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Kait’s IMVU guide and Virtual Relationship advice

IMVU is an insane place that’s all about chatting, dancing, meeting new people, beautiful sexy cartoons, shopping, sexy clothes, strip clubs, parties of every description, and of course lots of sex, all in a reasonably safe virtual way. The real secret that some people never figure out or that at least takes a long time to figure out, is that under all that, imvu is really about relationships. The variety of relationships is as vast and diverse as the two million people from over 80 countries.

Virtual relationships here can also be amazingly powerful and develop much faster here in this crazy world than in real life, without all of the distractions and nuisances of real life. Unfortunately I couldn’t find any frank real world advice about IMVU or virtual relationships. So after talking about that long enough I decided it was time to try to put something helpful for the IMVU community together. I don’t work for IMVU or even know anyone that does. This is just one crazy MILF’s random collection of thoughts and experiences in here. I try to keep most of the more adult things in a Private Section with passwords, but many of the images are pretty sexy and geared toward an adult audience.

I hope you enjoy it and I’d love to hear your comments or feedback. IMVU User Name: Kaitlyn (send a message before Adding me as a Friend)

December 6, 2011 | Categories: About Me | Tags: imvu, relationships | 5 Comments »

Guys don’t assume too much

I’ve said before not to ask for pics or webcam when you first meet someone, but even more than that, don’t assume because you are intimate that she wants to be intimate with you constantly because she did one time. Don’t assume because she played your love slave she wants to be your love slave permanently. And don’t ask her to be your girlfriend after one conversation or encounter.

It would be rude to say after being intimate with someone that they weren’t that great or that they weren’t anything special. It’s also equally wrong for a guy to immediately assume they are the best she’s ever had too or that she wants to do more than what you just did. If you want more you have to MAKE her want more. Send notes and or gifts and make her want to please you, share some of your heart but not all of it, and make it fun with sexy creative rooms, and make her laugh.

Don’t ask her to be your slave, make her want to be your IMVU slave. Everything here is voluntary and they can disappear and block you with a click. The only thing you have to keep even someone you’re married or committed to in here is your love and making them want to stay. Don’t ever stop making them want to stay or the whirlwind of IMVU will start pulling them away.

February 23, 2012 | Categories: For GUYS | Tags: commitment, Imvu slave, love | Leave A Comment »

The human soul longs to be connected

If a computer is much more powerful when it’s connected to other computers and the brain is a computer, is it any surprise that people feel better the more connected to other people they are?

I see that so clearly in my 14 year old daughter that sleeps with her cell phone and myself in here. It’s kind of strange but whether it’s messages in my inbox here, yahoo messenger or comments on the website the more I communicate the better I feel and the more I want to communicate.

Imvu is just one more way you can connect with people. The surprising thing to me is how powerful the emotional connection can be. Another surprising thing is how it literally gets easier and to let your walls down, then of course how addicting it becomes.

February 22, 2012 | Categories: Virtual Relationships | Tags: relationships, connections, brain | 1 Comment »

Calling all Imvu Girls

I wrote a post titled “Imvu Girls” the other day after talking with someone about Internet marketing. It’s a popular query so I thought it would be smart to write about and see if I can rank for that term. I put up a short post about it with pictures of Gabby (and Katy) and now a few links and a month later that page is ranked 7 or 8 on google for the term Imvu Girls, which is awesome since the first two are imvu, and then the next three are videos, so it’s number 2 or 3 after that.

I’m sure that’s because Google realizes that my best friends are the best girls in IMVU of course. So I wanted to brag for a moment but also say that if anyone else wants their pic up there it’s GIRLS, not GIRL so I could include more if you wanted ;-) This is your website too and I want to include a few more friends and even future friends. You can put them in an album and tell me to download them or email them to me at Kaitlyn.imvu@yahoo.com. Sharing is the fun of of this, both in Imvu and the website too.

February 21, 2012 | Categories: Friends | Tags: friends, girls, imvu girls | 3 Comments »

Twice as good with IMVU Twins

One of the most amazing things about this crazy place is the degree of connection you can develop with people. And with some people this seems an almost impossibly powerful. We have been experimenting on a couple very special sets of twins and seem to have expanded dramatically the already exhausting biological connection.

Our testing has been extremely promising and we’re ready for the first field tests. Each twin will take the experimental drug before sexual activity. We are studying how much their twin can experience and feel when the other twin has sex. It works best with the twin in the room or at least nearby. Some subjects are reported to experience 100% of the effect of their twin and so people claim that the drug heightens all feelings during sex so this looks very promising however significant additional testing is planned. Test subjects must be prepared to have a hot imvu threesome too because it really is twice as good with twins.

February 20, 2012 | Categories: Fantasies | Tags: fantasies, imvu twins, threesome | 5 Comments »

An IMVU Conversation about what girls look for.

Did you ever wish you could be a fly on the wall listening to the private conversations about what IMVU girls look for? This was totally unplanned but I talk about a lot of stuff with my girlfriends and this wound up being such an interesting discussion I thought I’d just keep it in conversation form. I took off a little bit of pleasantry up front and edited one or two typos. I added a link or two, to posts that I’ve written about those topics, too, but other than a word or two, this is just a candid conversation about what women look for.

My friend mentioned an interview process which intrigued me and started the conversation. I cut it off when it turned to talking about specific people and things. Who the conversation was with isn’t important but she is gorgeous and has been here for several years. She’s been here quite a bit longer than me and I enjoyed hearing some of the same things I’ve found and learned from it too. And lets continue the conversation if it sparks any thoughts back to you.

Click the title, the picture above, or here to see the full conversation…

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February 19, 2012 | Categories: For GUYS | Tags: communication, conversation, imvu girls, meeting people | 3 Comments »

IMVU Sex Slave Fantasy RP

This is a different kind of intro. It’s something you can just say on the fly whispering or out loud.

You notice the attractive blonde standing quietly almost coyly watching like she’s waiting for something.

You look more closely for something you can ask her about or use to break the ice when you notice her necklace says Sex Slave.

You compliment her and see her shiver and moan silently.

Smiling and feeling brave you ask, So does that mean you have to obey?

Nod nod

(As a sex slave I get great pleasure from compliments and from doing what I’m told.)

February 18, 2012 | Categories: Fantasies | Tags: fetishes, Imvu slave, role playing | 4 Comments »

What is the IMVU Customer Support Phone Number?

the billing and customer support number for imvu is 866-761-0975

I love the IMVU Corporation, but I do NOT work for them and have to be honest. I’ve never seen a company that seems to care less about it’s customer at times. I’m not trashing them, but my personal experience with them has been less than perfect. It seems to me, like they tend to act like they’re god and the customer is never right. Their toll-free (in the US) telephone number is: 866-761-0975. The only local number I could find is 650-646-3244. They want you to open a trouble ticket for things rather than talking on the phone but if you’re able to talk on the phone that seems to work much better in my experience than trouble tickets, although if it’s not a billing issue they try to push you to just a trouble ticket.

I have found that if you politely and patiently persist and refuse to give up, they sometimes relent because I think they may get graded by the amount of calls they handle. So if you take forever they might feel more pressure to resolve it for you. This may not be easy if you’re outside of the US, but you might be able to use Skype or a service like that to access their toll free number and call them inexpensively. Unfortunately it’s never easy to deal with them and they act a little like a monopoly so good luck with any issue.

February 17, 2012 | Categories: FAQs | Tags: imvu corporation | 6 Comments »

IMVU Dances

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imvu dancing girls

One of the things I try to do in this blog is capture and show some of the magic of IMVU. It’s so hard to share that with the outside world. They can only see the pixels. I took a few pictures of the dancing the last night or two. It’s nice but I still have a feeling that you can’t really feel it as much watching it from the outside because you won’t appreciate how much you associate yourself with the pixels. I watch this and feel the room spinning, the warmth of it and her hand in mine. I know it sounds a little silly to the rest of the world but I think the people that matter will enjoy and feel it. I guess the point of this post is just to show one more small sliver of the magic.

February 17, 2012 | Categories: IMVU Basics | Tags: dancing, imvu girls, videos | 3 Comments »

Backup your Friends

I’m like you, I don’t back things up regularly. But when something happens to a friend I suddenly think about it again. And two incidents recently reminded me of the importance of backing up your friends. A good friend, Tammy was disabled and disappeared out of the blue and nobody ever heard a word. If you haven’t experienced this it’s the most horrible experience. IMVU can be such huge dicks sometimes.

Another friend had an issue with someone who got her password and unfriended everyone on her. Things happen, and thats when you suddenly realize that you can replace credits and rooms and clothing, but if you lose your friends you may have a real hard time getting them back. My name Kaitlyn is pretty easy but most names here are really hard to remember, especially when you’re crying.

So take just a minute and make screen shots, capturing an image of your friends page. Page down and make as many images as necessary. You’ll probably never use or even look at these. Just save them somewhere in case anything ever happens. IMVU is all about relationships and losing some of those relationships is very painful. I’m backing my friends up today and hope you do too. I hope you never need this but if you do I hope you have it. It’s free and only takes a minute to do.

February 16, 2012 | Categories: IMVU Tips | Tags: friends, safety | 2 Comments »

You don’t want the drama from here in real life.

IMVU can be crazy, there’s no doubt about that. And as much as you might want real life, you have to be careful because if the craziness of this place spills over into your real life it can be very difficult to say the least. The emotions in here are so strong, love so free flowing, and the soap opera ness of it almost can’t be helped at times. The emotions are real but there’s a reason why real life is the way it is and why this place is the way it is too. Being the way you are in real life here isn’t easy and being the way you are here in real life will cause problems too.

Nobody looks down on anyone in here. In fact it’s quite the opposite. Your friends here are real people too and they love you and know you are a great cherished real person too. Don’t take the loving feeling we share here to be anything wrong or hurtful, it’s not at all. Remember that you can always take a break or leave and come back after a while. Hold on and put off any major decision until you’re not in the middle of the emotion but don’t be afraid to step back from the emotion.

February 15, 2012 | Categories: drama | Tags: crazy, drama, imvu drama, real life | 2 Comments »

Is IMVU Bad or Fake?

Is email or texting less effective than talking or evil because you’re not actually talking to someone? Is it fake or stupid because you don’t really see the person you’re talking to? It certainly doesn’t replace talking to people in real life. You could say that email is fake or facebook friends are fake in a sense. I feel closer and more connected to friends on here than ones that I email with. There are people that get carried away with it and take it too far and spend too much time doing that. You could say that IMVU is more sexual, but a lot of people say that facebook has ruined their marriage when they hooked back up with people through it. So is facebook evil or bad?

The answer is that it’s not if you use it reasonably. Anything can be damaging or bad if you use it wrong or overdo it. Fast food or even vitamins can be bad for you if you don’t eat anything else. But that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to eat any fast food or vitamins. Yes, IMVU is addicting, but playing online games is addicting too. There are a lot of situations where IMVU can be really beneficial for people, giving them a social life that they wouldn’t have been able to have as much otherwise. I guess anything that is beneficial and so much fun is going to be addicting to some degree. And if you abuse anything it can have a downside.

I admit that I probably spend too much time on here. But the incredible fun and gratification you get here is still better for me than anything else, even when I divide it by the number of hours I’m here. So as long as it doesn’t cross over into real life, and I’m not spending too much money or taking too much time away from my family to hurt things significantly here, I think it’s a good thing. We are off the edge of the map to some degree, doing something so new that there really aren’t always answers. I guess that’s part of the reason I started this to try and figure these things out a little.

This is just one view though and there are probably as many different answers to this as there are different situations. So this is one post I think a number of people will be able to wade in on and add some perspective to.

February 15, 2012 | Categories: FAQs | Tags: abuse, fake, imvu, imvu addiction, safety | 1 Comment »

A Great Gift Message

I just wanted to share a great note I just got. It was from Quidlyn and it’s great because it paints such a vivid picture in your mind and gives such a warm loving feeling. Its a great example of how the right note makes a gift incredibly special.

…a rainbowed butterfly comes floating by, carrying a note dropped to your hand. the parchment thick, wax seal affixed, bearing the letter K, the script of some dream land. You carefully remove the seal, unfolding the square letter, revealing a sprinkling of gold stars inside. A sudden wind gust lifts the confetti into the air, swirling you within a cloud of sparkles. In careful calligraphic script, the note reads… Instructions: 1) Throw arms around self, squeezing tight. 2) Close eyes. 3) Imagine my arms holding you tight. Thank you so much for your lovely gift. Please find pinki to keep you company when I cannot be around.

When you this much creativity and effort into it, it makes the gift so much more special and makes them feel good and feel good about you.

February 14, 2012 | Categories: Fun Messages | Tags: butterflies, gifts, imvu gifts, messages | 4 Comments »