’s a good thing because there has to be some place for people to voice their frustration about IMVU. Like I said “Thanks for NOTHING!”

Dispatches from an IMVU Scientist: Making RL better!

prof-kaitWe often worry about not letting imvu interfere with rl but a good friend of mine thought imvu helped her do better with her rl relationships by making her more open and communicative. How true! Here are some ways recently that I thought about on a recent trip to the Carribean:

1) Communication is key – to everything… Too often we hide what we really mean, sometimes to protect the other person’s feelings. But at least in my book, more communication is always better.

island2) Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want…. I have this problem that I don’t like asking for things. I don’t want to impose. I think of that Mel Gibson movie, What Women Want, where it takes a man getting magical powers (from a toaster of all places) to read women’s thoughts, to make them happy because girls often don’t say. So like #1, communicate. (I’m embarrassed to admit what I learned to ask for that made me think of this. But feel free to ask. It was totally only something that I got used to asking for on imvu before I was able to ask for it in rl.)

3) Be sexually adventurous. Imvu gives you so many ways to push boundaries. Explore in a safe environment. Last month, in our little island trip, we had a little bungalow, with a private pool on the deck (basically a glorified bath tub but still), it was hidden by trees but still public and I did things I would never have imagined myself doing just a couple years ago.

sz-swt4) Be aware of other’s feelings, validate them before stating your own– I mean, this is not just an imvu thing. A friend of mine who has been separated from her husband for like 4 years but still trying to make things work, said that was the biggest thing she learned from counseling. That in a fight, before you make your own point, its important to validate the feelings of the other person. That was the best piece of advice I got from my brother’s ex-‘s mother who was a life coach years ago, but imvu has given me lots of practice. In a fight, we worry so much about our own point of view, because we just want to be heard. So one good way to calm the tension is to make sure the other person knows they are heard. Tell them you get it. That’s usually all any of us want.

Making the world smaller

snap03504IMVU is very international and it’s great to get to know and see things through friends all over the world. Looking at the statistics a moment ago I noticed something I thought was interesting. Even with all the turmoil we hear about there, the Ukraine was the third highest country by visitors today. It doesn’t really prove much but I just thought it was interesting how we can reach people all over the world. I pray for the people of the Ukraine and the Dutch and everyone who lost family and friends!

I see hidden things

kait xray glassesI don’t have X-ray vision or secret glasses but I know a couple little tricks that show hidden outfits and hidden products. It’s really absurdly easy to do. It only takes adding two keystrokes.

All you do to see the inventory in a room is right click in the room and select inventory. Then in the URL in your browser add -e after imvu before the .com and wait for the add and then hit skip and you can see the hidden outfits and products in the room.

You can do the same thing when you are looking at a developers catalog to see hidden things but it doesn’t let you buy them. Side note: if you’re a developer if you let your VIP expire for a month anything before then can’t be seen and is safe from prying eyes, though that means giving up your categories and whispering etc for a month, which I’m doing now.

The outfit trick is neat and I often open and save the inventory URL in case I ever want it. There are a lot of other great tools at imvu-e.com. It’s a great resource.

The combination of emotional and physical is powerful

loving imvu familyA lot of people stop at the physical side, because that’s what they’re used to with porn or something by themselves. IMVU is more than porn. Yes it’s a little less then real sex but if you really get into it it’s only a very little less. It can also create something that you don’t necessarily have in real sex after a while, that’s the emotional head over heels heart wrenching passion of falling deeply in love. You probably had it at least once in real life but in reality it doesn’t last forever for most of us.

Sure I love my husband but I’m not head over heels in love with him like I was when we first met. That’s nothing against him or us it’s just life. Real life isn’t quite a fairytale fantasy all the time. But this kind of can be.

sexy family timesSome relationships only have the emotional side, and that can be great. Some only have the physical side. Some people live in and never get out of that stage. The real magic though in IMVU comes when you are able to combine both sides!

The heartfelt intimacy and connection makes the passion more powerful. And powerful passion leads to more intimacy and even more of a connection. Either one is great but the combination is ubber powerful!

I didn’t get to say goodbye…

Usually I would not write something in personal on the blog of IMVU Tips but today, with tears in my eyes did I had strength enough to write something personal!

Last Wednesday evening I received a message from Frederique, my classmate for the past 4 years. Her message sounded so happy, she and her father were invited to visit a client’s location in Kuala Lumpur, just in time before we get to hear if we passed our school examination. Her last message to me said, “Wendy, until next week, a little exciting, but we will get that examination, really, see you soon xxx”.

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“Hello mum, bye daddy, bye grandpa, bye grandma, bye brother, bye sister, bye boyfriend, bye girlfriend.”

It sounded solid Thursday morning for a check in at flight MH17, Malaysia Airlines. An exuberant atmosphere, families with suitcases, young people with backpacks. Already wearing summer shorts, or even had their sunglasses on their heads to meet the sun.

“Happy holidays and, hey watch out”. One last hug and then run through the customs. Again they look back, again waving. They laugh, “Bye bye, we’ll meet you again in about three weeks”.

Screaming and excited they’re left unaware it would end tragically.

Nobody even had a thought that this could be the last time, the last hug, the last words! Would she still be angry about last week? Does he know how much I love him? Would she have known? Would it have hurt?

On July 17, 2014 at 12:14 departed flight MH17 from Malaysia Air, with 298 passengers for their destination to sunny Kuala Lumpur, to celebrate holidays, to visit family or to switch to another flight.

2.5 hours later the plane crashed in the Ukrain. At first, it wasn’t clear whether it was an accident or an attack, but no one survived the disaster.

Schiphol Amsterdam, the Netherlands – destination “death”.

“Hello mum, dad day, day grandpa, grandma day, day brother, sister day, day boyfriend, girlfriend day”, Frederique and father, rest in peace.

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Never go without saying goodbye,
never leave without a kiss.
Who will meet the fate,
can’t do it tomorrow.

Never go without talking,
that sometimes need a heart so much.
Of what you leave in the morning,
could be there at the evening no more.

IMVU Customer Service is nowhere to be found

bad-customer-service-3I filed a complaint about ongoing HARASSMENT in IMVU which their terms of service says specifically is not allowed. I filed it on June 30th, and since then I’ve called twice and used the Live Chat (which seems even more ineffective) and every time they promise to “escalate” it and I’ll get an answer within 24 hours. 18 days later, I’m still waiting for their first response. They haven’t even sent me their dumb form letter saying how sorry they are that I feel this way. Not a word for two and a half weeks.

I understand outsourcing your customer service, but you would think harassment would be one of the higher priorities, and yet despite repeated calls and chats they can’t even be bothered to reply let alone solve anything. IMVU’s a great system, but the company behind it is killing it, not to mention attacking their own customers. They’re quick to crucify their customers and slower than slow to respond to help them.

IMVU bans customers for LIFE for their own mistake

imvu blames users for trusting their systemA good friend of mine was recently banned for life, lost all his credits and everything without warning or appeal for IMVU’s own mistake. I’ve known him for probably close to two years, and he was a decent guy not looking for trouble. His crime was being intimate with someone that said they were 22 and had AP. It turned out that the girl had lied and was 16, and her mother threw a fit. IMVU rather than fix the system and require real age verification, they attacked their customer and said it was his fault and suspended him without any recourse, without any appeal at all.

I don’t talk much or get close to anyone without AP, or even anyone that shows 21 or less in most cases. I’ve taken flack for that and people aren’t happy if I don’t feel comfortable in talking to them, but AP is supposed to be there to protect everyone (adults as much as minors). If someone gets AP and shows that they’re older, unless you have a real reason to contrary you have to be able to rely on that. And if that turns out to be a minor that’s IMVU’s FAULT for giving them AP (which is supposed to be a pass to the adult side) and shouldn’t be yours.

Katy and SusanUnfortunately IMVU makes a lot of money off of minors in that gray area, and then even make money by banning their users, which is SICK. They could clearly fix the system and make it safer and prevent minors from getting AP if they wanted to, but they make money from it and therefore won’t. Instead they attack and blame their user who was trusting them steal everything he had without fixing anything. This is just one more example of why I say eventually you’ll HATE IMVU. IMVU Customer Service is worse than just bad, they attacks and retaliates against their own customers for complaining. It’s sad but it’s true.

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